Relationship advice - ladies please!?

im seeing an amazing girl atm but she was in a 2 year relationship with a **** who cheated on her over and over again and she kept going back to him





she finally finished with him over a year ago but hasnt had a boyfriend since and now i feel that she is really cautious about opening herself up - how do i get her to put her trust in me?





i would never hurt her and its getting me down a little that shes not opening up to me (altho i know its understandable)





thanksRelationship advice - ladies please!?
hiya, she has had a bad time with her ex,so it will take time, just let her come around herself.give her time to trust another man.if you like her, then be patient.do you think she is worth waiting for?as she gets to know you,and trust you, she will open up more each day.who knows she could turn out to be your soul mate.Relationship advice - ladies please!?
Never lie to her, even about the smallest thing because every time you do it'll knock you back to square one.





Give her time and space and constantly tell her how you feel about her. She will trust you in time, i speak from personal experience.
Try to be just a good friend, and friendship will evolve in love

paper mask

Relationship advice please helppppp.?

there is this guy, and he says he doesnt care about me as much as he used to... but i still love him... so much


what should I say to him? I asked him why he doesnt feel the same way and all he said was ';i dont know';


i dont want to say i love you, i just want him to know how much he means to me...Relationship advice please helppppp.?
You can try making him jealous by flirting with other people in front of him that will definately make him care..or at least notice you.Relationship advice please helppppp.?
These kinds of situations are hard. Men, especially young men, are a little more emotionally immature than their womanly counterparts. If I were in your shoes (and I have been before) I would write a letter saying exactly how you feel, not too long, but enough to really say what needs to be said. After that, the ball is in his court, if he responds, than you can take things from there. If not, grieve, but please not for long. Love isn't something you feel, it's something you do. If the person you're with doesn't want it, do yourself a favor and save it for someone who does.

Relationship advice for college...Please help!?

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 and a half years, and have just graduated high school. Our relationship, being the first romantic one for both of us, has been extraordinary. We've shared so many good memories, and helped each other through tramatic events and rough patches. We trust each other with everything, and almost always look to one another for advice. We've always done everything together, but now a new reality is setting in. We will be attending different colleges in the fall. Granted, they are only about two hours away from each other, but it'll be a big change from her constant company. We've discussed the future many times, and plan on being together. Both of us have reassured the other that we will be loyal, despite the separation, and nothing can come between us. I trust her, cuz she's not the cheating type, but I want to know if there's any way to keep the relationship strong in addition to our promises. Please help, any advice would be great!Relationship advice for college...Please help!?
Well, you are only 2 hours away and if you truly like each other, then it can stand the test of time. You can visit each other on weekends and also keep in contact via the phone... There are many things you can do to stay in touch.Relationship advice for college...Please help!?
dude just break up with her, there are so many nice chicks in college, why do you want to fart around with a long distance chick.


If that doesnt sound good tell her you are just concentrating on your studies, so shes out.

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Please help!!


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I'm adding you now so we can chat. I might be able to help you or at the very least, you'll be able to vent.URGENT!! really good relationship advice needed!! PLEASE?
just write the whole thing cause you know i would read it and you'd get a lot more answers.
i agree just ask your question and see what ans. you get
that's the stupidest request i think i've ever seen. why the hell would anyone go so far out of there way to answer a question to someone they don't know.
I have no problem with that. I'm going to email you my email address and then you could tell me your story there, I think i could help you.
i won't get points for answering that. you should shorten your story and ask again.

Can anyone help relationship advice needed!!?

i'm friends with all the lads and thats all! it's really annoying andcan be a pain in the butt when i want a date! i am a little girly yet the lads think of me more as a mate and not as g/f material! anyone else had this problem? thanks xCan anyone help relationship advice needed!!?
Oh ya, I hear ya. You likely won't 'get' with any of them, and will find someone different who's socks will be knocked off by you because you're not too high maintenance. Then he'll get pissed off because you have male 'friends' and will assume you're screwing all of them...it's a viscious circle.Can anyone help relationship advice needed!!?
You have to be yourself and if the guy doesn't like you then it's time to find another fish in the sea. Pretending to be someone your not is fake and in the end he will find out you are trying to hard to impress him.
Lay off on the guy stuff and start acting more like a girl. Start flirting with them and see what happens.
Sometimes you have to break out of your circle in order to find love. Most people think love is some magical misty thing and don't believe that friends can love. It's the dumbest myth ever, so break free and find a new group. You may find love there.
test things act like a lady lay it on thick and see what takes a bite
give it some times, i had that problem growing up, almost all my friends have been male and don't see me that way either. I had to go outside of the area to find someone that would see me as something more than a friend. It will happen, just give it some time
Don't do nasty distubing things that guys do (like burping..ect.). Try chillin with a girl for once and see how they react. I know girls are very catty but just pretend tobe friends with the girls and it really will work.

