Count on me only if u have a clear questionHi im rebecca amd i really need a person who can help me out with relationship advice?? any one???
Step 1: Introduce yourself
Step 2: Ask about his/her hobbies, explain your hobbies.
Step 3: Organise a date with a couple of your friends. (Movies or whatever)
Step 4: Keep organising dates over the year.
Step 5: Organise a date with just you and him/her and none of your friends.
Step 6: Take a step further and kiss him.
Step 7: Continue from there.Hi im rebecca amd i really need a person who can help me out with relationship advice?? any one???
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Your question is not clear,are you looking to get into one or get out of one
What question do u have. its either, trust him or he needs to trust u or just find a new man
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Relationship advice for break up.?
I'm been going out with a boy for 5 years. He was my first everything. I'm only 21 by the way. We're recently on a break but every time I meet some one else I push them away and find all their flaws. I don't know why I do this. I did this too before I met him. And when they don't show interest in me anymore, I try to talk to them again. I don't know why I do this but I really want to get over him and start dating other people but I don't know how to overcome this.Relationship advice for break up.?
I was in the same boat. I dated a guy for 6 years and was only 22 when we broke up. We were engaged to be married. My best advice is live for yourself. Do things that YOU want to do. Don't worry about dating other people yet. Go out with the girls. Go shopping, flirt, laugh a lot, golf (lol), seriously pick up a sports hobbie. Something you are good at. Enjoy being single and finding yourself.Relationship advice for break up.?
Sounds to me that you like what you can't have. That's something you'll have to try and get over yourself. Just realize that not everyone is going to be ';perfect';, everyone is going to have something you don't like about them. Or maybe the problem is you still have feelings for your ex? If so, try erasing him from you life, delete his phone number, his facebook/myspace. I've been through the same thing and this is the only thing that helped me get over her.
Good luck!
I was in the same boat. I dated a guy for 6 years and was only 22 when we broke up. We were engaged to be married. My best advice is live for yourself. Do things that YOU want to do. Don't worry about dating other people yet. Go out with the girls. Go shopping, flirt, laugh a lot, golf (lol), seriously pick up a sports hobbie. Something you are good at. Enjoy being single and finding yourself.Relationship advice for break up.?
Sounds to me that you like what you can't have. That's something you'll have to try and get over yourself. Just realize that not everyone is going to be ';perfect';, everyone is going to have something you don't like about them. Or maybe the problem is you still have feelings for your ex? If so, try erasing him from you life, delete his phone number, his facebook/myspace. I've been through the same thing and this is the only thing that helped me get over her.
Good luck!
Relationship advice needed from intelligent women:?
I got in a very bad fight with my fiance (together for 2 1/2 years) last Sunday. We both overreacted. I was mean and later she said she was scared even though nothing physical came close to happening. The next morning I profusely apologized, but she said one of us had to go for a while, because she needed space. She said the apologies just made her angrier. I packed my bag and have been staying at a friends.
She called me on Wed. about something trivial, and then after talking to her for a bit, she let me know how angry, hurt and upset she felt. She told me she didn't want to see anyone else, but didn't care what i did (she said follow my conscience) and that the dogs missed me. Then I thanked her for communicating with me, but she said not to call her unless I needed something. I sent her an email telling her I appreciated her viewpoints and to talk to me when she is ready. What now? Is she being unfair? Is this just a long breakup? How do I procede? Translate this pleaseRelationship advice needed from intelligent women:?
You scared her. It will take a while for her to be comfortable with you again.
She's not ready to move on, but she says you can. (this can be a test! Think FRIENDS when Rachel and Ross had their ';Break';)
Just give her the space she needs... She'll come around eventually. Make sure you're available for her, and that when she's ready, you're there.Relationship advice needed from intelligent women:?
I suggest giving your fiance some time to miss you. In a couple days, try sending her flowers to her work or home with a note that says something simple like ';miss you'; or ';thinking of you.';
It's a good sign that she has communicated, though. Since she right out asked for space, just let her cool down. Good luck.
dunno
you don't day what was the spat all about, that got her so upset.
In order to resolve this she needs to understand why she felt scared. There may be some underlying issues that can only be addressed in therapy. Having some space could be a good thing, or it could be the end of your relationship but because she felt scared before you can't force the issue. The 'follow your conscience' remark combined with 'don't call unless you need something' suggest she needs to hear from you what you want, but no-one can say for sure unless you discuss it with her. You could maybe suggest you meet for dinner on neutral ground and see if she relaxes enough for you to discuss your relationship. It's good that you listened and respected her wishes. Sometimes you need to pay attention to what is not said, as well as what is.
She sounds like she need a break as we all do at times, but its unfair for you to be in the dark in this situation. What you need to do is ask her where does this relationship stand, because where you are in this relationship(fiance) you should never be in the dark about things like this. Tell her your bothered by this and even if this is the end you need to know.
You are being tested, my friend. Translation is that she is really mad but not mad enough to let you go. Do not be fooled by the ';she didn't want to see anyone else, but didn't care what i did (she said follow my conscience)'; statement, because if you see somebody else, she'll blow a gasket. The dogs missing you is code for she does too, but is trying to teach you a lesson about whatever happened during the argument to ';scare her';. She is being a bit unfair by telling you not to call unless you ';need something'; and I'd call a couple times a week because you ';need'; to talk to her or something. She may be checking to see what hoops you are willing to jump through. Only you can decide that one, buddy! Good luck, because she may just be exhibiting game-player qualities that are likely to get worse, rather than better.
Oh lord!!! Beg, beg, and beg (I mean if you really want her back) Thats all she needs and wants right now, TRUST ME.
Well this sounds a little strange. I mean yeah you got in a big fight and she needed space that is fine. To call you some days later over something so trivial means maybe she just wanted a reason to call. I do not think that the one you are supposed to marry no matter the fight should take a break. Her saying to you do what ever you want to do but that she doesn't want to see anyone herself says to me she is trying to push you away. You should send her an email telling her how much you love her and say everyone argues. You said yourself she was scared but not ever went in that direction but you also said you were mean so maybe she thought eventually it could turn physical. She loves you but she also needs to know that she is your life and that when you said sorry should not have made her more mad. She has to understand everyone makes mistakes. People are mean to others sometimes and it is not intended. I am not saying it is right but she needs to know you are not ready to give up. If she still says don't call me unless you need something she is done with the relationship. Try calling her and say you do need something and that is her maybe that is all she needs to hear. Good Luck!
If she said to follow your concience, you need to do the following:
1) Buy a dozen red roses
2) pack your things and go back home -- leave your things in the car
3) Give her the roses
4) Apologize again -- not for what you did, but for the fact that you hurt her in the process.
5) Tell her that if there is still the hope of marriage, that you would be willing to go to couple's counseling with her so you could learn how to communicate better with each other and how to get through disagreements (don't use the word ';fight'; or ';arguement';) better, because there will always be disagreements in any relationship, and to make a good couple, it would be best to learn together how to handle them in the future.
6) Hug her (DON'T KISS HER -- let HER kiss you first).
7) Ask her if she would let you move back in some time soon. Don't let her know you have your things. If she says you can move back in now, tell her you will go get your things. Leave for an appropriate amount of time (not TOO long) and come back.
Good luck.
Sounds like you are on square one. You never should have left, thats not the way to handle disagreements, but neither is being mean and frightening her. Call her and tell her you need something....her. Then offer to go to counciling with her so you could learn how to disagree so that it is a useful procedure and not just an argument. Then go.
If the fight was about something in particular, dependent on how serious it was (and if it *was* about one particular thing, it must have been pretty bad), that something may be the kind of something that will prevent you from being able to succeed in a relationship. However, at the moment, I think she's being fair. You're both handling this very well; many others would be very immature and selfish in the same situation. With her being so affected by this, it's probably best you stay apart so she can objectively work her pain out. Having you around may only exacerbate the problems between the two of you, as your presence could act like an amplifier for her anger. Most of the time, ';breaks'; and ';space'; are a segue for those who find themselves in a bind between breaking up with their other and staying with them - to be perfectly honest, it's usually the wimpy way out of a relationship if it wasn't made clear that you were, in fact, breaking up. She doesn't sound like she's ready for anything drastic, though, so when she says ';space';, she probably means space. Even so, eventually, you're going to have to straight up ask her what you two can do to work out your problems and whether or not she even still wants to be with you. Nobody on Yahoo Answers is going to know what she really wants out of you and all of this. I would try my best to do this in person, and be sure to stay absolutely calm no matter how angry she may get - getting all worked up doesn't bring anyone anything but grief. I would, however, wait it out just a bit longer. She may come to her senses after she's gained some clarity, but don't let yourself be a slave to her indecision.
she is probably reevaluating the relationship as a whole and need this time to do it. give her some space.
It's a little hard to say...you said you were ';mean'; and that she said she felt scared. Think for a minute...were you abusive to her? (Abusive doesn't just mean hitting. It can mean words, and making her feel threatened.) If the fight got bad enough that she was actually SCARED, then she is most likely feeling like you just might not be the guy she wants to spend the rest of her life with. She's probably imagining that if it was this bad this time, how bad is it going to get NEXT time you have a fight? And what if the fight is worse? My guess is that it's really not looking good for your relationship right now. I'd back off for a while, and let her come to you. If she doesn't come to you to talk after a couple of weeks, maybe drop her a note, and tell her that you'd like to talk to her if she's ready.
Don't push her it will just piss her off even more. Just give her some time and she should come around. I hope everything works out.
It sounds to me like you really said something harsh (known or unknown to you) that really pushed a major button inside of her. She probably never saw you angry like that and is thinking if you'll behave like that or go past that once you are married. Women are so complex so you need to do two things. You need to give her her space, but not too much space. Let her know you love her. That ';follow your conscience'; thing is to see if you love her or not. If you love her you won't talk to someone else, if you're anything less than honerable with her...you will talk to someone else. She loves you and wants to be with you. You just have to let her know how she makes you feel. When you met, how she smells. Oh, and try not to scare her again you bad boy...:%26gt; Good luck
Forget all the yelling thats all emotional fluff
Get back to basics
Do you want to continue with her?
Or would you like to use this oportunity to bed a few women?
If thats the case you are not ready!!
.....
Once a girl and a guy get into a fight like you guys did the girl always need there space. so maybe since yall have got into a fight she does need her space. The best thing that i would do is when she is ready to be with you again then she will call you and talk to you. since she said that she didnt want to be with anybody else but you then she isnt breaking up with you she just wants to be alone to think about the situation that has happened. just give her, her space and trust me when she is ready she will call you i have had to go through the same situation
If shes anything like me, she probably realizes she overreacted but it just too proud to apologize right now. give her some time, and if shes worth it eventually she will suck it up and feel comfortable reaching out again. She knows you love her, and isnt expecting you to do anything when you two are apart (saying she doesnt care what you do with other women is a load of BS, its just what women say to make you think they dont care about you anymore). Anyway if your relationship is meant to be, it will repair itself. Otherwise, if you arent soulmates afterall at least you dont have to go through a messy divorce.
Call her and tell her you do need something, her, and this time apart has made you realize just how much you miss her and love her. Tell her you want to talk it out. You want to make this work. And if she turns that down maybe she does need some space. Give her spaced calls saying you just wanted to check and see how she is doing, that will also let her know you care. And if she doesn't respond to that maybe it is a permanent thing, but it doesn't sound like it to me
Sounds like you did all you could do for now. Give her space and more time to sort her thoughts. What ever happened obviously hurt deep or maybe other wises she is an over reactor..Send her flowers with a note apologizing once again and you miss her tell her you will be anticipating her reply......If no reply or answer give up and let her be. If she loves you she will see how Petty she is being for carrying on this resentment for so long.
When someone needs space; in my experience means she has or is thinking about someone else.
Ask one of her girlfriends what's going on with her. Maybe give her a few days to calm down cuz she's obviously still very upset with you.
Trust me, she probably DOES care what you do as far as seeing other people. Most of us say we don't care what you do but the truth is, we don't want you with anyone else!! Especially if she already said SHE wasn't interested in seeing someone else and made a point to tell you this.
Sounds to me like she just needs some space, give it to her. Wait and see if she responds to your email and don't act crazy or smother her like some psycho. But, DO keep in contact just a little. This will let her know you do not want to lose her. And, make sure you tell her you don't want to lose her and list the reasons why. This means a lot.
Sometimes to save a relationship, we have to humble ourselves a little and swallow some pride but it all pays off in the end.
I'm no expert, but I'll try to help you. There are many plausible reasons for her actions, and should none of them apply, then maybe she IS being a bit unreasonable.
You said she was your FIANCEE. It's definately possible that she wants a glimpse of her future with you. There will DEFINATELY be future arguements, especially ones that are blown out of proportion. But now that she's seen how much you truly want to settle this fight, she'll be assured that marrying you is something she wont regret. On the other hand, she might be a little afraid of committment. Are you planning to get married soon? If so, she might just be having a little nervous breakdown. It's completely normal.
You should consider giving her time to think this over. If she's wise, she'll look at both sides of the arguement, rather than just being biased towards her own self. I'd say a day or two should be enough time to get her mindset on how YOU'RE feeling about this.
I hope this helped. Good luck. =)
i think she still cares about you. but something major seems to have happened during that fight. it seems like you two aren't talking like people that have been together for 2.5 years. it seems a little awkward. make sure that you want to be with her for the long haul. if you think or know she is worth it, then tell her that. i would also suggest not dating because she would definitely use that against you. i think that is a test. good luck, i know how much fights can suck.
My question is what the heck did you do/say to her to scare her?
Sounds like a game to me. If you can't talk out your differences and move on maybe it's a good thing for you this happened. Sounds like she is waiting for you to come begging back to her. She still cares or she would not be calling. Believe me, I have played this game before. Mainly when I felt rejected and like was lacking attention and love from my man.
If you really want to work things out with her, give her what she wants. A hug, a romantic evening and your undivided attention.
Again, this is just my perspective. Everyone is different.
She called me on Wed. about something trivial, and then after talking to her for a bit, she let me know how angry, hurt and upset she felt. She told me she didn't want to see anyone else, but didn't care what i did (she said follow my conscience) and that the dogs missed me. Then I thanked her for communicating with me, but she said not to call her unless I needed something. I sent her an email telling her I appreciated her viewpoints and to talk to me when she is ready. What now? Is she being unfair? Is this just a long breakup? How do I procede? Translate this pleaseRelationship advice needed from intelligent women:?
You scared her. It will take a while for her to be comfortable with you again.
She's not ready to move on, but she says you can. (this can be a test! Think FRIENDS when Rachel and Ross had their ';Break';)
Just give her the space she needs... She'll come around eventually. Make sure you're available for her, and that when she's ready, you're there.Relationship advice needed from intelligent women:?
I suggest giving your fiance some time to miss you. In a couple days, try sending her flowers to her work or home with a note that says something simple like ';miss you'; or ';thinking of you.';
It's a good sign that she has communicated, though. Since she right out asked for space, just let her cool down. Good luck.
dunno
you don't day what was the spat all about, that got her so upset.
In order to resolve this she needs to understand why she felt scared. There may be some underlying issues that can only be addressed in therapy. Having some space could be a good thing, or it could be the end of your relationship but because she felt scared before you can't force the issue. The 'follow your conscience' remark combined with 'don't call unless you need something' suggest she needs to hear from you what you want, but no-one can say for sure unless you discuss it with her. You could maybe suggest you meet for dinner on neutral ground and see if she relaxes enough for you to discuss your relationship. It's good that you listened and respected her wishes. Sometimes you need to pay attention to what is not said, as well as what is.
She sounds like she need a break as we all do at times, but its unfair for you to be in the dark in this situation. What you need to do is ask her where does this relationship stand, because where you are in this relationship(fiance) you should never be in the dark about things like this. Tell her your bothered by this and even if this is the end you need to know.
You are being tested, my friend. Translation is that she is really mad but not mad enough to let you go. Do not be fooled by the ';she didn't want to see anyone else, but didn't care what i did (she said follow my conscience)'; statement, because if you see somebody else, she'll blow a gasket. The dogs missing you is code for she does too, but is trying to teach you a lesson about whatever happened during the argument to ';scare her';. She is being a bit unfair by telling you not to call unless you ';need something'; and I'd call a couple times a week because you ';need'; to talk to her or something. She may be checking to see what hoops you are willing to jump through. Only you can decide that one, buddy! Good luck, because she may just be exhibiting game-player qualities that are likely to get worse, rather than better.
Oh lord!!! Beg, beg, and beg (I mean if you really want her back) Thats all she needs and wants right now, TRUST ME.
