I met this girl and dated her for 6 weeks it was different for both of us...we where way into each other..than i wanted to have relationship with her..i told her that i was done if she couldnt commit..it was dumb but it was a mistake..i did this twice..and she got pissed and was over it..ive been chasing her for 7 weeks now...going overboard with emails and text..im embarressed i felt like a creep..i was on the edge of stocker status.i know that just pushes woman away further..i dont do that kinda thing..but all of a sudden she said she wanted to hang out and catch up..we had coffee for 20 mins sunday...and where suppossed to go to lunch today...how should i go about winning her heart back...shes dating sombody else now..but the guy has a myspapce page with 1900 friends who are all whores and hes not ganna treat her right..i just want her to be happy and i know this guys ganna end up hurting her..i know where suppossed to be together..how should i go about getting her back...Im a male and i need relationship advice from a female im confused..?
You don't need relationship advice you need some self esteem. Put this creepy hoe so far out of your life that she won't even recognize herself.Im a male and i need relationship advice from a female im confused..?
Stop trying so hard...that will push her away further and she will get tired of dealing with it. All you can do is just be the person you were before...as much as it may hurt you to see her dating someone else, let her, be her friend. If she wants to date you in the future then she'll know the real you. But if she doesn't you'll have to accept that and move on...It is a good sign that she's chatting with you again though.
Good Luck
Well tell her that you didn't mean what you said and that you're really sorry and that all you want is her love and and that you want her back. Tell her that you love her and that you can't live without her and that you'll do anything to win her heart back and that the fool she is dating is no good. And that she could never be replaced. And maybe if getting comitted is what ended it then maybe you should get an engagement ring and ask her to marry you and that you're dying to be with her and hold her in your arms again.
Wow! You need to seek some professional help before you get yourself arrested. I'm not joking or trying to be sarcastic here either. You are in serious trouble and you need to find someone to help you with your relationship/social skills before its too late or you start doing this to another person.
Yes, you sound horrible and very stalker-ish. I'm creeped out just reading your question.
That being said - this girl is playing games. You are clearly a very vulnerable person and therefore I advise you to steer clear of her.
Please take some time to work on yourself, build up your sense of self, so that you have something to offer in a future relationship.
i think you did kinda scared her a little telling her you were ready to commit, well i think she probably wanted to have coffee with you because just to clear things up, oh and the whole texting and leaving messages kinda did push it a bit further....i mean idk i'd be a bit scared....i mean dont try to force this to work, i could understand you thinking he's not right for her, you're just still hurting but if you truly do like her like you say you do you'd give her her space...and wish her happinness be it with him or you
baby boy you cant cant stalk a gurl thats a big turnoff off but if you love her tell her hopw you feel and she will hopefully listen to you but if she dont she a damn fool
She's moved on and you need to as well! Don't make the same mistake next time! Obsession is not love!
let her have some space. lay off the emails and text. if she wants you back, she'll come around. meanwhile, don't focus on being with her, or how to get her back. find something in your life to keep your mind off of her, and things will fall into place as they were meant to be.
ooh steve, why dont you get a really cool myspace page. then she will love you forever!
apparently she is not that into you.
find someone who is.
ok number 1 whatever u do, dont chase after her.. its gonna make her feel way too specialll and shes gonna think ur obsesseddd which is always a turn off.. just play it cool...but be urself.. what did u do the first time when she fell for u? just do the samee.. im sure if she was ';way into u'; back then she will still have some feelings.. also, if she mentions her bf (probably to make u jealous).. dont act jealous or anything! like i said again play it cool and make her suspect that u might also be seeing someone else.. i bet it will kill her inside. ive realized that girls feel toooo special when a guy chases after them, and they pretend like they dont like the guy and that they dont care..but once the guy stops the texts and phone calls..the girl starts liking the guy. and remember, whats meant to be will happen..
First off, don't tell her what to do. Don't tell her negative things about the other guy. Don't tell her not to see the other guy. That will just drive her away from you.
You've got her talking to you again. Don't push her. Lay off a little. Let her know you know you messed up. Let her set the pace. But don't be a wuss about it. You don't want her to see you as desperate (I know...too late but don't appear more so). When you are in a relationship, the power should be in both courts. Having you so needy puts the ball in her court which will set you up for a lot more grief later on.
Just take it slow.
And just because a guy has 1900 friends doesn't mean anything about him personally. He could just be doing it for kicks/laughs and nothing more. Myspace is not REAL LIFE. He may be totally different from what you think.
Let her get to know you again. If it was meant to be, she will come around. Good Luck!