I need some relationship advice.. please?

I have an amazing, wonderful boyfriend who I truly and deeply love with all my heart and soul. He means the absolute world to me. He is kind of over-protective though.. and has sort of made it clear that he doesn't want me talking to specific people. Before I met him, I knew this other kid.. and this kid and I sort of had a thing for one another. I haven't talked to this kid for 8 months probably, until today. I know that I shouldn't have, and my boyfriend would most likely be very upset and angry. I don't know why I wanted to talk to the other kid so bad, but I did and some old feelings seem to be coming back. I don't know what to do, and I feel full of guilt. Some help..?I need some relationship advice.. please?
My husband did the same thing. He hadn't talked to his ex-girlfriend for 8 YEARS. One month after our wedding, after 5 years of us dating, he talked to her online and then they met for coffee. He left me 3 days later. I found out 2 days later that I'm pregnant.


Don't mess around with the other person. It hurts you and your man. You have nothing to lose by dropping the old flame, but much to lose by dragging it around behind your man's back.I need some relationship advice.. please?
I think that you should sort your feelings out and see which of the two you like best. Having an over protective bf means that he is scared of loosing u to sum1 else.
You love the danger of getting caught. What are you doing Thursday night?
maybe Mr. wonderful isn't Mr. right. and your mind is telling your heart that by getting in touch with this other guy. I don't know how old you are, but i would make a list of quality's they each have and see how one out weighs the other.
your ';amazing wonderful'; guy is showing controlling behavior, indicative of an abusive personality. talk to whom you wish, and tell him to stick it if he objects.
Your boyfriend is an immature jerk with control issues. This sort of behaviour (trying to dictate who you can and cannot talk to) is one of the major warning signs of a potential abuser, by the way. Your ';old feelings seeming to come back'; is your gut feeling telling you to get out of your relationship with your boyfriend - and fast.
Follow ur heart,
I don't know if you will marry this young man. Why should you take him as an idol? If you donot have a filty relationship with this kid I don't know why your boyfriend should hinder you from talking to him.

paper mask

Need some SINCERE relationship advice, please.?

So um I've been in a relationship somewhat on and off (but mostly on) for 6 years with my 3-year-old son's father. We've been ';engaged'; and we've also broken up because we've both cheated at different points for different reasons. He's been my best friend though, and I feel like he's the only person in this world who really understands me. I'm not in love with him anymore though, and havent been for quite some time. Although I have deep love for him there is only so much we can do to each other before the relationship is beyond repair. And 3 weeks ago we broke up. It went a lot better than expected, but he's been sleeping on his friend's floor since. He seems to be enjoying the fact that he is no longer living with his girlfriend and child and can now go out like every other 22 year old, but when we're alone he cries and is clearly heartbroken. It really tears me apart because he seems to be convinced he'll never get over this, whereas I know it's over for good.Need some SINCERE relationship advice, please.?
All hearts heal over time, some just take longer then the others.





As for the new guy, rebound baby. Sorry.Need some SINCERE relationship advice, please.?
Give him time he will heal.. I can't say I've ever been in this situation.. but I do think that you just need to give him time. As for this new guy.. take is slow and see how it goes don't jump into anything incredibly serious until you know yourself for sure whether or not he is just your rebound.
He'll be fine eventually, but after ending a 6 year relationship, anything new is just rebound. I had the same problem with my daughter's dad. I was 19 when I had her %26amp; I was with her dad off %26amp; on for 4 years. I thought he'd never get over it, but less than 2 months later, he had a girlfriend. I also thought I was in love with the first 3 guys after him, but they were just rebounds. Now my daughter is 6 %26amp; her dad is no longer in her life, but everything happens for a reason. Just be careful %26amp; I wish you the best of luck.
there is always a chance that u r using him or not.. but if you think you were meant to be try it and i kno it will take ur ex a while but he will get over it and go on. You should try and meet new people but make sure he is going to live. there is no easy way but i would try and meet new people for now..... espesally if you don't love him any more or if u don't kno wat to do stop dating for a while and just chill...... you will fing that someone so don't worry.