Well this sounds a little strange. I mean yeah you got in a big fight and she needed space that is fine. To call you some days later over something so trivial means maybe she just wanted a reason to call. I do not think that the one you are supposed to marry no matter the fight should take a break. Her saying to you do what ever you want to do but that she doesn't want to see anyone herself says to me she is trying to push you away. You should send her an email telling her how much you love her and say everyone argues. You said yourself she was scared but not ever went in that direction but you also said you were mean so maybe she thought eventually it could turn physical. She loves you but she also needs to know that she is your life and that when you said sorry should not have made her more mad. She has to understand everyone makes mistakes. People are mean to others sometimes and it is not intended. I am not saying it is right but she needs to know you are not ready to give up. If she still says don't call me unless you need something she is done with the relationship. Try calling her and say you do need something and that is her maybe that is all she needs to hear. Good Luck!
If she said to follow your concience, you need to do the following:
1) Buy a dozen red roses
2) pack your things and go back home -- leave your things in the car
3) Give her the roses
4) Apologize again -- not for what you did, but for the fact that you hurt her in the process.
5) Tell her that if there is still the hope of marriage, that you would be willing to go to couple's counseling with her so you could learn how to communicate better with each other and how to get through disagreements (don't use the word ';fight'; or ';arguement';) better, because there will always be disagreements in any relationship, and to make a good couple, it would be best to learn together how to handle them in the future.
6) Hug her (DON'T KISS HER -- let HER kiss you first).
7) Ask her if she would let you move back in some time soon. Don't let her know you have your things. If she says you can move back in now, tell her you will go get your things. Leave for an appropriate amount of time (not TOO long) and come back.
Good luck.
Sounds like you are on square one. You never should have left, thats not the way to handle disagreements, but neither is being mean and frightening her. Call her and tell her you need something....her. Then offer to go to counciling with her so you could learn how to disagree so that it is a useful procedure and not just an argument. Then go.
If the fight was about something in particular, dependent on how serious it was (and if it *was* about one particular thing, it must have been pretty bad), that something may be the kind of something that will prevent you from being able to succeed in a relationship. However, at the moment, I think she's being fair. You're both handling this very well; many others would be very immature and selfish in the same situation. With her being so affected by this, it's probably best you stay apart so she can objectively work her pain out. Having you around may only exacerbate the problems between the two of you, as your presence could act like an amplifier for her anger. Most of the time, ';breaks'; and ';space'; are a segue for those who find themselves in a bind between breaking up with their other and staying with them - to be perfectly honest, it's usually the wimpy way out of a relationship if it wasn't made clear that you were, in fact, breaking up. She doesn't sound like she's ready for anything drastic, though, so when she says ';space';, she probably means space. Even so, eventually, you're going to have to straight up ask her what you two can do to work out your problems and whether or not she even still wants to be with you. Nobody on Yahoo Answers is going to know what she really wants out of you and all of this. I would try my best to do this in person, and be sure to stay absolutely calm no matter how angry she may get - getting all worked up doesn't bring anyone anything but grief. I would, however, wait it out just a bit longer. She may come to her senses after she's gained some clarity, but don't let yourself be a slave to her indecision.
she is probably reevaluating the relationship as a whole and need this time to do it. give her some space.
It's a little hard to say...you said you were ';mean'; and that she said she felt scared. Think for a minute...were you abusive to her? (Abusive doesn't just mean hitting. It can mean words, and making her feel threatened.) If the fight got bad enough that she was actually SCARED, then she is most likely feeling like you just might not be the guy she wants to spend the rest of her life with. She's probably imagining that if it was this bad this time, how bad is it going to get NEXT time you have a fight? And what if the fight is worse? My guess is that it's really not looking good for your relationship right now. I'd back off for a while, and let her come to you. If she doesn't come to you to talk after a couple of weeks, maybe drop her a note, and tell her that you'd like to talk to her if she's ready.
Don't push her it will just piss her off even more. Just give her some time and she should come around. I hope everything works out.
It sounds to me like you really said something harsh (known or unknown to you) that really pushed a major button inside of her. She probably never saw you angry like that and is thinking if you'll behave like that or go past that once you are married. Women are so complex so you need to do two things. You need to give her her space, but not too much space. Let her know you love her. That ';follow your conscience'; thing is to see if you love her or not. If you love her you won't talk to someone else, if you're anything less than honerable with her...you will talk to someone else. She loves you and wants to be with you. You just have to let her know how she makes you feel. When you met, how she smells. Oh, and try not to scare her again you bad boy...:%26gt; Good luck
Forget all the yelling thats all emotional fluff
Get back to basics
Do you want to continue with her?
Or would you like to use this oportunity to bed a few women?
If thats the case you are not ready!!
.....
Once a girl and a guy get into a fight like you guys did the girl always need there space. so maybe since yall have got into a fight she does need her space. The best thing that i would do is when she is ready to be with you again then she will call you and talk to you. since she said that she didnt want to be with anybody else but you then she isnt breaking up with you she just wants to be alone to think about the situation that has happened. just give her, her space and trust me when she is ready she will call you i have had to go through the same situation
If shes anything like me, she probably realizes she overreacted but it just too proud to apologize right now. give her some time, and if shes worth it eventually she will suck it up and feel comfortable reaching out again. She knows you love her, and isnt expecting you to do anything when you two are apart (saying she doesnt care what you do with other women is a load of BS, its just what women say to make you think they dont care about you anymore). Anyway if your relationship is meant to be, it will repair itself. Otherwise, if you arent soulmates afterall at least you dont have to go through a messy divorce.
Call her and tell her you do need something, her, and this time apart has made you realize just how much you miss her and love her. Tell her you want to talk it out. You want to make this work. And if she turns that down maybe she does need some space. Give her spaced calls saying you just wanted to check and see how she is doing, that will also let her know you care. And if she doesn't respond to that maybe it is a permanent thing, but it doesn't sound like it to me
Sounds like you did all you could do for now. Give her space and more time to sort her thoughts. What ever happened obviously hurt deep or maybe other wises she is an over reactor..Send her flowers with a note apologizing once again and you miss her tell her you will be anticipating her reply......If no reply or answer give up and let her be. If she loves you she will see how Petty she is being for carrying on this resentment for so long.
When someone needs space; in my experience means she has or is thinking about someone else.
Ask one of her girlfriends what's going on with her. Maybe give her a few days to calm down cuz she's obviously still very upset with you.
Trust me, she probably DOES care what you do as far as seeing other people. Most of us say we don't care what you do but the truth is, we don't want you with anyone else!! Especially if she already said SHE wasn't interested in seeing someone else and made a point to tell you this.
Sounds to me like she just needs some space, give it to her. Wait and see if she responds to your email and don't act crazy or smother her like some psycho. But, DO keep in contact just a little. This will let her know you do not want to lose her. And, make sure you tell her you don't want to lose her and list the reasons why. This means a lot.
Sometimes to save a relationship, we have to humble ourselves a little and swallow some pride but it all pays off in the end.
I'm no expert, but I'll try to help you. There are many plausible reasons for her actions, and should none of them apply, then maybe she IS being a bit unreasonable.
You said she was your FIANCEE. It's definately possible that she wants a glimpse of her future with you. There will DEFINATELY be future arguements, especially ones that are blown out of proportion. But now that she's seen how much you truly want to settle this fight, she'll be assured that marrying you is something she wont regret. On the other hand, she might be a little afraid of committment. Are you planning to get married soon? If so, she might just be having a little nervous breakdown. It's completely normal.
You should consider giving her time to think this over. If she's wise, she'll look at both sides of the arguement, rather than just being biased towards her own self. I'd say a day or two should be enough time to get her mindset on how YOU'RE feeling about this.
I hope this helped. Good luck. =)
i think she still cares about you. but something major seems to have happened during that fight. it seems like you two aren't talking like people that have been together for 2.5 years. it seems a little awkward. make sure that you want to be with her for the long haul. if you think or know she is worth it, then tell her that. i would also suggest not dating because she would definitely use that against you. i think that is a test. good luck, i know how much fights can suck.
My question is what the heck did you do/say to her to scare her?
Sounds like a game to me. If you can't talk out your differences and move on maybe it's a good thing for you this happened. Sounds like she is waiting for you to come begging back to her. She still cares or she would not be calling. Believe me, I have played this game before. Mainly when I felt rejected and like was lacking attention and love from my man.
If you really want to work things out with her, give her what she wants. A hug, a romantic evening and your undivided attention.
Again, this is just my perspective. Everyone is different.
Relationship Advice please help?!?!?
My relationship just ended. Love is not a word I toss around but I honestly love her... still do...
She broke it off because she needed to make college and work top priorities, which is fine, I understand that but she refuses to break contact... she emails, texts, messages, calls me everyday just to talk.
It always ends in us both being upset and it's not helping... I finally blocked her messages and am not accepting her calls because I need time to heal. But she cries on my voicemail because I'm out of her life..
I told her that I cannot ever see her the same and there's no hope for us ever getting back together because she's hurt me so much in all this..
Am I wrong?
What's the quickest route to normality?Relationship Advice please help?!?!?
Dude trust me I just went through all of that myself. I'm sorry to say but there is no easy route back to normality. You are doing the right thing because it will just ending up hurting both of you if you keep communicating. What has worked for me is just rely on friends to keep you busy and try not to have much time where you are just doing nothing because you are only going to think about it and it wil depress you. Good luck man.Relationship Advice please help?!?!?
When love is involved it's going to take time to heal. A relationship becomes away of life, a routine if you will. It's hard to create a new routine but it's possible. You have expressed your feelings on the relationship and now it's her turn to learn to accept it. You are taking all the proper steps to heal yourself. Don't feel bad for being selfish, your feelings come first now. Maybe in the future you two can be friends, but right now it's too early. You both need to come to terms and only time can bring that.
Work and college are difficult at best without having to try to put romance in the picture. What was going on in your relationship or her work and school that made her feel so overwhelmed. My daughter and her boyfriend just went through this and come to find out on the few occasions when they could be together they were constantly fighting because he thought she needed to make him more of a priority in her life. She truly loves him but feels that love, marriage and kids should wait until they have the educations to get jobs to make all the other a reality. He has a good job and doesn't think she needs to worry about getting her education. My husband and I talked to both of them. My daughter is right that there are no guarantees in life and you can't be dependent upon someone else's job or career. The boyfriend is right that a relationship that isn't at least nurtured some won't last. SOOOO, we suggested my daughter cut back on the number of classes she was trying to take and we also agreed to her cutting back some of her hours at work. Things are much better now.
You are not wrong for this and youseem to be a very nice guy. Just keep her out of your life. I do not know the quickest route to normality, but I wish you the best of luck.
You're doing the right thing. She was playing games with you. It seemed like she wanted you to still be hanging around while she kept her options open. You are being very strong about this. I'm in the same situation, sort of. My bf says he can't handle certain things right now, and says that maybe we should break up, but he never leaves me alone. Keep being strong. Let her know what she's missing out on. Sometimes a little too late, and too late period.
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You're doing it bro. I'm actually shocked someone on Yahoo actually has some strength to do what is right.
This chick breaks up with you, and you go about your life...and she comes crying back - that's how it always works!
Go you for doing what it takes to get over it. She only wants you because she can't have you. If you were to let her back in your life, she would just hurt you again because she clearly has other priorities.
i guess you should tell her to give you some time make her understand that your not feeling in a good mood. and if you really did love her you need to understand she still loves you .And maybe she not your furture after a while start talking to her again juss as friends .. hope you get better
no your not wrong but she knows she was wrong and she is trying to make sure you will always be there you do need to decide what you want not what she wants because it sounds like she already did so go on the are a lot of other women out there go for it and be happy
Sounds like you are on the right track, just stick to your plan and start dating other people. Good luck, hope it gets better.
My opinion:
I think you should still talk to her-don't completely shut her out of your life. It sounds like she loves you too, she just need to get her priorities in order. You don't have to respond to all her messages-just talk to her once in a while and keep eachother updated. You're hurting her by not talking to her at all.
Good luck to you.
Chels
You are on the right track! She made the decision to break up with you, so she has to deal with it. Maybe after you heal, you might be able to be her friend.
Dude by blowing her off and telling her those things are gonna make her want you more. You know how girls are. Is this a long distance relationship by chance? Any man I'm proud of you for telling her those things. It can be the same again, you fell in love with her for a reason.
No you aren't in the wrong she is! If she is the one who broke it off but still calls and texts you everyday it sounds like she is having second thoughts. More like she wants to have her cake and eat it too! I understand that she has hurt you and you can't trust her again like you did before and that is normal. If you really don't want this woman in your life you need to make that clear to her in every way possible. Send a letter saying you want no more contact and talk to her in person and say it to her face. If she doesn't get it after that tell her you are going to get a restraining order against her if she doesn't want to listen the easy way. The easiest way to get over her is don't answer the phone when she calls and don't respond to her text messages. Good luck with her!
i dont think you are wrong. you do need to heal. i know where you are coming from because i had to go through the same thing. if she wants to be more than a friend to you, she shouldn't of break up with you. cuz true love should be there no matter wrong even if it has to do with college
Good Luck!!
You are a smart guy. She may already be seeing someone else and just keepin you on a loose lead in case it doesn't work out. And this may be something that will happen again if you go back with her. Shut her out completely. She made the first move. Good Job! Sorry for your pain though.
You are right in what you are doing. It sounds as if she wants to keep you dangling just in case she doesn't find someone else...She broke up with you because of college and work....but breaking up means 'breaking off'...In order to get your life normal you have to let this go and move forward. Tell her that you have to move on...and don't sit there listening to her crying voicemail....she just wants to keep you on the side...don't do it!coupons
She broke it off because she needed to make college and work top priorities, which is fine, I understand that but she refuses to break contact... she emails, texts, messages, calls me everyday just to talk.
It always ends in us both being upset and it's not helping... I finally blocked her messages and am not accepting her calls because I need time to heal. But she cries on my voicemail because I'm out of her life..
I told her that I cannot ever see her the same and there's no hope for us ever getting back together because she's hurt me so much in all this..
Am I wrong?
What's the quickest route to normality?Relationship Advice please help?!?!?
Dude trust me I just went through all of that myself. I'm sorry to say but there is no easy route back to normality. You are doing the right thing because it will just ending up hurting both of you if you keep communicating. What has worked for me is just rely on friends to keep you busy and try not to have much time where you are just doing nothing because you are only going to think about it and it wil depress you. Good luck man.Relationship Advice please help?!?!?
When love is involved it's going to take time to heal. A relationship becomes away of life, a routine if you will. It's hard to create a new routine but it's possible. You have expressed your feelings on the relationship and now it's her turn to learn to accept it. You are taking all the proper steps to heal yourself. Don't feel bad for being selfish, your feelings come first now. Maybe in the future you two can be friends, but right now it's too early. You both need to come to terms and only time can bring that.
Work and college are difficult at best without having to try to put romance in the picture. What was going on in your relationship or her work and school that made her feel so overwhelmed. My daughter and her boyfriend just went through this and come to find out on the few occasions when they could be together they were constantly fighting because he thought she needed to make him more of a priority in her life. She truly loves him but feels that love, marriage and kids should wait until they have the educations to get jobs to make all the other a reality. He has a good job and doesn't think she needs to worry about getting her education. My husband and I talked to both of them. My daughter is right that there are no guarantees in life and you can't be dependent upon someone else's job or career. The boyfriend is right that a relationship that isn't at least nurtured some won't last. SOOOO, we suggested my daughter cut back on the number of classes she was trying to take and we also agreed to her cutting back some of her hours at work. Things are much better now.
You are not wrong for this and youseem to be a very nice guy. Just keep her out of your life. I do not know the quickest route to normality, but I wish you the best of luck.
You're doing the right thing. She was playing games with you. It seemed like she wanted you to still be hanging around while she kept her options open. You are being very strong about this. I'm in the same situation, sort of. My bf says he can't handle certain things right now, and says that maybe we should break up, but he never leaves me alone. Keep being strong. Let her know what she's missing out on. Sometimes a little too late, and too late period.
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You're doing it bro. I'm actually shocked someone on Yahoo actually has some strength to do what is right.
This chick breaks up with you, and you go about your life...and she comes crying back - that's how it always works!
Go you for doing what it takes to get over it. She only wants you because she can't have you. If you were to let her back in your life, she would just hurt you again because she clearly has other priorities.
i guess you should tell her to give you some time make her understand that your not feeling in a good mood. and if you really did love her you need to understand she still loves you .And maybe she not your furture after a while start talking to her again juss as friends .. hope you get better
no your not wrong but she knows she was wrong and she is trying to make sure you will always be there you do need to decide what you want not what she wants because it sounds like she already did so go on the are a lot of other women out there go for it and be happy
Sounds like you are on the right track, just stick to your plan and start dating other people. Good luck, hope it gets better.
My opinion:
I think you should still talk to her-don't completely shut her out of your life. It sounds like she loves you too, she just need to get her priorities in order. You don't have to respond to all her messages-just talk to her once in a while and keep eachother updated. You're hurting her by not talking to her at all.
Good luck to you.