Bro don't chase...be busy and work on your goals...she will wonder why and will respect your time.....the more you chase the more she runs.....you were assertive by saying if she can't commit then you are done....assertiveness is good but must be done in a way to maintain respect....
Dont expect her to come running back...if she doesn't then move on...
ugh. I guess you can't go right out and say it. Try telling her how you feel, that you think you two should be together- maybe you can slowly make your way to telling her what you think of him. Try not to get to that part too fast, or maybe you should just let her learn her lesson that he's not a good guy-I don't know, I'm not much help am I?
When you go out to lunch with her, act like you aren't totally obsessed with her. In conversation if it comes up, drop little hints that you are still into her, but don't be so aggressive, because you are right, it will make her hit the door running.
Look Babe, you seem like you might be the one for her but you half to take it slow and don' rush into things. When women make yall guys wait for things like that even when they want it to it makes the relaionship and compassion so much funner and yall open up more. Aplogizes to her and tell her it want happen again. In all reality what you did made it seem like all you wanted was a piece of ***. But get to know the gurl before you try do do sexual intercourse.
ok im getting on my soapbox now but what you have done is so typical of men you guys think that you can treat us like crap and then just say sorry later and everything will be fine but heres the deal it doesnt work that way you stand to lose something you cant get back and still you take the chance personally Id be gone for good and honestly maybe this girl is just trying to be nice or stay friends but i can say you will never have with her what you had before she will always have to fear that your gonna do it again so Ill i can say is good luck and your gonna hve to work your *** off to get her attention again
Okay, first off you need to take a chillaxi cab to coolsville because you are heading for stalker status again. The fact that you know how long your little ooffee date is a little off putting.
First off, find a hobby and not a stalking one. Busy yourself and try to keep your mind off of her, she will come around.
It's her decision who to date and if this guy hurts her, then well, she learned a lesson and you might start looking like a more suitable guy.
Don't rush things with her because you are going to be impatient and you'll probably end up driving her away again.
Good luck. Remember that there are more fish in the sea.
WOW you sound like a creeper.... stay out of her life and dont staalk her boyfriend. let her get used most girls are whores anyway who cares. haahahahaa. its the truth though you sound creepy
I'm sorry but you sound like a creep.
Give her more space and distance. If she's a mature woman,let her make her own mistakes by dating this guy. She will find you that he isn't the right guy for her. And why are you judging this guy just by looking at his my space... common, you can't judge a guy objectively by that...
Well just be yourself, don't press her to be in a relationship! Spend QT with her, and treat her like she should be treated, and eventually you when her heart back completely! Good Luck!
Ok, well, unfortunately there is nothing you can do but sit and wait in the background. She has to learn on her own. If the other guy hurts her, then she will have learned. Be supportive. Just let her know and be honest about past mistakes, apologize...let her go. If she comes back cool, if not, wasn't meant to be. Have faith that if you 2 are meant to be toghter...it will all work out in the long run. Unfortunately us independent women have to find out for ourselves. If she has a tendency- like most of us do, to go to ';the bad boy'; type- it usually means low self esteem, need excitement and not ready to settle down. She has a lot of work to do if this is the case. All I can suggest is - be honest. Do NOT chase or you have probablity of loss forever. Let her know you want to be her friend. It is a great friendship that many end up in a relationship, but to push is not good either. She has to be able to trust you again. Without trust, there is nothing. Do NOT point out the other guys faults-1900 whores. Just mention you came upon his my space, let her pursue from there. Depending on her astrological sign and yours will give lots of insight on who she reallly is and same with you. If you are willing to wait- patiently- when SHE is ready. Her timeline may be completely different than yours. YOu can always ask her what she is looking for, her ideal man- then become that man, stay that man, but remember- you would have to be willling to change and work hard to accomplish - be all you can be for yourself first, then God permitting, you 2 may end up together afterall. but it will take time, patience and effort on your part to be a friend first and foremost.
What you did is scare her away. Most women nowadays don't like the control freaks out there. and basically what you said to her was controlling. You made the mistake twice, that' even worse. You have to learn how to control what you say and do first before anything. Since you guys are on talking terms and eating lunch, one thing not to do is criticize this other guy, she'll figure it out. But now you have to take things slow. Be her friend. Then eventually her best friend. Then maybe one day it will go further. Give her space, don't crowd her, just let her know that your there if she needs you. It might hurt, but it'll be worth it.
dont worry abt her, everyone is respoonsible to her / his future or what ever happens to themselves
all the best
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