Good luck

I need some relationship advice. ?

Im in the military and while i was gone at the base one of her friend got her to try the drug ice, And now my girlfriend doesn't want anything to do with me. Is that an effect of the drug??? What should i do to get her back everything i try doesn't work please help????I need some relationship advice. ?
Sorry, it isn't an effect of the drug... unless she recently took it and she's feeling (and acting) a little weird. But otherwise, she's just over you sorry.I need some relationship advice. ?
No offence mate, but your girlfriend should be smarter with these damn things..


Make her stop taking that and you need to talk to her and all that..


Maybe you can't get back that relationship, but that drug will get her life


All the best
it's not an effect of the drug, but she might just be feeling a bit weird. maybe it's her friend. does that friend like you?





i really hope everything works out for you!!





good luck!! :)

Why do women need so much relationship advice. Havent you figured guys out yet. Read some of my answers?

may help u outWhy do women need so much relationship advice. Havent you figured guys out yet. Read some of my answers?
They need advice because there are so many low life losers out there that let their glands and egos do their thinking for them ,,,, These types far out number the guys that have any common sense ,,,,





Nine times out of ten these losers think they have the answers to any question and strongly suggest that everyone read and consider only theirs ,,,, They are vain and egotistical enough to believe that they are Gods gift to common sense but in reality they haven't got enough to equal the size of a rubber eraser on the end of a pencil ,,,,





These types are very prevalent and come in lots of 500 or more at 5 cents a lot ,,,, There are allot of you out there that live in fantasy land ,,,,





The ones that do have any common sense and use their brain instead of their glands to think with do not feel they have to advertise their answers ,,,,Why do women need so much relationship advice. Havent you figured guys out yet. Read some of my answers?
Hey ding dong,,The numbers speak for them selves,,You don't have a very high standing numerically in answers so wake up and smell the coffee and read the writing on the wall,,You either are or you aren't,,You are just one of the aren'ts is all,,The truth hurts,, Report Abuse

I give my glands and ego response because the problem is so prevalent so I use it where it fits,,I can't help it that it fits so often,,You are the up tight jealous sniveling little punk,,People like you are always good at accusing other people of the very faults you have yourself,, Report Abuse

Your reason for giving me the 10 points makes no sense at all but actually you were smart this time in giving it to me,,Pretty clever for a 15 year old that thinks he knows every thing,,If you ever grow up then years from now you'll laugh at yourself,,That is if you ever get there,, Report Abuse

It's going to take you a very long time to get to level two ,,, Report Abuse

Your records show you've only gotten two best answers since you started on July 1of last year,, So like I said earlier the numbers speak for themselves,, Report Abuse

You could have at least given me 5 stars along with the answer ,,,,





Yoda told you this ,,,, Report Abuse

lol we already basically know what to do, but we need opinions from other people. Most times we dont even TAKE that advice, but we ask it because we dwell on stupid things lke that lol.
They have been reading your answers, that is why they need the advice.
Woman are more emotional than guys and have more emotions about relationships.We like to ask for different opinions before we make our decisions unlike most of the guys (i congratulate the exceptions) who think they know everything.
Because women have a relationship with other women and they understand what each other r going threw.
Because this would point out mental weakness which is illegal to do in the United States. Guys are real easy to figure out, just some basic guide lines:





1) Shut up and put out


2) We really don't care what you think as long as it is short and not annoying.


3) If it weren't for the law, a lot of the positions you have were only given to you because the manager or proprietor is more concerned with price and less concerned with quality


4) No we don't like your straight guy friends, all they are to you is a lay when you are feeling desperate, they do not have any other significance than that.





The same woman who wants equality, wouldn't be yelling for equality if the Titanic were sinking. I think this analogy says it best for women:





If you are a woman and you can easily understand Advanced Calculus or Physics, then you can potentially, very easily understand the way a man thinks.