Chels
You are on the right track! She made the decision to break up with you, so she has to deal with it. Maybe after you heal, you might be able to be her friend.
Dude by blowing her off and telling her those things are gonna make her want you more. You know how girls are. Is this a long distance relationship by chance? Any man I'm proud of you for telling her those things. It can be the same again, you fell in love with her for a reason.
No you aren't in the wrong she is! If she is the one who broke it off but still calls and texts you everyday it sounds like she is having second thoughts. More like she wants to have her cake and eat it too! I understand that she has hurt you and you can't trust her again like you did before and that is normal. If you really don't want this woman in your life you need to make that clear to her in every way possible. Send a letter saying you want no more contact and talk to her in person and say it to her face. If she doesn't get it after that tell her you are going to get a restraining order against her if she doesn't want to listen the easy way. The easiest way to get over her is don't answer the phone when she calls and don't respond to her text messages. Good luck with her!
i dont think you are wrong. you do need to heal. i know where you are coming from because i had to go through the same thing. if she wants to be more than a friend to you, she shouldn't of break up with you. cuz true love should be there no matter wrong even if it has to do with college
Good Luck!!
You are a smart guy. She may already be seeing someone else and just keepin you on a loose lead in case it doesn't work out. And this may be something that will happen again if you go back with her. Shut her out completely. She made the first move. Good Job! Sorry for your pain though.
You are right in what you are doing. It sounds as if she wants to keep you dangling just in case she doesn't find someone else...She broke up with you because of college and work....but breaking up means 'breaking off'...In order to get your life normal you have to let this go and move forward. Tell her that you have to move on...and don't sit there listening to her crying voicemail....she just wants to keep you on the side...don't do it!
Relationship Advice needed ASAP!?
hey so ive liked this girl for a while and she liked me back but she doesn't want a relationship, well anyway because of college and where we live we see each other very little and because of this i think she now likes a different guy :S im going to a party which she at tonight...what should i do? try my best? or give up and accept defeat?Relationship Advice needed ASAP!?
This is your only chance. Don't blow it. No pressure.
This is your only chance. Don't blow it. No pressure.
Relationship advice, very soap-opera-y...?
My good friend has always had feelings for a good guy friend and mutual friend of mine. Several years and relocations later, she's not past her feelings for him.
The catch, the dude has gotten married, but he's not happy. Should she say anything to him or keep her trap shut (my advice). She feels that somehow he'll be in here future. What would you say to her?
Looking for opinions. we're in our late 20's and none of us lives in a trailer, lol :)
ThanksRelationship advice, very soap-opera-y...?
She needs to get over it.... move on... have a life. Married guys always say they are miserable when they really enjoy being miserable.
Until she gets a life she will never be in a place to meet someone who is truly available to her.Relationship advice, very soap-opera-y...?
Wow. I think YOU should talk him and just re-analyze with him. Just ask casual questions about the marriage that would let him think it over. And if he's not happy he would get a divorce. Then she should move in and make her move. Great adding to the last part.
The catch sorta ruins things for your friend. Even if he's not happy, he's still married. And, until he gets a divorce, he's off limits and doesn't need a woman telling him that she's got it bad for him. Hopefully he realizes that maybe he could be happy if he left his current situation, but don't encourage your friend to be why he leaves.
she should continue to b a good friend let him make the first move if he is interested if she does it might mess up a real good friendship.maybe they could talk on the phone and see where that goes let him talk and open up,also ask the guy if he wants to go out to keep his mind busy to just have some fun.good luck
The catch, the dude has gotten married, but he's not happy. Should she say anything to him or keep her trap shut (my advice). She feels that somehow he'll be in here future. What would you say to her?
Looking for opinions. we're in our late 20's and none of us lives in a trailer, lol :)
ThanksRelationship advice, very soap-opera-y...?
She needs to get over it.... move on... have a life. Married guys always say they are miserable when they really enjoy being miserable.
Until she gets a life she will never be in a place to meet someone who is truly available to her.Relationship advice, very soap-opera-y...?
Wow. I think YOU should talk him and just re-analyze with him. Just ask casual questions about the marriage that would let him think it over. And if he's not happy he would get a divorce. Then she should move in and make her move. Great adding to the last part.
The catch sorta ruins things for your friend. Even if he's not happy, he's still married. And, until he gets a divorce, he's off limits and doesn't need a woman telling him that she's got it bad for him. Hopefully he realizes that maybe he could be happy if he left his current situation, but don't encourage your friend to be why he leaves.
she should continue to b a good friend let him make the first move if he is interested if she does it might mess up a real good friendship.maybe they could talk on the phone and see where that goes let him talk and open up,also ask the guy if he wants to go out to keep his mind busy to just have some fun.good luck
Relationship Advice (Girls Please)?
I really like a girl and yesterday she told me she liked me, i want her to continue to like me, whats the best way to keep a girl you really like interested?Relationship Advice (Girls Please)?
Askinf her out is the absolute best way!Relationship Advice (Girls Please)?
Gifts, gifts and Gifts.
There is no other way to salvation.
The best way? If she had the courage to tell you that she likes you, you should ask her out! Its all simple from here, on, because now you don't have to sweat it, wondering if she likes you before you ask her out, you know! I would tell her that you like her too, and maybe a movie? That would be my personal favorite! Ask her why she likes you, as long as you continue being yourself how you were around her, things should flow. My ideal guy is funny, and sweet. Maybe alittle manly, like a protector.. :] Goodluck, I hope shes still interested!
Flirt with her, hang out with her...just keep doing what your doing because it's worked so far.
Askinf her out is the absolute best way!Relationship Advice (Girls Please)?
Gifts, gifts and Gifts.
There is no other way to salvation.
The best way? If she had the courage to tell you that she likes you, you should ask her out! Its all simple from here, on, because now you don't have to sweat it, wondering if she likes you before you ask her out, you know! I would tell her that you like her too, and maybe a movie? That would be my personal favorite! Ask her why she likes you, as long as you continue being yourself how you were around her, things should flow. My ideal guy is funny, and sweet. Maybe alittle manly, like a protector.. :] Goodluck, I hope shes still interested!
Flirt with her, hang out with her...just keep doing what your doing because it's worked so far.
Relationship Advice- help?
Okay, so today this guy I have been dating and I had ';the talk'; about where we are going... And he said he doesnt see us going further (as in becoming serious) right now because his parents are going through a divorce and he just has to get through that before he can be serious with anyone. I do understand that and he still wants to date but just not get serious. I'm fine with that, but I do really like him. Is it worth it to wait around for him to get through this and just be myself and see how it goes, or should I move on.... I mean, we ARE still dating.. but I'm really confused because I really like him. And I dont want to set myself up for hurt.Relationship Advice- help?
I say go with the flowRelationship Advice- help?
If you feel he's ';the one'; hang in there! He's right, he's going through alot of emotions right now - be supportive, be kind, be loving and tell him you are there for him! Set a date in ';your mind'; to have ';the talk'; again in the future.
Ok this is a perfect time to show him that u like him. Right now he needs your support so just stick with it and wait it out. This will show him that you are dedicated to him and that you will support him in anyway shape or form and it will have a long lasting impression on him in the long run so stay in the race and wait it out.
Hey if you really like him %26amp; care for him, i think you should stay with him. His parents are likely to get divorced and it is quite a situation that would make a difference to him and would really need someone real close to be there for him, to share, to speak out and i strongly believe you should stay with him, in times like this where he would actually need you.
At times we have to think beyond OURSELVES, reach out without expecting anything in return!!
This may even strengthen the feelings u have for each other and in future may work ourt as committment. I aint speaking of some fantasy, it is worth a wait. This is the time to show him you care
if u really like him and have really deep feelings for this guy why not wait for him i mean put yourself in his shoes and besides how many good guys like him come around?
I understand your mixed feelings and my advice to you is if u really like him and u think hes worth your time then i would wait for him. When parents go though a devorce it can be very hard on everyone, and his fear seems to be sencere...... So just give him some time.... he will come around sooner or later!
only you can answer that question......is he worth waiting for? Put yourself back on the scene and date others...see what happens
go for it or not
it all up to you
I say go with the flowRelationship Advice- help?
If you feel he's ';the one'; hang in there! He's right, he's going through alot of emotions right now - be supportive, be kind, be loving and tell him you are there for him! Set a date in ';your mind'; to have ';the talk'; again in the future.
Ok this is a perfect time to show him that u like him. Right now he needs your support so just stick with it and wait it out. This will show him that you are dedicated to him and that you will support him in anyway shape or form and it will have a long lasting impression on him in the long run so stay in the race and wait it out.
Hey if you really like him %26amp; care for him, i think you should stay with him. His parents are likely to get divorced and it is quite a situation that would make a difference to him and would really need someone real close to be there for him, to share, to speak out and i strongly believe you should stay with him, in times like this where he would actually need you.
At times we have to think beyond OURSELVES, reach out without expecting anything in return!!
This may even strengthen the feelings u have for each other and in future may work ourt as committment. I aint speaking of some fantasy, it is worth a wait. This is the time to show him you care
if u really like him and have really deep feelings for this guy why not wait for him i mean put yourself in his shoes and besides how many good guys like him come around?
I understand your mixed feelings and my advice to you is if u really like him and u think hes worth your time then i would wait for him. When parents go though a devorce it can be very hard on everyone, and his fear seems to be sencere...... So just give him some time.... he will come around sooner or later!
only you can answer that question......is he worth waiting for? Put yourself back on the scene and date others...see what happens
go for it or not
it all up to you
Relationship advice needed! please!
Okay, so I am 23 years old and I met this guy back in June through a friend and we hit it off right away. We started talking non-stop and within the same month we made official and became a couple. He is my first boyfriend and I think I am inlove with him. We are crazy about each other, he says we are meant to be and i am perfect for him, we miss each other so much when we are not together, we do not fight, and everything seems perfect, but in the back of my mind, I feel like it is too perfect, and I am waiting for something to go wrong. Should I be thinking like this? Could it be that is is too perfect? I am just waiting to be let down! Help!Relationship advice needed! please!
It is natural to feel that way, you just have to put your fears out of your mind if you want this to work.
There isn't such a thing as too perfect. :)Relationship advice needed! please!
IT CERTAINLY SEEMS PERFECT, LET ME SAY THAT NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT BUT, ON THE FLIP SIDENO RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE TERRIBLE EITHER. FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO BE PERFECT, THERE MUST BE A LIL' CONFLICT THAT GOES ON IN A RELATIONSHIP. FOLLOWING THAT IS CONFLICT RESOLUTION. IT'S HUMAN TO HAVE CONFLICT
IF THERE'S NO CONFLICT SOMEONE IS BOTTLING THINGS UP ON THE INSIDE AND THEY'RE FIXING TO EXPLODE. SO IT'S SOME WARNING SIGN THAT'S GOING OFF INSIDE OF YOU THAT'S GOING OFF TELLING U THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG. TRY TO BE VERY OBSERVANT WHEN U ASK A QUESTION OUT OF THE BLUE, LOOK FOR SIGNS OF TENSION, THERE R MANY. OR HE COULD HAVE THE PERSONALITY THAT JUST WANTS TO PLEASE
OTHERS BEFORE HIMSELF, IN WHICH HE MAY STILL EXPLODE LATER ON WANTING HIS OWN WAY WITH SOMETHING. THERE R A LOT OF VARIABLES IN THIS MIX, I'LL NEED TO KNOW MORE TO HELP U WITH MORE ADVICE.JUST WRITE ME.
TROY
It is natural to feel that way, you just have to put your fears out of your mind if you want this to work.
There isn't such a thing as too perfect. :)Relationship advice needed! please!
IT CERTAINLY SEEMS PERFECT, LET ME SAY THAT NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT BUT, ON THE FLIP SIDENO RELATIONSHIP SHOULD BE TERRIBLE EITHER. FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO BE PERFECT, THERE MUST BE A LIL' CONFLICT THAT GOES ON IN A RELATIONSHIP. FOLLOWING THAT IS CONFLICT RESOLUTION. IT'S HUMAN TO HAVE CONFLICT
IF THERE'S NO CONFLICT SOMEONE IS BOTTLING THINGS UP ON THE INSIDE AND THEY'RE FIXING TO EXPLODE. SO IT'S SOME WARNING SIGN THAT'S GOING OFF INSIDE OF YOU THAT'S GOING OFF TELLING U THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG. TRY TO BE VERY OBSERVANT WHEN U ASK A QUESTION OUT OF THE BLUE, LOOK FOR SIGNS OF TENSION, THERE R MANY. OR HE COULD HAVE THE PERSONALITY THAT JUST WANTS TO PLEASE
OTHERS BEFORE HIMSELF, IN WHICH HE MAY STILL EXPLODE LATER ON WANTING HIS OWN WAY WITH SOMETHING. THERE R A LOT OF VARIABLES IN THIS MIX, I'LL NEED TO KNOW MORE TO HELP U WITH MORE ADVICE.JUST WRITE ME.
TROY
Relationship advice please fine people??
i dont wanna rush things and get too heavy too soon with this girl i really like, i wanna talk to her alot but dont wanna seem all over her or swamping her...how should i make sure i dont do this?..Relationship advice please fine people??
Getting the balance between letting a girl know how interested you are without suffocating them is very difficult, and it very much depends on the girl...
Some will like you to constantly be in touch with them, while others will prefer you to play it cool.
My advice would be to send a maximum of 3 messages a day, and sometimes let her do the running. Good Luck! :)Relationship advice please fine people??
I say go for it but you need to approach it in a careful way, be a little sneaky and make her start the topics by feeding her leading questions...........if you are planning on this goin all the way then why not tell her this if she has different views on where she wants things to go then i think you should find out now instead of a year down the line and will be far harder to hear!!!! Go for it and quiz her and tell her how you feel and what you wnat from your relationship.
I'd say follow MyrtleBently's advice and what you put down too. Glad to of seen that you address this to fine people, so you a degree when it comes to grammer %26amp; politeness. But that doesn't mean much cause I had tried and its still been years you know. My fingers are although cross for you and to whom you are talking about!
1. be honest. 2. always tell the truth....
%26amp; tell her exactly ~
';- - - - - - - - - . i don't want to rush things with you and get too heavy too soon. i really like you and i want to talk to you alot but i dont want to seem like i am swamping you, or constantly all over you, and i want to make sure that i dont do this,,,, because it would be a pleasure and an honor to get to know you better. we can see what we are both about, taking things as they come and taking things slow. no need to rush. the more someone rushes the more things dont turn out to last or be pertinent. so, with that being said, - - - - - - - ?
will you go out with me, and let's see where it goes from here?';...
good luck holiday,,,, you had 99% of it covered already. i just think you may have needed an extra boost, maybe from a female point of view. remember, take it slow, be honest %26amp; there should be no problems. *i am pretty sure you guys will make a fantastic and awesome couple =) keep me posted.
kudos! *wink*coupons
Getting the balance between letting a girl know how interested you are without suffocating them is very difficult, and it very much depends on the girl...
Some will like you to constantly be in touch with them, while others will prefer you to play it cool.
My advice would be to send a maximum of 3 messages a day, and sometimes let her do the running. Good Luck! :)Relationship advice please fine people??
I say go for it but you need to approach it in a careful way, be a little sneaky and make her start the topics by feeding her leading questions...........if you are planning on this goin all the way then why not tell her this if she has different views on where she wants things to go then i think you should find out now instead of a year down the line and will be far harder to hear!!!! Go for it and quiz her and tell her how you feel and what you wnat from your relationship.
I'd say follow MyrtleBently's advice and what you put down too. Glad to of seen that you address this to fine people, so you a degree when it comes to grammer %26amp; politeness. But that doesn't mean much cause I had tried and its still been years you know. My fingers are although cross for you and to whom you are talking about!
1. be honest. 2. always tell the truth....
%26amp; tell her exactly ~
';- - - - - - - - - . i don't want to rush things with you and get too heavy too soon. i really like you and i want to talk to you alot but i dont want to seem like i am swamping you, or constantly all over you, and i want to make sure that i dont do this,,,, because it would be a pleasure and an honor to get to know you better. we can see what we are both about, taking things as they come and taking things slow. no need to rush. the more someone rushes the more things dont turn out to last or be pertinent. so, with that being said, - - - - - - - ?
will you go out with me, and let's see where it goes from here?';...
good luck holiday,,,, you had 99% of it covered already. i just think you may have needed an extra boost, maybe from a female point of view. remember, take it slow, be honest %26amp; there should be no problems. *i am pretty sure you guys will make a fantastic and awesome couple =) keep me posted.
kudos! *wink*
Relationship advice. (some mature themes so if you are a kid look out.)?
I am in a nice relationship with a girl and have been for about a year. Things are starting to get a little stale sex wise, we both still love each other and are turned on by each other, but things are just a little boring. I thoght about trying some role playing but am worried about bringing it up to her. She is really straight laced and vanilla. The thing is a few nights ago she surprised me by being aggressive and initiating sex. That was what sparked the role play idea. So...any of you out there have any idea how I could approach her with this..and what to do? She lives with her parents so...it coudl be hard to do it when I visit her. I live alone so...it would be easier then if she is up for it..I just don't want to seem like I am pushing her or look like a pervert..so...I'm opening to you answers people and looking foolish. Any ideas..advice......joke...I promise not to go all ';Michael Richards'; on a few Heckelrs. so...yeah..help me out for ten points. Thanks.Relationship advice. (some mature themes so if you are a kid look out.)?
It is always tricky because it is nerve wracking tyring to test the limits without pushing her away.
You might just go for the direct approach, but without any pressure.
You can say you heard someone talking about it or read an article about it on the internet.
See what she thinks of it before you ask her to get into it.Relationship advice. (some mature themes so if you are a kid look out.)?
Be playful. Add a blindfold and go from there. If you start out small and ask her if she's comfortable as you go, you won't go wrong. Ask her what her biggest fantasy is and make it happen, then share yours and see if she'll play. If you're in a trusting relationship, it should be pretty easy to get over embarassment and shyness to talk about these things with each other.
i would start up a conversation, mention sex, start maybe asking questions, to see if she is open for ideas, if that doesnt work, bring up her being aggressive tell her u liked it, then mention role playing, if she gets a disturbed look on her face, laugh, and play it off!! good luck to ya!!!
I think the best thing you can do is just straight out, talk with her about it. If she is willing to make things different then you should bring up the role playing and stuff. However she may be totally opposed and think your a pig. You need to talk to her and see where she stands on the whole sex thing!!!
Get online and check out one of those sex toy sites. I used to work for Pure Romance, it is a pretty good one, but little Role Stuff, Just tons of cool adult toys, creams, gels, lubes, and I think a few ';Outfits';...ect ect. You could either have a brochure sent to your house and go through it with her online, or let her check it out online with you. Once you have broke that ground and she seems to be down with the ';VIBE';. Then you could try a little something more like ';talking very sexy';, then a little more kinky each time. Over a course of a month or so. See how far you can push it without offending her. You will be able to tell, she will talk back if she is down. This will make sex more exciting for you at least until you work your way to saying ';Hey baby, wanna be a Nurse next time?'; MOST OF THE TIME....the quiet straight laced chicks are the crazy chicks in bed. I learned that with the orders I used to fill for people I worked with in my office!!!
I think that a year is substantial amount of time to be able to bring this up comfortably. Just ask her if she has ever thought about it - if not, no harm, no foul. It isn't like you are asking her about some taboo thing like beastiality, right? Who knows, maybe she realy is into it but is thinking it would be better if you ,the male, brought it up as the aggressor. I dunno. give it a shot and good luck!!
It is always tricky because it is nerve wracking tyring to test the limits without pushing her away.
You might just go for the direct approach, but without any pressure.
You can say you heard someone talking about it or read an article about it on the internet.
See what she thinks of it before you ask her to get into it.Relationship advice. (some mature themes so if you are a kid look out.)?
Be playful. Add a blindfold and go from there. If you start out small and ask her if she's comfortable as you go, you won't go wrong. Ask her what her biggest fantasy is and make it happen, then share yours and see if she'll play. If you're in a trusting relationship, it should be pretty easy to get over embarassment and shyness to talk about these things with each other.
i would start up a conversation, mention sex, start maybe asking questions, to see if she is open for ideas, if that doesnt work, bring up her being aggressive tell her u liked it, then mention role playing, if she gets a disturbed look on her face, laugh, and play it off!! good luck to ya!!!
I think the best thing you can do is just straight out, talk with her about it. If she is willing to make things different then you should bring up the role playing and stuff. However she may be totally opposed and think your a pig. You need to talk to her and see where she stands on the whole sex thing!!!
Get online and check out one of those sex toy sites. I used to work for Pure Romance, it is a pretty good one, but little Role Stuff, Just tons of cool adult toys, creams, gels, lubes, and I think a few ';Outfits';...ect ect. You could either have a brochure sent to your house and go through it with her online, or let her check it out online with you. Once you have broke that ground and she seems to be down with the ';VIBE';. Then you could try a little something more like ';talking very sexy';, then a little more kinky each time. Over a course of a month or so. See how far you can push it without offending her. You will be able to tell, she will talk back if she is down. This will make sex more exciting for you at least until you work your way to saying ';Hey baby, wanna be a Nurse next time?'; MOST OF THE TIME....the quiet straight laced chicks are the crazy chicks in bed. I learned that with the orders I used to fill for people I worked with in my office!!!
I think that a year is substantial amount of time to be able to bring this up comfortably. Just ask her if she has ever thought about it - if not, no harm, no foul. It isn't like you are asking her about some taboo thing like beastiality, right? Who knows, maybe she realy is into it but is thinking it would be better if you ,the male, brought it up as the aggressor. I dunno. give it a shot and good luck!!
Relationship advice, Quick!?
i am dating someone at the moment, but not happy. I actually have been thinking about my current boyfriends friends more than him. Although my bf gives me everything and is a sweet guy, i am falling out of love with him it seems more and more daily. should i try to contant his friend and talk to him and tell him how i feel?
They really arnt that close, they just know eachother bc the guy i like is one of my boyfriends close girl friends ex's..
help please? i cant take this much longer!Relationship advice, Quick!?
If your falling out of love than just end things. You don't want to lead him on any more. He may think you love him a lot and you might just want to start off as friends with the other guy.Relationship advice, Quick!?
it is your life.
you can decide best. if you find the other guy , worth being with....then move on. Do not spoil your current fellow's life, and specially yours
The only person you need to speak with is your boyfriend. It may be difficult and you don't want to hurt his feelings but you need to. You can't drag him along in this relationship when you honestly don't feel anything for him. I had a relationship like that and I was just not into him. I was annoyed with him and I just didn't love him. I wasn't even seriously dating him. So I told him how I felt but as sad as he was he understood.
We don't talk much but it solved my problem and I moved on.
Ya gotta nip it in the bud as soon as you see theres a problem. Unless if you really like him you could try to work it out but if you can't see him in the future with you, get it over with. I know its kinda harsh to say, but its true hon. :/ I hope things work out in your favor.
if your not in love with ur bf dont be with him, dont talk to the guy untill u are free agent. rember this tho the grass is allways greener
I don't think you should contact the guy to see if he's into you first. I think you need to break-up with your boyfriend first because whether this other guy likes you or not doesn't change the fact that you aren't happy with your boyfriend. Why be selfish? If you're not happy with him let him go so that he can find happiness with someone else and then you can go after any guy you want without the guilt.
I would break off everything with your current boyfriend before contacting this other guy. You can't keep your current boyfriend around as a back up in case things fall through with the friend; that's messed up and wrong and someone will find out.
Once you break up with your current boyfriend, it's fine to call the other guy. Your boyfriend might be mad, but that's okay. Just try not to rub it in his face and be discreet about it.
You need to tell you current boyfriend that it isn't working out.Don't talk to anyone else unless you cant trust them completely and i really wouldn't advise one of his mates even if they aren't that close
They really arnt that close, they just know eachother bc the guy i like is one of my boyfriends close girl friends ex's..
help please? i cant take this much longer!Relationship advice, Quick!?
If your falling out of love than just end things. You don't want to lead him on any more. He may think you love him a lot and you might just want to start off as friends with the other guy.Relationship advice, Quick!?
it is your life.
you can decide best. if you find the other guy , worth being with....then move on. Do not spoil your current fellow's life, and specially yours
The only person you need to speak with is your boyfriend. It may be difficult and you don't want to hurt his feelings but you need to. You can't drag him along in this relationship when you honestly don't feel anything for him. I had a relationship like that and I was just not into him. I was annoyed with him and I just didn't love him. I wasn't even seriously dating him. So I told him how I felt but as sad as he was he understood.
We don't talk much but it solved my problem and I moved on.
Ya gotta nip it in the bud as soon as you see theres a problem. Unless if you really like him you could try to work it out but if you can't see him in the future with you, get it over with. I know its kinda harsh to say, but its true hon. :/ I hope things work out in your favor.
if your not in love with ur bf dont be with him, dont talk to the guy untill u are free agent. rember this tho the grass is allways greener
I don't think you should contact the guy to see if he's into you first. I think you need to break-up with your boyfriend first because whether this other guy likes you or not doesn't change the fact that you aren't happy with your boyfriend. Why be selfish? If you're not happy with him let him go so that he can find happiness with someone else and then you can go after any guy you want without the guilt.
I would break off everything with your current boyfriend before contacting this other guy. You can't keep your current boyfriend around as a back up in case things fall through with the friend; that's messed up and wrong and someone will find out.
Once you break up with your current boyfriend, it's fine to call the other guy. Your boyfriend might be mad, but that's okay. Just try not to rub it in his face and be discreet about it.
You need to tell you current boyfriend that it isn't working out.Don't talk to anyone else unless you cant trust them completely and i really wouldn't advise one of his mates even if they aren't that close
Relationship Advice! Stay and Try Hard or Is It Doomed?
I am a 19 year old male with a bad temper.
I have been together with my girlfriend for about a year now, and we have been living together for almost 3 months.
I have broken up with her several times (temper), but I always become regretful and she takes me back (last time we took a 3 day break).
I love her to death and put her first whenever I can, but I feel like she is loving me less and less as time goes on (less affection).
We have not had a steady sex life for 7 months (we used to 3-4 times a week minimum) and have not even attempted sex for at least 2 months (I want to frequently, but she does not ever want to). I have a large penis, and she has complained it hurt before.
The most intimacy we get is masturbating each other a few times a week, and when she does me, it seems like she just wants to get it over with, to not make me horny anymore.
I do not think she is cheating on me, but I get that worryin feeling frequently. I feel like she'd rather me not be there a lot.
HalpRelationship Advice! Stay and Try Hard or Is It Doomed?
You have communication issues that can't be solved with a simple answer on Yahoo! Answers. Go to couple's counseling. If you really love each other, you will stick it out.Relationship Advice! Stay and Try Hard or Is It Doomed?
so, you put her first whenever you can?
except when you put your temper first!
Go deal with yourself first... no one has the right to a bad temper... its just an excuse!!
no wonder she is moving away from you.
Will next time be a smack in the eye, but it isnt your fault cos after all, everyone knows you got a temper???
Think!
no#1 ur temper will turn any woman OFF Woman r external wht i mean is we respond more 2 u showin us lov outside of the bedroom than in If u want her 2 truly b with u u need 2 start actn lik u do ,mak lov 2 her mentally lt her c how u truly feel about her instead of shown ur anger The next time u break up it may b 4 good
I have been together with my girlfriend for about a year now, and we have been living together for almost 3 months.
I have broken up with her several times (temper), but I always become regretful and she takes me back (last time we took a 3 day break).
I love her to death and put her first whenever I can, but I feel like she is loving me less and less as time goes on (less affection).
We have not had a steady sex life for 7 months (we used to 3-4 times a week minimum) and have not even attempted sex for at least 2 months (I want to frequently, but she does not ever want to). I have a large penis, and she has complained it hurt before.
The most intimacy we get is masturbating each other a few times a week, and when she does me, it seems like she just wants to get it over with, to not make me horny anymore.
I do not think she is cheating on me, but I get that worryin feeling frequently. I feel like she'd rather me not be there a lot.
HalpRelationship Advice! Stay and Try Hard or Is It Doomed?
You have communication issues that can't be solved with a simple answer on Yahoo! Answers. Go to couple's counseling. If you really love each other, you will stick it out.Relationship Advice! Stay and Try Hard or Is It Doomed?
so, you put her first whenever you can?
except when you put your temper first!
Go deal with yourself first... no one has the right to a bad temper... its just an excuse!!
no wonder she is moving away from you.
Will next time be a smack in the eye, but it isnt your fault cos after all, everyone knows you got a temper???
Think!
no#1 ur temper will turn any woman OFF Woman r external wht i mean is we respond more 2 u showin us lov outside of the bedroom than in If u want her 2 truly b with u u need 2 start actn lik u do ,mak lov 2 her mentally lt her c how u truly feel about her instead of shown ur anger The next time u break up it may b 4 good
Relationship Advice Please!?
Ever feel like you want to text some one and scream I'M MADLY IN LOVE WITH YOU I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO BE WITH YOU!? I do right now, is that creepy?Relationship Advice Please!?
Well, if you really love that ';some one'; you should tell him/her what you really feel, because if you don't even try to tell him that you love him whatsoever, you might blame yourself that it's too late for you and him to start a relationship. good luck!Relationship Advice Please!?
yes i've felt that way before and even better i acted on that feelin and now i've got a wonderful man in my life who wants to make me his wife one day put it this way what do you have to loose he he doesnt feel the same way it means you get to note on and fall in love with someone else or maybe he will feel the same way and you'll end up like me happier than ever before :-) good luck
Yes...I've FELT like doing it. However, I never have. Yes, that would be a little creepy. Cute question, though...it made me laugh.
Well, feeling like that is probably normal, although it might scare away whoever you're ';madly in love'; with. Just check yourself: is it infatuation? Would you do anything FOR them, not just to BE WITH them? If you feel you really do love them, (love is a big commitment, don't take it too far) don't just scream through text messages. Ease into it, and actually talk to whoever it is. If you don't have the courage to talk, then just wait a little bit, maybe until you're older.
Well, if you really love that ';some one'; you should tell him/her what you really feel, because if you don't even try to tell him that you love him whatsoever, you might blame yourself that it's too late for you and him to start a relationship. good luck!Relationship Advice Please!?
yes i've felt that way before and even better i acted on that feelin and now i've got a wonderful man in my life who wants to make me his wife one day put it this way what do you have to loose he he doesnt feel the same way it means you get to note on and fall in love with someone else or maybe he will feel the same way and you'll end up like me happier than ever before :-) good luck
Yes...I've FELT like doing it. However, I never have. Yes, that would be a little creepy. Cute question, though...it made me laugh.
Well, feeling like that is probably normal, although it might scare away whoever you're ';madly in love'; with. Just check yourself: is it infatuation? Would you do anything FOR them, not just to BE WITH them? If you feel you really do love them, (love is a big commitment, don't take it too far) don't just scream through text messages. Ease into it, and actually talk to whoever it is. If you don't have the courage to talk, then just wait a little bit, maybe until you're older.
Relationship advice!!Please Help?
My boyfriends been acting strange and all so we were talking and he was like whats wrong and i said i dont think you love me anymore, he got mad and i apoligize and he don't ant to hear it what should i do.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!Relationship advice!!Please Help?
Ask him to sit down and just talk if he got mad then I would say he is not your forever guy. your forever guy will care about you enough to want to talk about feelings and concerns you may have. sounds to me like he might be looking for a way out. talk to him and figure out how He feels too since love is a two way streetRelationship advice!!Please Help?
Ouch that is a sharp blow to both of you. Guys start to act what we consider strange because they know hey thats my girl she is going no where and they don't try as hard. By telling him you think that he doesn't love you anymore it might have been like a slap in the face to him. Its not that he isn't accepting your apology its that he is hurt that you would think he doesn't care. My advice is this. Instead of saying that he doesn't love you anymore try telling him I wonder whats wrong because we don't do this or you do that. Whats up? Everything ok? Explain to him why you came on this idea. Just dont' hound him as hard as that is. He will come around he's just upset at the moment. For further speculation turn the table. Use your reaction to those words to see what you would want him to say to console you.
The problem is that you are telling him how he feels, and you don't know that for sure. Maybe he is dealing with some family issues, or something that is truly important to him, and possibly your relationship. My girlfriend tells me all the time that she doesn't think I love her anymore and I get MAD, too. It's very hurtful to have your girlfriend say that to a man, especially one that really cares about you.
Just talk to him and sort this all out. GOOD LUCK!
if you tell this guy you think he doesnt love you anymore, he should not get angry at you...someone who cares for you would, instead, comfort you and reassure you that you are wrong, and that he does. Him getting angry at you is probably a red flag, sweetie. It might be hard, but your instincts ARE ALWAYS RIGHT. If you feel something is wrong on his end, it probably is. You should back off a little, and perhaps even break things off...just remember...it's OK to hurt, its ok to cry if you are sad. As stupid as it sounds, time really does heal all hurts. You will feel better each day, and glad that you love yourself enough to walk away if it isnt whats best for you.
good luck
I am going to be completely honest with you, girl.
There are two options:
1. He is thinking about something else in his life, like a family member that died or maybe he did not get onto a sports team.
2. He loves someone else, but he still might love you, and he doe not want to hurt your feelings.
It's probably the first one. Maybe ask him what's wrong again.
Good lucks! All my hopes are with you.
he probably got mad cause u said u don't think he love me any more but he probably do love you just tell him how you feel and tell him 2 tell you how he feel just talk about how you feel
You should talk to him about. It's not going to be completely over until both of you get this off your chests.
Ask him how he feels
PLEASE HELP!!!!!Relationship advice!!Please Help?
Ask him to sit down and just talk if he got mad then I would say he is not your forever guy. your forever guy will care about you enough to want to talk about feelings and concerns you may have. sounds to me like he might be looking for a way out. talk to him and figure out how He feels too since love is a two way streetRelationship advice!!Please Help?
Ouch that is a sharp blow to both of you. Guys start to act what we consider strange because they know hey thats my girl she is going no where and they don't try as hard. By telling him you think that he doesn't love you anymore it might have been like a slap in the face to him. Its not that he isn't accepting your apology its that he is hurt that you would think he doesn't care. My advice is this. Instead of saying that he doesn't love you anymore try telling him I wonder whats wrong because we don't do this or you do that. Whats up? Everything ok? Explain to him why you came on this idea. Just dont' hound him as hard as that is. He will come around he's just upset at the moment. For further speculation turn the table. Use your reaction to those words to see what you would want him to say to console you.
The problem is that you are telling him how he feels, and you don't know that for sure. Maybe he is dealing with some family issues, or something that is truly important to him, and possibly your relationship. My girlfriend tells me all the time that she doesn't think I love her anymore and I get MAD, too. It's very hurtful to have your girlfriend say that to a man, especially one that really cares about you.
Just talk to him and sort this all out. GOOD LUCK!
if you tell this guy you think he doesnt love you anymore, he should not get angry at you...someone who cares for you would, instead, comfort you and reassure you that you are wrong, and that he does. Him getting angry at you is probably a red flag, sweetie. It might be hard, but your instincts ARE ALWAYS RIGHT. If you feel something is wrong on his end, it probably is. You should back off a little, and perhaps even break things off...just remember...it's OK to hurt, its ok to cry if you are sad. As stupid as it sounds, time really does heal all hurts. You will feel better each day, and glad that you love yourself enough to walk away if it isnt whats best for you.
good luck
I am going to be completely honest with you, girl.
There are two options:
1. He is thinking about something else in his life, like a family member that died or maybe he did not get onto a sports team.
2. He loves someone else, but he still might love you, and he doe not want to hurt your feelings.
It's probably the first one. Maybe ask him what's wrong again.
Good lucks! All my hopes are with you.
he probably got mad cause u said u don't think he love me any more but he probably do love you just tell him how you feel and tell him 2 tell you how he feel just talk about how you feel
You should talk to him about. It's not going to be completely over until both of you get this off your chests.
Ask him how he feels
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!! HELP?
What are the signs that my boyfriends friend likes me? He is always hitting on me and I want to know if that means he likes me and what are the signs that he likes me?RELATIONSHIP ADVICE!! HELP?
it depends on how u look at it. if u think he does. then just ask him. but make sure ur bf is with u when u ask.
because then the friend might make a move or something.
just be carefuleye pencil
it depends on how u look at it. if u think he does. then just ask him. but make sure ur bf is with u when u ask.
because then the friend might make a move or something.
just be careful
Relationship advice.?
me %26amp; my ex's relationship was perfect before we got together. as soon as we started dating in may 30, 2005 things went down hill. i fell for him fast and hard. we broke up in january of 06 but still remained talking. he had sex with another girl but i was so caught up in him i excused it and still talked to him. i would cry and beg to him, and he was so mean and cruel. around june of 06, i started talking to another guy for about 3 weeks and completely shut my ex out, but then i called to wish him a happy birthday and he started crying to me, saying that he never realized what he had and he would never treat me like that again. so i took him back and he treated me like gold for months, but because i had the upper hand i treared him terrible, so he finally backed off again, then i wanted him back. now he never wants to speak to me again, and i dont know what to do. this has happened before but he claims he had no feeling at all for me, but time away from him has made me realize so muchRelationship advice.?
You guys have done so much harm to each other it is obvious you are not meant to be. Everytime you hurt each other or you break up and then come back, there are more wounds in the relationship that can be healed, but they leave a scar in the trust area. You have so many scars now I find it hard you'll be able to put the past behind you and start from scratch. The proof is, when you had him back, out of resentment, you treated him like dirt.
Let go and move on.Relationship advice.?
First of all both of you need to grow up. If you want it to work sit down and talk to each other with a open mind. If this cant happen move on. It sounds like high school spats! Get it all out on the table if you want it to work. Forgive each other and surround yourselves with people who have meaningful and successful relationships and learn from you mistakes.
You guys have done so much harm to each other it is obvious you are not meant to be. Everytime you hurt each other or you break up and then come back, there are more wounds in the relationship that can be healed, but they leave a scar in the trust area. You have so many scars now I find it hard you'll be able to put the past behind you and start from scratch. The proof is, when you had him back, out of resentment, you treated him like dirt.
Let go and move on.Relationship advice.?
First of all both of you need to grow up. If you want it to work sit down and talk to each other with a open mind. If this cant happen move on. It sounds like high school spats! Get it all out on the table if you want it to work. Forgive each other and surround yourselves with people who have meaningful and successful relationships and learn from you mistakes.
I need some dating and relationship advice...?
i just realized that the man who means the most to me in my life is my ';whipping post'; what do i do?? it seems like every time that i talk to him i take out all of frusterations on him and i am a complete ******.I need some dating and relationship advice...?
does he stay with you and listen, and not get angry with you? if so, you resent him for not being an angry person. in a way you hate that he doesnt get angry with you. so you try to make him mad by pushing how far you can yell and scream at him. make sense?I need some dating and relationship advice...?
Stop and think about what you say before you say it. Is it hurtful? Then don't say it. Think about how you would feel is what you are about to say was said to you. And if something bad slips out, apoligize immediately.
If you're feeling so frustrated, maybe get a journal to write down everything that's been bothering you before you see him. That way, you'll have let off some steam on paper, rather than all over him.
Try whipping him literally
You love him.
Tell him and then give him a full body massage.
there are two big ways to relieve your frustration and your taking the hard route.
(A) this is the hard route, you make him the subject of all the pent up negativity you've developed since the last time you flipped on him.
(B) You let him help you come to terms with all that negativity. Good mediators will turn that painful energy into air.
If you are taking route A , then there is alot going wrong, you are bieng hurt (when you build up the frustration), you hold onto that hurt like a knife, you use the knife on the person you care the most about. When you hurt him, you hurt yourself and the pain just keeps going around and around.
You must realize that holding onto frustration and not letting it go is like carrying boms in a basket and not putting them down, holding onto them untill they blow up, hurting you and those who are close you.
If you decide to try B, you have to talk to him. He will either help you forget about why your angry (which is okay - why do you want to remember pain!?) or you can take it head on and just tell him about the most frusturating part(s) of your day. (the later is less efficient, but just talking to him will make you feel better.)
Venting your frustrations physically or in an emotionally damaging way towards another, is the worst you can do...throw away your whipping post. Why do you have to transfer negative feelings when you can simply put them down?
You are not a bad person to be mislead but you are a bad person if you continue to harbor evil ships
tell him you are sorry for stuff you do and tell him he's you most important person.
be honest
if he puts up with this, you truley have a good man.... but you wont for long if you do not learn to modify your behavior..... stop the ugly and start the beautiful....... when you find urself being a *******, stop, take a deep breath and say the word *sorry* and calm down and talk to him NOT at him..... you better take head of what I say, or you may just find urself talking to urself...... God bless
instead of using him as your whipping post use him as a sounding board...tell him what's really bothering you and ask him for his advice. I was in the same type of relationship until I realized that I was slowly driving him away. We did go to couples counseling and all is well...Good Luck.
Easy. Stop doing it.
If you can't, go see a therapist.
Rod
does he stay with you and listen, and not get angry with you? if so, you resent him for not being an angry person. in a way you hate that he doesnt get angry with you. so you try to make him mad by pushing how far you can yell and scream at him. make sense?I need some dating and relationship advice...?
Stop and think about what you say before you say it. Is it hurtful? Then don't say it. Think about how you would feel is what you are about to say was said to you. And if something bad slips out, apoligize immediately.
If you're feeling so frustrated, maybe get a journal to write down everything that's been bothering you before you see him. That way, you'll have let off some steam on paper, rather than all over him.
Try whipping him literally
You love him.
Tell him and then give him a full body massage.
there are two big ways to relieve your frustration and your taking the hard route.
(A) this is the hard route, you make him the subject of all the pent up negativity you've developed since the last time you flipped on him.
(B) You let him help you come to terms with all that negativity. Good mediators will turn that painful energy into air.
If you are taking route A , then there is alot going wrong, you are bieng hurt (when you build up the frustration), you hold onto that hurt like a knife, you use the knife on the person you care the most about. When you hurt him, you hurt yourself and the pain just keeps going around and around.
You must realize that holding onto frustration and not letting it go is like carrying boms in a basket and not putting them down, holding onto them untill they blow up, hurting you and those who are close you.
If you decide to try B, you have to talk to him. He will either help you forget about why your angry (which is okay - why do you want to remember pain!?) or you can take it head on and just tell him about the most frusturating part(s) of your day. (the later is less efficient, but just talking to him will make you feel better.)
Venting your frustrations physically or in an emotionally damaging way towards another, is the worst you can do...throw away your whipping post. Why do you have to transfer negative feelings when you can simply put them down?
You are not a bad person to be mislead but you are a bad person if you continue to harbor evil ships
tell him you are sorry for stuff you do and tell him he's you most important person.
be honest
if he puts up with this, you truley have a good man.... but you wont for long if you do not learn to modify your behavior..... stop the ugly and start the beautiful....... when you find urself being a *******, stop, take a deep breath and say the word *sorry* and calm down and talk to him NOT at him..... you better take head of what I say, or you may just find urself talking to urself...... God bless
instead of using him as your whipping post use him as a sounding board...tell him what's really bothering you and ask him for his advice. I was in the same type of relationship until I realized that I was slowly driving him away. We did go to couples counseling and all is well...Good Luck.
Easy. Stop doing it.
If you can't, go see a therapist.
Rod
I don't understand this? Relationship advice pleasE?
Me and my ex boyfriend broke up over a year ago. About 7 months into our relationship I fell out of love with him.
I hated myself for it. He was my best friend, and I wanted nothing more than to spend my life with him.
Even to this day, a year after breaking up, I want to be inlove with him. But i'm just not.
Have you ever wanted to be inlove with someone who your heart didn't want?I don't understand this? Relationship advice pleasE?
Get to know them better. This is not a task only to be accomplished through dating. The more you get to know him or her, the more you can tell if you like them as a friend or something else. Just talk and do fun activities with the person.
Stop and consider why you like the person. There are many physically attractive and smart people out there. But if you see something beyond that really catches your attention, you've marked this person as unique and probably like them. Why else would they stand out from so many?
Consider how many times you think about the person. If you find yourself thinking about this person several times a day, and they are happy thoughts that possibly make your heart beat faster, then you probably like them.
Think how often you laugh at their jokes etc. When you like someone, you will find yourself laughing at things even if they aren't that funny. This is a natural attempt to make them feel appreciated.
If the one conversation between you and the person is stuck in you head and you cant stop telling people about it. this means it was important to you, and you probably like the person.
Consider how much you try to be near them. If you've planned your walking speed to catch a glimpse of them as many times of the day as possible, there is a good reason for that.
Think about how you feel if you touch him or her, by accident or on purpose. If you're still thinking about brushing shoulders several hours ago in school, then that is a special thought and you probably like them.
If you feel you're ready for a relationship, and are confident enough for a positive response, then just go ahead and ask them out. If you're unsure of their feelings for you, there are several wikihows on how to tell if someone likes you.I don't understand this? Relationship advice pleasE?
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I hated myself for it. He was my best friend, and I wanted nothing more than to spend my life with him.
Even to this day, a year after breaking up, I want to be inlove with him. But i'm just not.
Have you ever wanted to be inlove with someone who your heart didn't want?I don't understand this? Relationship advice pleasE?
Get to know them better. This is not a task only to be accomplished through dating. The more you get to know him or her, the more you can tell if you like them as a friend or something else. Just talk and do fun activities with the person.
Stop and consider why you like the person. There are many physically attractive and smart people out there. But if you see something beyond that really catches your attention, you've marked this person as unique and probably like them. Why else would they stand out from so many?
Consider how many times you think about the person. If you find yourself thinking about this person several times a day, and they are happy thoughts that possibly make your heart beat faster, then you probably like them.
Think how often you laugh at their jokes etc. When you like someone, you will find yourself laughing at things even if they aren't that funny. This is a natural attempt to make them feel appreciated.
If the one conversation between you and the person is stuck in you head and you cant stop telling people about it. this means it was important to you, and you probably like the person.
Consider how much you try to be near them. If you've planned your walking speed to catch a glimpse of them as many times of the day as possible, there is a good reason for that.
Think about how you feel if you touch him or her, by accident or on purpose. If you're still thinking about brushing shoulders several hours ago in school, then that is a special thought and you probably like them.
If you feel you're ready for a relationship, and are confident enough for a positive response, then just go ahead and ask them out. If you're unsure of their feelings for you, there are several wikihows on how to tell if someone likes you.I don't understand this? Relationship advice pleasE?
Hi, if you are seeking love try this site http://setenons.cariaso.com it's free, and you don't need a credit card. I signed up 14 days back and I have secured three boyfriends to date!
I need a guys opinion?!! Relationship advice....?
I think my boyfriend is mad at me because I got a new car. He says he likes it but he doesn't act happy for me in any way. It's the only reason I can think of why he has been arguing with me so much lately. I have been trying to back track when we started to argue and it was the day after I had gotten a new car. We have been dating for 4 1/2 years and this is just wierd to me. And I've been trying to talk to him about why he's so angry lately and he just says ';I don't know';. It's been like this for almost two weeks!
Would you be acting like this too if your girlfriend had just gotten a new car?I need a guys opinion?!! Relationship advice....?
It seems to me like he has a bad case of jealousy as you can afford a new car. He could be insecure if he has alwaysdriven you and now you have your own wheels he is worried you can go where you want without him. Tell him to grow up or find someone else.I need a guys opinion?!! Relationship advice....?
Hell no!!!! I'd be doing my girl in her new back seat!!! He's just a little jealous boy. Dump him. He's a baby.
If my beloved got a new car, I'd be thrilled for her because I want her to be happy. Either this dude doesn't want you to be happy or he's got his eye on someone else. You need a guy who will be better to you than this. Don't fall into his abusive trap.
Well, he MIGHT feel immascualted. Or he might feel jealous that you got a brand new car that is better than his. Answer B might contribute towards answer A. Another theory of mine is that he might be worried you won't want to go into his car anymore. The final suggestion from me is that it has absolutely nothing to do with the car. Would I act like this personally? No, but just try not to do any of the things I listed above. Good luck ^^
Maybe he's jealous. Maybe this is a blow to his ego. I'd be very happy if my girlfriend got a new car. Especilly if it made her happy.
Would you be acting like this too if your girlfriend had just gotten a new car?I need a guys opinion?!! Relationship advice....?
It seems to me like he has a bad case of jealousy as you can afford a new car. He could be insecure if he has alwaysdriven you and now you have your own wheels he is worried you can go where you want without him. Tell him to grow up or find someone else.I need a guys opinion?!! Relationship advice....?
Hell no!!!! I'd be doing my girl in her new back seat!!! He's just a little jealous boy. Dump him. He's a baby.
If my beloved got a new car, I'd be thrilled for her because I want her to be happy. Either this dude doesn't want you to be happy or he's got his eye on someone else. You need a guy who will be better to you than this. Don't fall into his abusive trap.
Well, he MIGHT feel immascualted. Or he might feel jealous that you got a brand new car that is better than his. Answer B might contribute towards answer A. Another theory of mine is that he might be worried you won't want to go into his car anymore. The final suggestion from me is that it has absolutely nothing to do with the car. Would I act like this personally? No, but just try not to do any of the things I listed above. Good luck ^^
Maybe he's jealous. Maybe this is a blow to his ego. I'd be very happy if my girlfriend got a new car. Especilly if it made her happy.
ADVICE PLEASE!!! - girl who is in badly need of relationship advice?
OK, so there is this guy I like. He lives over in England and I was wondering should I tell him I like him through email? Or not! I lived over there for a while and now I am back here. I met him whilst I was over there. He wanted to date when I was there, but at the time I couldn't. I was struggling with an eating disorder and i didn't feel like it was a good time to date anyone. I didnt tell him about the eating disorder but Well im back here in the states now and I still have feelings for him. But im not sure if he likes me anymore. We email eachother and I dont know how to tell. Any advice?ADVICE PLEASE!!! - girl who is in badly need of relationship advice?
Yes, do so if you wish. Of course the distance thing is going to be rather difficult for you if he reciprocates the feelings and he may wonder why you've chosen to wait until now to tell him! So if you are going to do it, you'd be as well to come clean and tell him about the eating disorder too. Ultimately it is all up to you, but the distance thing is the biggest problem as far as I can see.
...Whaddaya know, I can answer a question without making fun of the person asking it! :-)ADVICE PLEASE!!! - girl who is in badly need of relationship advice?
Write him a letter and send it to him. That way if he really wants a relationship with you he will take the time to sit and write you back. Email is very impersonal and it doesnt say the same thing as a written letter. Good on you for not getting involved during your problem. Always take care of you first.
You should tell him exactly what you wrote in your question and see where it goes... Don't email it to him... it's so impersonal... Visit, call or even hand write a letter. However from experience, long distance relationships suck! They are really hard, but if you are both 100% truthful to each other it helps!
De hueva
Are you ever going back to England?... if not forget about him and move on... if so, tell him...
Ok first e-mail and tell him that you like him and did when you were in England, also tell him why, tell him about your eating disorder, it is a big part of your life, now after all this if he wants to continue a relationship with you then good, you have done what you should have done to begin with.
Yes i he wanted to date you back then, then yes because you like him. You should tell him in person once you meet him or by phone. but e-mail would also work too you know. And also tell him you had an eationg disorder he'll definatly understand you now.
Take care and go for it :]
No, do not tell him about your condition. You are doing better so keep quite about it.
You email him and tell him you were a little shy and are intersted.
If you go back to England, look him up first.
If you will never be able to go back then look for someone else.
First you should ask yourself if there is any reason to commit to a really long distance relationship. Then tell your self that you don't have to hide this problem from those whom really care about you. they will help if they don't they don't care. My advice is to go on with your life here and continue doing better for your self I understand the lonely thing and having a problem with it. Find yourself a support group, or a really close friendship that will listen to your problems. Without being judgmental. Experience
Okay this is kinda hard...
My opinion:tell him you like him, there is a good chance that he will respond the same way. I am assuming this because he was the one who wanted that date. But you should tell him you have an eating disorder. He will truly like you if he doesn't care about your eating disorder. (Honestly I think its pretty messed up to not like someone just because of an eating disorder)
My sister's opinion: don't tell him you lik ehim. He is in another country. Love is hard if you are like more than 2000 miles away. So I suggest you just stay as friends.
I hope you find either one of our suggestions helpful.
if you true love him then tell him are think about gowing back if you are think about go back then tell him at dinner or at park not over Emile about eating thing tell him by when you see him let him know you care a lot about him and you had issues about eat need a good Friend like him
My advice would be for you to come clean with him.......about everything. I would email him, because you can put thought into what you say and how you explain yourself.
Tell him why you didn't date him while you were there.........explaining the eating disorder, and why you weren't at a place where you felt you could get into a relationship.
Tell him that you find you do still have feelings for him, and that you would like to explore that.
Be honest with him. He will appreciate that more than giving him half stories............and it will be better to get it out in the open in the beginning.
Good luck! :)
I would definitely communicate the reason behind you being hesitant to date him and just be honest about your feelings towards him. You never know what could come of it. :o)
My advice is not to start a romantic relationship with him until your eating disorder is completely under wraps. Let him know that you want to be friends and tell him about the eating disorder. This way you have someone there to support you through your healing process and if you want to have a relationship later on with him, you guys are already friends.
Your age would help. Eating disorders are serious and complex. It tells me that you probably have emotional problems underlying and possibly until they are addressed, it would not be smart nor fair to the other party to tell them anything or enter into any kind of relationship right now. Get the essential help you need first. Friendship is always a plus and a great way to really get to know someone.
i think you should just tell him that you're ready to date now, and if he's already moved on then there's nothing more you can do. You should tell him about your eating disorder, im sure he will understand. i went through this same problem and it actually helped me a lot to have a boyfriend to talk to about it. good luck and happy christmas!!
Well it depends!!! Are You A shy girl or an blunt person???? That doesnt sound like a good idea telling him through email I would go with him and just talk about things and just ask him How he feels about you now that you have moved is he feelings still the same as they were?? Let him now honestly how you feel but if email is the only way you two have for contact Where would it lead to anyways????
Yes, do so if you wish. Of course the distance thing is going to be rather difficult for you if he reciprocates the feelings and he may wonder why you've chosen to wait until now to tell him! So if you are going to do it, you'd be as well to come clean and tell him about the eating disorder too. Ultimately it is all up to you, but the distance thing is the biggest problem as far as I can see.
...Whaddaya know, I can answer a question without making fun of the person asking it! :-)ADVICE PLEASE!!! - girl who is in badly need of relationship advice?
Write him a letter and send it to him. That way if he really wants a relationship with you he will take the time to sit and write you back. Email is very impersonal and it doesnt say the same thing as a written letter. Good on you for not getting involved during your problem. Always take care of you first.
You should tell him exactly what you wrote in your question and see where it goes... Don't email it to him... it's so impersonal... Visit, call or even hand write a letter. However from experience, long distance relationships suck! They are really hard, but if you are both 100% truthful to each other it helps!
De hueva
Are you ever going back to England?... if not forget about him and move on... if so, tell him...
Ok first e-mail and tell him that you like him and did when you were in England, also tell him why, tell him about your eating disorder, it is a big part of your life, now after all this if he wants to continue a relationship with you then good, you have done what you should have done to begin with.
Yes i he wanted to date you back then, then yes because you like him. You should tell him in person once you meet him or by phone. but e-mail would also work too you know. And also tell him you had an eationg disorder he'll definatly understand you now.
Take care and go for it :]
No, do not tell him about your condition. You are doing better so keep quite about it.
You email him and tell him you were a little shy and are intersted.
If you go back to England, look him up first.
If you will never be able to go back then look for someone else.
First you should ask yourself if there is any reason to commit to a really long distance relationship. Then tell your self that you don't have to hide this problem from those whom really care about you. they will help if they don't they don't care. My advice is to go on with your life here and continue doing better for your self I understand the lonely thing and having a problem with it. Find yourself a support group, or a really close friendship that will listen to your problems. Without being judgmental. Experience
Okay this is kinda hard...
My opinion:tell him you like him, there is a good chance that he will respond the same way. I am assuming this because he was the one who wanted that date. But you should tell him you have an eating disorder. He will truly like you if he doesn't care about your eating disorder. (Honestly I think its pretty messed up to not like someone just because of an eating disorder)
My sister's opinion: don't tell him you lik ehim. He is in another country. Love is hard if you are like more than 2000 miles away. So I suggest you just stay as friends.
I hope you find either one of our suggestions helpful.
if you true love him then tell him are think about gowing back if you are think about go back then tell him at dinner or at park not over Emile about eating thing tell him by when you see him let him know you care a lot about him and you had issues about eat need a good Friend like him
My advice would be for you to come clean with him.......about everything. I would email him, because you can put thought into what you say and how you explain yourself.
Tell him why you didn't date him while you were there.........explaining the eating disorder, and why you weren't at a place where you felt you could get into a relationship.
Tell him that you find you do still have feelings for him, and that you would like to explore that.
Be honest with him. He will appreciate that more than giving him half stories............and it will be better to get it out in the open in the beginning.
Good luck! :)
I would definitely communicate the reason behind you being hesitant to date him and just be honest about your feelings towards him. You never know what could come of it. :o)
My advice is not to start a romantic relationship with him until your eating disorder is completely under wraps. Let him know that you want to be friends and tell him about the eating disorder. This way you have someone there to support you through your healing process and if you want to have a relationship later on with him, you guys are already friends.
Your age would help. Eating disorders are serious and complex. It tells me that you probably have emotional problems underlying and possibly until they are addressed, it would not be smart nor fair to the other party to tell them anything or enter into any kind of relationship right now. Get the essential help you need first. Friendship is always a plus and a great way to really get to know someone.
i think you should just tell him that you're ready to date now, and if he's already moved on then there's nothing more you can do. You should tell him about your eating disorder, im sure he will understand. i went through this same problem and it actually helped me a lot to have a boyfriend to talk to about it. good luck and happy christmas!!
Well it depends!!! Are You A shy girl or an blunt person???? That doesnt sound like a good idea telling him through email I would go with him and just talk about things and just ask him How he feels about you now that you have moved is he feelings still the same as they were?? Let him now honestly how you feel but if email is the only way you two have for contact Where would it lead to anyways????
Why are women so confusing? Relationship advice needed!?
I came out of a long term relationship back in May, it ended badly and I got into in a rebound casual relationship with another girl. Three weeks ago I started getting chatted up at work, I'm a barman, by a gorgeous girl who is funny, intelligent, and everything I look for. We got talking and she was saying how much of a shame it was that I wasn't single, and I was thinking the same thing. I'm not a player, so I spoke to the rebound girl about everything, honesty is the best policy, and we ended it, turned out she wasn't after a relationship anyway. So I've spent time with this new lady, we have so much in common, from films to ice-cream to ambitions and beliefs. Nothing physical has happened other than a kiss, but she's said she really likes me. Then today she's told me that actually she isn't sure what she wants cos she isn't ready to get committed just yet, cos of work, etc. So confusing, thought it would be simple.... Should I back off and play it cool? Should I chase her? Help!Why are women so confusing? Relationship advice needed!?
You know how you stand on one side of the bar pouring drinks while she sits on the other side ordering? That's called a natural barrier. As long as she has one of those, it's exciting to flirt and play around with the person on the other side. It becomes a nice little fantasy and a stroke on the ol' ego. When that barrier is removed, there is a lingering effect of it for a little while, and then reality sets in.
She see's that it was more fun to flirt with someone unattainable than to be with him.
I'm sorry to say, reality set in.
Give her the space, continue to flirt at work, and remember, you don't actually need to go into a rebound relationship. If she likes you, she'll come aorund. If not, check out the redhead that's bound to come in next week.Why are women so confusing? Relationship advice needed!?
I say move on and come to me,,,,you sound nice
Do u feel gd when u r with her? Do u miss her when see is gone? if it is a yes to both then tell her how u fell, then give her time (guys woman r not that confussing) u can work it out
gd luck xxx
Well that`s what happen`s with two people with different lives.Take it as it is.Be friends if it`s mutual.Dont chase.Why dont You just enjoy talking to women,You dont have to have sex or want anything more.Perhaps this woman wants to see if Your over Your ex and doesn`t want to get hurt.Sort Your feelings out before You move on to a relationship.No maybe`s with ex.....friends,friends,friends
Somthing has happened:
1) You said/did somthing to make her skiddish. If not...
2) She scared herself, maybe starting liking you more than she is used to liking someone. If not...
3) She's met someone else and she wasn't that serious about you anyway.
***(I personally think it's #2)***
Back off and play it cool....wait until she finally tells you what she wants in and from the relationship and then make your move from there....
become friends with benifts she wont b commited and u still get 2 b around her also dont let her go she may come around some time
Play it cool. Don't get in touch as often as you normally would, see if she gets in touch with you. If she does, she likes you but just wants to take things slowly. If she doesn't get in touch then you'll know that she's changed her mind. Don't let her have complete control though, if she does get in touch, don't ask her out on a date, wait till she asks you or she'll start to think she has you wrapped round her finger. Relationships, new or old, are never simple, that's why we have to work harder for the ones we really want. Hope this makes sense to you, like you said, women are confusing. Hope you get what you want.
First of all women r not confusing mens brains just don't work that way. if shes not sure she wants a relationship don't push her, just wait until shes ready.
The only thing I can say to you is to not let her go!:)
I mean this sounds like the girl of your dreams, like she's made for you or something! jeje talk to her and tell her how you feel, that you're not ready and do not want to let her go so you'll be there for her and hope she'll realize what an amazing thing this can be for you two!;)
dont be so quick in opening up in future...you have only known these girls like five minutes and your reeling out your life story...some girls dont want to hear it...so maybe thats whats putting them off
doesnt sound as though you know what you want either!
play the field - but enjoy her company too
if you two are meant to be you will get together - in the meantime - you have a get out of jail free card mate!
U%26gt;S%26gt;E%26gt; I%26gt;T!!!!
Let her know that you can continue to casually date each other and when she is ready to commit to let you know about it since she is interested in you do not give up hope it will work out for the both of you
Let's see, you're asking if you should pressure your new freind into a ';step-up'; in your relationship?
Build on what you have instead of rushing in headlong.
Lay back for a while, she's probably looking for your maturity level.
back off - if shes playing games she'll realise her mistakes and change her ways - if she does need space - you're being obliging and giving it to her. Tell her you're still interested but will give her time to sort herself out. xx
Just take your time if its gona be right then you will no, if u rush into it, then your liable to mess it up....
Go out and have some fun....life to short to be hanging around, and if she is that interested she will make the moves...
Good luck, keep smiling..xx
i don't know.......what does your heart say?
poor you, maybe the fact that you were with someone was the ideal situation for her, or maybe she has really just decided that she doesn't want commitment. you don't say how long you have been seeing her - maybe you should talk to her and explain your disappointment and say, if she still enjoys your company could you see each other as friends and just play it cool. maybe you are showering her in feelings that she is just not ready for. If she feels that you are more serious than she is at this early stage then she is probably scared. perhaps she has been let down in the past and doesn't want to fall for you and it happen again. i wouldn't chase her, send a text or voice mail saying you understand and that you look forward to hearing from her, let her ring you, if after a week she doesn't then i think you have every right to ask her if she is ever going to be ready for a relationship with you or ask if you are wasting your time waiting. you may not get the answer you want but at least you will know where you stand and be able to move on, maybe back to your casual fling, for more of the same.eye pencil
You know how you stand on one side of the bar pouring drinks while she sits on the other side ordering? That's called a natural barrier. As long as she has one of those, it's exciting to flirt and play around with the person on the other side. It becomes a nice little fantasy and a stroke on the ol' ego. When that barrier is removed, there is a lingering effect of it for a little while, and then reality sets in.
She see's that it was more fun to flirt with someone unattainable than to be with him.
I'm sorry to say, reality set in.
Give her the space, continue to flirt at work, and remember, you don't actually need to go into a rebound relationship. If she likes you, she'll come aorund. If not, check out the redhead that's bound to come in next week.Why are women so confusing? Relationship advice needed!?
I say move on and come to me,,,,you sound nice
Do u feel gd when u r with her? Do u miss her when see is gone? if it is a yes to both then tell her how u fell, then give her time (guys woman r not that confussing) u can work it out
gd luck xxx
Well that`s what happen`s with two people with different lives.Take it as it is.Be friends if it`s mutual.Dont chase.Why dont You just enjoy talking to women,You dont have to have sex or want anything more.Perhaps this woman wants to see if Your over Your ex and doesn`t want to get hurt.Sort Your feelings out before You move on to a relationship.No maybe`s with ex.....friends,friends,friends
Somthing has happened:
1) You said/did somthing to make her skiddish. If not...
2) She scared herself, maybe starting liking you more than she is used to liking someone. If not...
3) She's met someone else and she wasn't that serious about you anyway.
***(I personally think it's #2)***
Back off and play it cool....wait until she finally tells you what she wants in and from the relationship and then make your move from there....
become friends with benifts she wont b commited and u still get 2 b around her also dont let her go she may come around some time
Play it cool. Don't get in touch as often as you normally would, see if she gets in touch with you. If she does, she likes you but just wants to take things slowly. If she doesn't get in touch then you'll know that she's changed her mind. Don't let her have complete control though, if she does get in touch, don't ask her out on a date, wait till she asks you or she'll start to think she has you wrapped round her finger. Relationships, new or old, are never simple, that's why we have to work harder for the ones we really want. Hope this makes sense to you, like you said, women are confusing. Hope you get what you want.
First of all women r not confusing mens brains just don't work that way. if shes not sure she wants a relationship don't push her, just wait until shes ready.
The only thing I can say to you is to not let her go!:)
I mean this sounds like the girl of your dreams, like she's made for you or something! jeje talk to her and tell her how you feel, that you're not ready and do not want to let her go so you'll be there for her and hope she'll realize what an amazing thing this can be for you two!;)
dont be so quick in opening up in future...you have only known these girls like five minutes and your reeling out your life story...some girls dont want to hear it...so maybe thats whats putting them off
doesnt sound as though you know what you want either!
play the field - but enjoy her company too
if you two are meant to be you will get together - in the meantime - you have a get out of jail free card mate!
U%26gt;S%26gt;E%26gt; I%26gt;T!!!!
Let her know that you can continue to casually date each other and when she is ready to commit to let you know about it since she is interested in you do not give up hope it will work out for the both of you
Let's see, you're asking if you should pressure your new freind into a ';step-up'; in your relationship?
Build on what you have instead of rushing in headlong.
Lay back for a while, she's probably looking for your maturity level.
back off - if shes playing games she'll realise her mistakes and change her ways - if she does need space - you're being obliging and giving it to her. Tell her you're still interested but will give her time to sort herself out. xx
Just take your time if its gona be right then you will no, if u rush into it, then your liable to mess it up....
Go out and have some fun....life to short to be hanging around, and if she is that interested she will make the moves...
Good luck, keep smiling..xx
i don't know.......what does your heart say?
poor you, maybe the fact that you were with someone was the ideal situation for her, or maybe she has really just decided that she doesn't want commitment. you don't say how long you have been seeing her - maybe you should talk to her and explain your disappointment and say, if she still enjoys your company could you see each other as friends and just play it cool. maybe you are showering her in feelings that she is just not ready for. If she feels that you are more serious than she is at this early stage then she is probably scared. perhaps she has been let down in the past and doesn't want to fall for you and it happen again. i wouldn't chase her, send a text or voice mail saying you understand and that you look forward to hearing from her, let her ring you, if after a week she doesn't then i think you have every right to ask her if she is ever going to be ready for a relationship with you or ask if you are wasting your time waiting. you may not get the answer you want but at least you will know where you stand and be able to move on, maybe back to your casual fling, for more of the same.
Female relationship advice please!!!!!?
I'm 15 and dated this girl last year and we broke up. i'm sure she likes me right now and i like her, but i would really like do date her for a more serious relationship later. should i ask her out now, or get closer to her and wait a year or two? any other suggestions?Female relationship advice please!!!!!?
I don't' understand one thing: you seem to suggest that dating her now would interfere with getting closer to her. If that's so, then I think there's something seriously wrong with the dating model. If you want something serious, practice as much as you can. Relate on as many levels as you can. In short, tell her that you're interested in as close and as long-term a relationsip as the two of you can grow. Then work on it.
I don't' understand one thing: you seem to suggest that dating her now would interfere with getting closer to her. If that's so, then I think there's something seriously wrong with the dating model. If you want something serious, practice as much as you can. Relate on as many levels as you can. In short, tell her that you're interested in as close and as long-term a relationsip as the two of you can grow. Then work on it.
Mature relationship advice?
my guy and i've been seeing each other for a while and we recently got in a huge argument about religion. hes athiest and i am a christian although the differences are not important at this point. he is a philosphy major and apparently his hobby is iniating debates with me over religion. i've made it clear its a hot topic and feelings get hurt when he continues. during this fight i realized that its almost impossible for him to open up with me and share his feelings. when this happens he tends to ignore my phone calls and later says he didnt want to talk so he doesnt say something hurtful. everything else is perfect.. i just feel like he doesnt give a lick about my feelings.. i'd like to explain this to him but even with this above explanation, it doesnt get through..Mature relationship advice?
I know what's it's like to be in a relationship like that, the only difference is I'm the one that's not Christian.
Here is the best advice I can give. If the argument is always the same thing, use the ';broken record'; tactic.
He starts to debate about the religion, you say, ';uh huh, not going to argue/talk about this subject'; (use your own words). Say it calmly and with little emotion.
He might continue and you continue to say the exact same thing. Don't get heated, don't agrue, don't even change the tone of your voice. It will annoy the hell out of him and probably upset him for awhile, but if you let him argue, it will upset you.
If everything else is perfect than this shouldn't ruin the relationship.
Best of luck.
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Wait, you want to break up with him?? Then why do you need to tell him anything... it will make him beg for you to stay. Break up with him, tell him you are sorry it's just not working out, and lose all contact with him.
If you stay nice to him, it might lead him on. Or if you keep contact you might begin to regret it for no logical reason.Mature relationship advice?
It may be that he feels like you are not listening to him and how he feels. You said that it was over disagreeing opinions, sometimes its hard to disagree and still let the other person have their own thoughts on the matter. It becomes about who's right and wrong, and that hurts both people. He probably thinks he was opening up and sharing his feelings, and you got upset with him.
Tips to try:
1. Use sentences like ';I understand you feel that way, I just don't feel that way';.
2. Repeat back what you heard him say. ';So your saying you think....';
3. Use ';I'; sentences. ';I feel hurt when you say.... because I think your saying.....';
Bottom line, he probably is trying to get close to you, and I'm sure he does care about your feelings, he's just trying to do that without feeling hurt himself.
Being a Christian you know that being unequally yoked is not what the Lord wants for your life.
Every time I got involved with someone who was not religious I found that I started slacking off on Church and bible study....things I enjoy and make me feel good. Oh, believe me I thought my love and prayers could change them and it probably could have if I stayed on the path. I am learning through experience.
What I am getting at is do not settle. IF everything is perfect and in Gods perfect will, then pray for your boyfriend to heal. Maybe your debates is making him feel you don't care as well as you are not understanding his philosophical point of view. It's like with my guy...do NOT discuss politics because it is the same dead end argument.
I would suggest #1: talking to your minister and get guidance from him. #2: Take a Religion class at the local community college. I took a wonderful class that used the bible as a literature standpoint and I was able to understand the bible better but also being able to view the bible on a philosophical level as well.
If you are strong in your faith, then you will know what the right thing to do is.
Sounds like maybe you should put this discussion on hold, still do your prayer, church whatever but NEVER force your spiritual beliefs on anyone. If he sees you blossom in spirit and vitality that is attractive. You can't CONTROL someone nor he you so let it go. By saying he DOESN';T listen sounds like you really want him to see your view and so if he dissagrees there is no peace. Let it go...be healthy by doing your own thing and he may come around. Maybe he isn't athiest just doesn't see things the way YOU do. Faith and pray to Jesus for guidence. JESUS always knocks as a GENTLEMAN NOT knocks down your door...PEACE OUT!
well first off i would say if it's hurting you to be with him then you are probably better off by yourself because you can do bad by yourself and secondly think about the future how can you settle down with someone whom doesn't share the same beliefs as you every time that subject comes up there will be problems and what would your parents think? i say just let him know how you feel and that things are difficult b/c the two of you have different religions and that things won't work out if he can't reason with you and if he ask what your saying or what you mean just tell him it takes two and if he can't meet you half way then your leaving i know it won't be easy but it will be worth it%26gt; good luck sweetie
Dump him and find someone who will respect both you and your feelings.
my last GF and I broke up over the same thing. We agreed that it was just a fundamental irreconcilable difference between us. We still love and respect each other, and we also still know we made the right decision to part ways.
It's hard, but you both need to be honest with each other. Strong (but differing) religious convictions are relationship killers. You need to have the discussion soon.
It sounds like your decision has been made. But if you are going to talk to him about it, at least go in open-minded enough to give him one last chance to open up. It seems to me that if you care enough to explain yourself to him, you should also be willing to extend one last benefit of the doubt.
...and it never will either.
Dump this guy and find someone you are more compatible with. Your religious differences are too great for you to be anything more than just boyfriend and girlfriend. He clearly likes to piss you off, is that really what you want in a boyfriend.?
since it's not the first time, it seems like there is a lot built up behind all of this. Even though everything else is perfect, this sounds like a big issue.
If you've made it perfectly clear that this is a very touchy subject with you, and he still continues to push the topic then it honestly just seems that his inclincation to debate things is only because he likes to hear himself talk, and feels good talking ';deep.';
He's making the right move by telling you he doesn't want to say anything hurtful, the problem is he waits until AFTER the fact to worry about your feelings.
Sharing thoughts and feelings on issues is important but not to the extent where yours are being belittled.
You are your own person and not all beliefs/ideas are going to match his perfectly, he needs to understand AND appreciate that.
I don't really know how to resolve this other than being honest with him about this and telling him if he HAS to debate issues then he needs to consider the importance of your feelings just as much, if not more, than his own ideas.
Try and talk to him though because the more this happens the harder it will be to put it behind you to the point where it stirs up anger and resentment.
Best of luck!
religion IS a delicate matter... if you can't hadle it now... it will be more complicated in the future especially if he's debating kinda guy.... marriage... kids... parents in-law. whew!... can't help you there missy. good luck.
I know what's it's like to be in a relationship like that, the only difference is I'm the one that's not Christian.
Here is the best advice I can give. If the argument is always the same thing, use the ';broken record'; tactic.
He starts to debate about the religion, you say, ';uh huh, not going to argue/talk about this subject'; (use your own words). Say it calmly and with little emotion.
He might continue and you continue to say the exact same thing. Don't get heated, don't agrue, don't even change the tone of your voice. It will annoy the hell out of him and probably upset him for awhile, but if you let him argue, it will upset you.
If everything else is perfect than this shouldn't ruin the relationship.
Best of luck.
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Wait, you want to break up with him?? Then why do you need to tell him anything... it will make him beg for you to stay. Break up with him, tell him you are sorry it's just not working out, and lose all contact with him.
If you stay nice to him, it might lead him on. Or if you keep contact you might begin to regret it for no logical reason.Mature relationship advice?
It may be that he feels like you are not listening to him and how he feels. You said that it was over disagreeing opinions, sometimes its hard to disagree and still let the other person have their own thoughts on the matter. It becomes about who's right and wrong, and that hurts both people. He probably thinks he was opening up and sharing his feelings, and you got upset with him.
Tips to try:
1. Use sentences like ';I understand you feel that way, I just don't feel that way';.
2. Repeat back what you heard him say. ';So your saying you think....';
3. Use ';I'; sentences. ';I feel hurt when you say.... because I think your saying.....';
Bottom line, he probably is trying to get close to you, and I'm sure he does care about your feelings, he's just trying to do that without feeling hurt himself.
Being a Christian you know that being unequally yoked is not what the Lord wants for your life.
Every time I got involved with someone who was not religious I found that I started slacking off on Church and bible study....things I enjoy and make me feel good. Oh, believe me I thought my love and prayers could change them and it probably could have if I stayed on the path. I am learning through experience.
What I am getting at is do not settle. IF everything is perfect and in Gods perfect will, then pray for your boyfriend to heal. Maybe your debates is making him feel you don't care as well as you are not understanding his philosophical point of view. It's like with my guy...do NOT discuss politics because it is the same dead end argument.
I would suggest #1: talking to your minister and get guidance from him. #2: Take a Religion class at the local community college. I took a wonderful class that used the bible as a literature standpoint and I was able to understand the bible better but also being able to view the bible on a philosophical level as well.
If you are strong in your faith, then you will know what the right thing to do is.
Sounds like maybe you should put this discussion on hold, still do your prayer, church whatever but NEVER force your spiritual beliefs on anyone. If he sees you blossom in spirit and vitality that is attractive. You can't CONTROL someone nor he you so let it go. By saying he DOESN';T listen sounds like you really want him to see your view and so if he dissagrees there is no peace. Let it go...be healthy by doing your own thing and he may come around. Maybe he isn't athiest just doesn't see things the way YOU do. Faith and pray to Jesus for guidence. JESUS always knocks as a GENTLEMAN NOT knocks down your door...PEACE OUT!
well first off i would say if it's hurting you to be with him then you are probably better off by yourself because you can do bad by yourself and secondly think about the future how can you settle down with someone whom doesn't share the same beliefs as you every time that subject comes up there will be problems and what would your parents think? i say just let him know how you feel and that things are difficult b/c the two of you have different religions and that things won't work out if he can't reason with you and if he ask what your saying or what you mean just tell him it takes two and if he can't meet you half way then your leaving i know it won't be easy but it will be worth it%26gt; good luck sweetie
Dump him and find someone who will respect both you and your feelings.
my last GF and I broke up over the same thing. We agreed that it was just a fundamental irreconcilable difference between us. We still love and respect each other, and we also still know we made the right decision to part ways.
It's hard, but you both need to be honest with each other. Strong (but differing) religious convictions are relationship killers. You need to have the discussion soon.
It sounds like your decision has been made. But if you are going to talk to him about it, at least go in open-minded enough to give him one last chance to open up. It seems to me that if you care enough to explain yourself to him, you should also be willing to extend one last benefit of the doubt.
...and it never will either.
Dump this guy and find someone you are more compatible with. Your religious differences are too great for you to be anything more than just boyfriend and girlfriend. He clearly likes to piss you off, is that really what you want in a boyfriend.?
since it's not the first time, it seems like there is a lot built up behind all of this. Even though everything else is perfect, this sounds like a big issue.
If you've made it perfectly clear that this is a very touchy subject with you, and he still continues to push the topic then it honestly just seems that his inclincation to debate things is only because he likes to hear himself talk, and feels good talking ';deep.';
He's making the right move by telling you he doesn't want to say anything hurtful, the problem is he waits until AFTER the fact to worry about your feelings.
Sharing thoughts and feelings on issues is important but not to the extent where yours are being belittled.
You are your own person and not all beliefs/ideas are going to match his perfectly, he needs to understand AND appreciate that.
I don't really know how to resolve this other than being honest with him about this and telling him if he HAS to debate issues then he needs to consider the importance of your feelings just as much, if not more, than his own ideas.
Try and talk to him though because the more this happens the harder it will be to put it behind you to the point where it stirs up anger and resentment.
Best of luck!
religion IS a delicate matter... if you can't hadle it now... it will be more complicated in the future especially if he's debating kinda guy.... marriage... kids... parents in-law. whew!... can't help you there missy. good luck.
Everyone please help me out , i need some relationship advice?
this girl rejected me a month ago, because i was too fast. were friendly now. should i pursue a relationship? shes really popular and im really not so popular buy i like her. could she playing games with me by being friendly? we seem to be comfortable conversing via text. and i do not bombard her with messages. should i still be friends with her and take it from there or forget her?Everyone please help me out , i need some relationship advice?
Just be friends.....If you like someone, it doen't mean that you the other party must like you.....It's alright to be friends....Everyone please help me out , i need some relationship advice?
remain friends with her, and go slower in courting her if she said you are fast. nothing wrong with showing your affection.
forget it and move on. you will have more success by ignoring her than you will by keeping friends with her. you don't need women friends. you have guy friends. the only reason men keep women as friends is because of the slight possibility of banging her someday. but when you are on the friend's list, its really hard to get off of that and move up to the in her bed list. give it up and move on dude. grow some balls. listen to tom lycus on the radio, you will learn so much.. good luck.
Everyone can use friends. If you can handle just having a friendship. Can you be just friends or are your feelings to strong?
Just be friends.....If you like someone, it doen't mean that you the other party must like you.....It's alright to be friends....Everyone please help me out , i need some relationship advice?
remain friends with her, and go slower in courting her if she said you are fast. nothing wrong with showing your affection.
forget it and move on. you will have more success by ignoring her than you will by keeping friends with her. you don't need women friends. you have guy friends. the only reason men keep women as friends is because of the slight possibility of banging her someday. but when you are on the friend's list, its really hard to get off of that and move up to the in her bed list. give it up and move on dude. grow some balls. listen to tom lycus on the radio, you will learn so much.. good luck.
Everyone can use friends. If you can handle just having a friendship. Can you be just friends or are your feelings to strong?
Help relationship advice. ?
what do girls mean when they say they want some space. because normally for me its '; i want to split up '; but the girl im with at the moment we are rly in love and we always tell each other. can sum1 tell me what she rly means by this?????Help relationship advice. ?
give her a couple of days to herself. then try talking to her again.
give her a couple of days to herself. then try talking to her again.
Dating/ relationship advice!?
I've never been in a real relationship b4 and i'm starting college in august. I hope i'll find someone, but how will i know if i'm in a good relationship? Any advice on dating and seperating the players from the sincere ones?Dating/ relationship advice!?
dont go for the guys who put themselves out there, u will find the guys who r most true as quiet. stuck up guys will never stop flirting with other girls and they might even cheat on you. the quiet guys r always sweeter and honest.Dating/ relationship advice!?
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dont go for the guys who put themselves out there, u will find the guys who r most true as quiet. stuck up guys will never stop flirting with other girls and they might even cheat on you. the quiet guys r always sweeter and honest.Dating/ relationship advice!?
Check ';Ask April dating tips'; in the left anvigation bar of http://www.millionairecupid.com You will get useful tips by reading the articles of dating expert. No need to repeat these long messages here, just check it youself.
Anyone has experienced Aquarius female and Scorpio male relationship? Advice immensely appreciated.?
I got to know this scorpio guy who seemed to be really cool, deep thinker, intellegent and independant. I'm an Aquarius, really need your advice on how to work it out with him since I've heard that Scorpio/Aquarius match doesn't normally work quite well. Please give me some advice and show me some experience of how the relationship might go/
He was like inviting me to hang out with him and I said yes. Dunno what I should pay attention to on the first date. Thanks!Anyone has experienced Aquarius female and Scorpio male relationship? Advice immensely appreciated.?
Ahhh, Scorpio males. A subject I know well.
I can tell you a bit about them. They do tend to be intense. It is all or nothing with them. They do have a tendency to be overly jealous. Not something that can't be controlled...but you will have to except it and be faithful. Be prepared to give up male friends.
They are sexual creatures. Romantic, in love with love.
They are thinkers. Most will think out a problem before they will share it with you.
Most hold a position in life...don't like to settle for less.
They can be a interesting mate for life. Never a dull minute. A mind like a steel trap.
I have one and It's the best move I ever made.Anyone has experienced Aquarius female and Scorpio male relationship? Advice immensely appreciated.?
ignore signs of the zodiac, and live by common sense, not by stars.
I'm an Aqua male and also admire Scorps. But I'd stay away from a relationship with one myself. Once a Scorpio female told me that she'd eat me alive and I really believed she could. They are very intense and deep thinkers. They can be your best friend or your worst enemy if you p!ss them off. Just be careful.
As far as the date, just be your normal cool self. That's why he invited you out, he likes you for the way you are...apparently. Just don't let him try to make any moves on you if you're not ready, okay?eye pencil
He was like inviting me to hang out with him and I said yes. Dunno what I should pay attention to on the first date. Thanks!Anyone has experienced Aquarius female and Scorpio male relationship? Advice immensely appreciated.?
Ahhh, Scorpio males. A subject I know well.
I can tell you a bit about them. They do tend to be intense. It is all or nothing with them. They do have a tendency to be overly jealous. Not something that can't be controlled...but you will have to except it and be faithful. Be prepared to give up male friends.
They are sexual creatures. Romantic, in love with love.
They are thinkers. Most will think out a problem before they will share it with you.
Most hold a position in life...don't like to settle for less.
They can be a interesting mate for life. Never a dull minute. A mind like a steel trap.
I have one and It's the best move I ever made.Anyone has experienced Aquarius female and Scorpio male relationship? Advice immensely appreciated.?
ignore signs of the zodiac, and live by common sense, not by stars.
I'm an Aqua male and also admire Scorps. But I'd stay away from a relationship with one myself. Once a Scorpio female told me that she'd eat me alive and I really believed she could. They are very intense and deep thinkers. They can be your best friend or your worst enemy if you p!ss them off. Just be careful.
As far as the date, just be your normal cool self. That's why he invited you out, he likes you for the way you are...apparently. Just don't let him try to make any moves on you if you're not ready, okay?
Major relationship advice needed?
There's these two girls I really like. One lives in Ohio with me, the other in New Jersey.
I'm practically in love with the one in Ohio, and she really likes me, and the one in NJ loves me, and I really like her. I cant live without either one.
I've tried to keep the two from knowing each other, but now there's a huge problem. In mid-July, I'm going to NYC, the NJ girl is meeting me there, and the girl from here is also going to NYC with me. There is almost no way to avoid them two meeting. How can I break it to both of them about each other beforehand without either one getting hurt?
I should also add that, although there is two girls, there is a good reason for it. The OH girl stopped liking me for a while cuz she began dating another guy, so I started talking to the NJ girl. Now the OH girl is single and likes me again, and the NJ girl already loves me. I know someone will get hurt by this, but how can i soften the blow?Major relationship advice needed?
let me get this straight...you were seeing the oh girl and she started seeing someone else. you got with nj and oh became available again. you didnt bother to tell oh that you had moved on. so your at fault. tell them both the truth. there is no softening the blow. take your lumps.Major relationship advice needed?
that's your bad.
you got your self in some deep trouble...all i can tell you is follow your heart no matter what it will tell you whats right and another thing girls need to be treated better than that. so do yourself a favor and don't do that again or your gonna end up with no one.
I'm practically in love with the one in Ohio, and she really likes me, and the one in NJ loves me, and I really like her. I cant live without either one.
I've tried to keep the two from knowing each other, but now there's a huge problem. In mid-July, I'm going to NYC, the NJ girl is meeting me there, and the girl from here is also going to NYC with me. There is almost no way to avoid them two meeting. How can I break it to both of them about each other beforehand without either one getting hurt?
I should also add that, although there is two girls, there is a good reason for it. The OH girl stopped liking me for a while cuz she began dating another guy, so I started talking to the NJ girl. Now the OH girl is single and likes me again, and the NJ girl already loves me. I know someone will get hurt by this, but how can i soften the blow?Major relationship advice needed?
let me get this straight...you were seeing the oh girl and she started seeing someone else. you got with nj and oh became available again. you didnt bother to tell oh that you had moved on. so your at fault. tell them both the truth. there is no softening the blow. take your lumps.Major relationship advice needed?
that's your bad.
you got your self in some deep trouble...all i can tell you is follow your heart no matter what it will tell you whats right and another thing girls need to be treated better than that. so do yourself a favor and don't do that again or your gonna end up with no one.
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Some relationship advice, please help?!?
so theres this kid that i like on my bus. weve never talked before, but we always make eye contact in the hallways and smila at eachother. so this past friday i asked him if he could help me on some spanish homework, and he agreed. he was stuttering and i think he was nervous to talk to me.
soo. what are some cute/flirty conversation starters, but that dont sound to weird or anything. please help(:Some relationship advice, please help?!?
It could be that he stutters, and if that is the case, you can help him talk more easily if you slow your speech down so he will pattern his speech after you. If you act like you have all the time in the world and are not in a hurry for him to speak, he will have it easier. Do not finish his sentences or help him with words he is having problems with; just listen patiently until he finishes. Do no mention his stuttering or let your facial reaction show that it bothers or confuses you. Treat him like anyone who talks well.
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Well first of all, don't spend the whole time talking about other things, if you asked him for help in spanish and then didn't talk about it, it may look like you just asked him to talk to him, which might come off a little weird. I mean, if he likes you, he wouldn't mind that you just asked him to talk, but still.
But other then that, talk about school, music, movies, don't start off talking about boyfriends and dating, act like it's just a friend at first, then after maybe ask him to lunch or something.
Sometimes playful poking is used as a flirting method. Batter your eyelashes and keep up your smiles.
Simple conversation starters such as ';How was your day?'; Or ';How are you doing?'; shows you care.
Eventually you can ask, ';Are you dating anyone?'; That can be considered as flirting.
Be sure to invite him to events, or simply walk with him in the hallway.
First, look for simple little things that shows that he really likes you.
here are some stuff you should try:
When your having a convo with him standing up, try doing gestures like rubbing your arm and holding the side of you neck while your talking. if he mocks your moves without even noticing, thats one clue that he's totally into you!
when you guys are talking and his feet are both facing straight toward you, theres another sign! or if his pupils become larger thats how you know hes attracted to you! try those stuff and if he shows he likes you, take it to another level and try flirting.
Maybe a little friendly peck on the cheek or showing off your smile will make him crazy for you!!
Hope this works, -Mella
something to get you started might be school. i know it sounds lame but if you talk about teachers you dont like or something of the sort then it might break the ice with a common subject. after that you might talk aboout some funny movies. just something you can both laugh and have fun with. maybe after that he will be more comfertable and ask you on a date. that is what happened with me and my girlfriend.
try playing this game...
';ok, i'll ask you a question and answer it myself, then you anwer it.
then you do the same thing.';
and eventually, you'll learn everything you want to know about him.
just start out with simpke questions, like fav colors, then later get to more serious things.
Well, when he comes right through the door you and gets settled in always offer your guest a drink. If he says yes tell him what you have. If he says no just get started right away and show him the questions you don't get at all.
be cheesy and laugh it off. thts fun to do.
'; If you were homework... id do you every night';
or be childish and mess his hair
or sit real close so when you donw undertand kinda bump ur head iwht his an dbe liek i need you to radiat ur brian power!
Tell him that he is so helpful with your spanish, that you need help with something else. Then tell him you are not so good with guys, and ask him the same question you asked here.
Try this....but honestly it will come naturally.
http://www.links2love.com/flirting_1.htm
Maybe he is just shy in general.
Just keep opening up to him.
But, yes, I would say he is interested in you!
Alex
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Next time when you see him tell him you still need help with your spanish homework. Maybe then he would tell you when he can help you or not.
well just ask him during the Spanish helping if he ever would travel since he is learning it and just start from there u knw like tell him u wanna travel and get the conversation flowin!!!! hey help me with mine!! thx!!
You should just start making funny jokes or just playing around! If this guy likes you then it'll show. Just don't be too forward because guys hate that.
Just put a secret admirer inside of his locker and see what he do.
just kiss him on the cheek and watch him blush it will be funny
soo. what are some cute/flirty conversation starters, but that dont sound to weird or anything. please help(:Some relationship advice, please help?!?
It could be that he stutters, and if that is the case, you can help him talk more easily if you slow your speech down so he will pattern his speech after you. If you act like you have all the time in the world and are not in a hurry for him to speak, he will have it easier. Do not finish his sentences or help him with words he is having problems with; just listen patiently until he finishes. Do no mention his stuttering or let your facial reaction show that it bothers or confuses you. Treat him like anyone who talks well.
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Well first of all, don't spend the whole time talking about other things, if you asked him for help in spanish and then didn't talk about it, it may look like you just asked him to talk to him, which might come off a little weird. I mean, if he likes you, he wouldn't mind that you just asked him to talk, but still.
But other then that, talk about school, music, movies, don't start off talking about boyfriends and dating, act like it's just a friend at first, then after maybe ask him to lunch or something.
Sometimes playful poking is used as a flirting method. Batter your eyelashes and keep up your smiles.
Simple conversation starters such as ';How was your day?'; Or ';How are you doing?'; shows you care.
Eventually you can ask, ';Are you dating anyone?'; That can be considered as flirting.
Be sure to invite him to events, or simply walk with him in the hallway.
First, look for simple little things that shows that he really likes you.
here are some stuff you should try:
When your having a convo with him standing up, try doing gestures like rubbing your arm and holding the side of you neck while your talking. if he mocks your moves without even noticing, thats one clue that he's totally into you!
when you guys are talking and his feet are both facing straight toward you, theres another sign! or if his pupils become larger thats how you know hes attracted to you! try those stuff and if he shows he likes you, take it to another level and try flirting.
Maybe a little friendly peck on the cheek or showing off your smile will make him crazy for you!!
Hope this works, -Mella
something to get you started might be school. i know it sounds lame but if you talk about teachers you dont like or something of the sort then it might break the ice with a common subject. after that you might talk aboout some funny movies. just something you can both laugh and have fun with. maybe after that he will be more comfertable and ask you on a date. that is what happened with me and my girlfriend.
try playing this game...
';ok, i'll ask you a question and answer it myself, then you anwer it.
then you do the same thing.';
and eventually, you'll learn everything you want to know about him.
just start out with simpke questions, like fav colors, then later get to more serious things.
Well, when he comes right through the door you and gets settled in always offer your guest a drink. If he says yes tell him what you have. If he says no just get started right away and show him the questions you don't get at all.
be cheesy and laugh it off. thts fun to do.
'; If you were homework... id do you every night';
or be childish and mess his hair
or sit real close so when you donw undertand kinda bump ur head iwht his an dbe liek i need you to radiat ur brian power!
Tell him that he is so helpful with your spanish, that you need help with something else. Then tell him you are not so good with guys, and ask him the same question you asked here.
Try this....but honestly it will come naturally.
http://www.links2love.com/flirting_1.htm
Maybe he is just shy in general.
Just keep opening up to him.
But, yes, I would say he is interested in you!
Alex
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Next time when you see him tell him you still need help with your spanish homework. Maybe then he would tell you when he can help you or not.
well just ask him during the Spanish helping if he ever would travel since he is learning it and just start from there u knw like tell him u wanna travel and get the conversation flowin!!!! hey help me with mine!! thx!!
You should just start making funny jokes or just playing around! If this guy likes you then it'll show. Just don't be too forward because guys hate that.
Just put a secret admirer inside of his locker and see what he do.
just kiss him on the cheek and watch him blush it will be funny
What advice would you give for a Catholic/Protestant relationship. Marriage, Kids, Schools etc...?
We're so frustrated because we need to discuss these pressing issues, as we are engaged. We are afraid of what our families will think and find it hard to communicate effectively on the subject. All answers welcome Many Thanks Kate M.What advice would you give for a Catholic/Protestant relationship. Marriage, Kids, Schools etc...?
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Okay, you asked for it. Catholics are obligated to marry in the Catholic Church (not necessarily in a Catholic church building, but rather in a way that the marriage is recognized by the Catholic Church). Part of this includes promising the bring up any and all children Catholic.
If the non-Catholic party is opposed to having Catholic children, end the relationship and marry within your respective faiths.What advice would you give for a Catholic/Protestant relationship. Marriage, Kids, Schools etc...?
2 Corinthians 6:14 - ';Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?';
I would advise you both to accept
JESUS CHRIST as your LORD and Savior.
If you haven't already.
Then you'll have the best foundation for your marriage.
You should not mix bronze age middle eastern goat herders fairy tales and their various ';cafeteria'; interpretations influence something as serious as your relation and life together plans dear.....
Remember, in every modern civilized countries, thanks to public school systems and education, religious superstitions and delusions are quietly fading away.
Continue in that direction, promote education for all. If it's too late for your parents, there is still hope for you and your children to come.
Adam R is obviously a child with no life experience. Don't let religion get in the way of your relationship, Letting a superstition separate what might be your life partner wou;d be a huge mistake.
Both protestants and catholics follow the bible. So stay away from your respective churches as it tells you to do in the bible (see below). Make your home a place of worship and read the bible and pray in your home as it tells you to do. Follow the commandments, love one another and continuously ask God for guidance.
MATHEW
6:5 And when thou prayest, thou shalt NOT be as the hypocrites [ARE]: for they love to pray standing in the churches and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.
6:6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and WHEN THOU HAST SHUT THY DOOR, pray to thy Father in private ; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. Ling James version.
first of all respect each others beliefs. don't try and change each other or push your beliefs on each other. agree not to agree. second......PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
don't push either of your religious beliefs on your children let them figure which path they want to follow on their own give them the tools to respect all religions and the ability to seek out and learn about other belief structures.
your god after all gave free will to all don't your children deserve and doesn't your god demand that they have free will as well.
If both of you are serious and committed to your faiths, it is a BIG issue. Honestly, I don't think there is a way to raise kids in such a situation without facing the issue that you will have to tell them that a parent is WRONG about some key issues of faith.
If you are Ok with that, and one parent is willing to be the wrong one...go ahead...if not. Get this worked out before hand.
I don't think compromise is a real option here...one church one week, the other the next for instance.
Catholicism doesn't allow that. And you can't really be a catholic, if you are willing to slide on that, if you do, then essentially you are a Protestant, because you don't totally submit to the authority of the teachings of the Catholic church...so you may as well go Protestant officially and be done with it.
sorry, but that is the way it stands for serious Catholics.
%26gt;%26gt;All answers welcome%26lt;%26lt;
Okay, you asked for it. Catholics are obligated to marry in the Catholic Church (not necessarily in a Catholic church building, but rather in a way that the marriage is recognized by the Catholic Church). Part of this includes promising the bring up any and all children Catholic.
If the non-Catholic party is opposed to having Catholic children, end the relationship and marry within your respective faiths.What advice would you give for a Catholic/Protestant relationship. Marriage, Kids, Schools etc...?
2 Corinthians 6:14 - ';Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?';
I would advise you both to accept
JESUS CHRIST as your LORD and Savior.
If you haven't already.
Then you'll have the best foundation for your marriage.
You should not mix bronze age middle eastern goat herders fairy tales and their various ';cafeteria'; interpretations influence something as serious as your relation and life together plans dear.....
Remember, in every modern civilized countries, thanks to public school systems and education, religious superstitions and delusions are quietly fading away.
Continue in that direction, promote education for all. If it's too late for your parents, there is still hope for you and your children to come.
Adam R is obviously a child with no life experience. Don't let religion get in the way of your relationship, Letting a superstition separate what might be your life partner wou;d be a huge mistake.
Both protestants and catholics follow the bible. So stay away from your respective churches as it tells you to do in the bible (see below). Make your home a place of worship and read the bible and pray in your home as it tells you to do. Follow the commandments, love one another and continuously ask God for guidance.
MATHEW
6:5 And when thou prayest, thou shalt NOT be as the hypocrites [ARE]: for they love to pray standing in the churches and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.
6:6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and WHEN THOU HAST SHUT THY DOOR, pray to thy Father in private ; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. Ling James version.
first of all respect each others beliefs. don't try and change each other or push your beliefs on each other. agree not to agree. second......PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
don't push either of your religious beliefs on your children let them figure which path they want to follow on their own give them the tools to respect all religions and the ability to seek out and learn about other belief structures.
your god after all gave free will to all don't your children deserve and doesn't your god demand that they have free will as well.
If both of you are serious and committed to your faiths, it is a BIG issue. Honestly, I don't think there is a way to raise kids in such a situation without facing the issue that you will have to tell them that a parent is WRONG about some key issues of faith.
If you are Ok with that, and one parent is willing to be the wrong one...go ahead...if not. Get this worked out before hand.
I don't think compromise is a real option here...one church one week, the other the next for instance.
Catholicism doesn't allow that. And you can't really be a catholic, if you are willing to slide on that, if you do, then essentially you are a Protestant, because you don't totally submit to the authority of the teachings of the Catholic church...so you may as well go Protestant officially and be done with it.
sorry, but that is the way it stands for serious Catholics.
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