If you are a man and you can easily understand Advanced Calculus or Physics, then you still probably will not understand a way a woman thinks.
Have YOU figured out women yet???? I THINK NOT!!
Women have different brains than men. They can actually identify their feelings. When they have trouble identify with those feelings, they turn to peers who might have been in the same situation for advice. We are not afraid to ask for directions, unlike our male counterparts.
Scratch that. You have some pretty good answers, but not very perceptive people.

Need some relationship advice...?

I've started seeing this girl that I've liked for a long time. We have kissed every time we hung out like watching movies and stuff. She said the she wasn't ready for anything serious yet because she had just recently broke up with her boyfriend, but liked hanging out with me and still wanted to hang out. We ';made out'; the last couple times we've seen each other and she acts like she is as in to me as I am into her. Should I take is easy or just go for it and ask her out?Need some relationship advice...?
Take it easy, you should not be rushing things. Who knows if she is even over the guy. Relationships take time and even more time for you to get over a broken heart. And she is a girl especially, females dwell in the past a lot and need some time to get over things. I you take your time with her, she'll gradually come to like you a lot and you won't need to push it. A couple of make out sessions mean nothing, ask her how she feels; you even know if she's not thinking about you?...Asking her out will make her want to question you, especially when she just told you she broke up; don't you agree?Need some relationship advice...?
If she already said she wasn't ready for anything serious then I'd wait. You wouldn't want to keep bugging her about it or seeming like you're desperate. I'm sure when she's ready for a relationship again she'll let you know in a way other than making out with you. --- Granted that is a pretty big sign that someones into you lol but she may just not be ready for commitment. If you wait awhile and she still keeps giving you signs like this but doesn't say that she wants anything serious then I'd ask her. But for now, just have fun and play it out until she comes to you.
Slow slow slow! Relationships are like pyramids man, the more you put into the foundation the higher and further it reaches. She's letting you have the benifit of being in a relationship so just chill with the labeling. Just continue what you are doing, she will let you know when she is ready. I'm sure she's thinking the same thing.
chiiilll


we're girls, we like making the rules.


dont rush, either you scare her, or she'll get pissed and break up with you.


take it easy, she'll be ready when she's ready.
take it slow until she is ready


for another relationship.
i think you should back off a little before you get in the friend zone and never go out with her . keep hanging out but not as often
idk you shud listen to el bob dylan.


hes got some cool stuff man!

I need relationship advice?! Guys and Girls please help!!?

So I have been dating this guy for 3 weeks now. He is really nice and treats me well, but he doesn't treat me like his ';girlfriend';. He won't hold my hand in the halls at school. He is even afraid to admit that we are even dating!!! I like him, but I just don't feel like he likes me enough to be in a relationship. please give me advice!!!!!!!!!!I need relationship advice?! Guys and Girls please help!!?
I think that if you and your bf have bn datn for 3 weeks and u arent even holding hands and treating you like his gf then its time the two of you sat down and talkd about it. Tell him how u feel and if he doesnt feel the same way, you may end up breaking up, but you shouldnt be n a relationship where u arent treated like ur datn him.I need relationship advice?! Guys and Girls please help!!?
He thinks holding your hand and other shows of public affection are not cool. He probably won't ever do it but if that is what you want try talking to him about it. See if he would be willing to give up not holding your hand and stuff. If he's not willing to try then you'll have to make a decision to either continue seeing him while being ';rejected'; by him in public or walk away.
well if he doesnt want to admit that u r his gf then find out hiw much he likes u. If not much just be freinds.
you need to talk to him, if he shows know emotion.. let him go and let him know why

Relationship advice? Together 9 years, 2 kids, Now What?

My boyfriend of 9 years has been looking for jobs about 80 miles away from home. We are best friends, we haven't kept much from each other in the past, and there hasn't been anything to really complain about in the last 2 years or so.





I have been doing a little snooping. He started acting a little distant so I snooped around and found out he had applied to over 37 jobs about 80 miles away. I am concerned because he hasnt mentioned it to me yet.





What should I be thinking? We have a 6-month old and an older child in school. Its just bizarre.Relationship advice? Together 9 years, 2 kids, Now What?
Ask him about it, and also ask him why he didn't tell you. If you have a good relationship then you shouldn't have to second guess him here.Relationship advice? Together 9 years, 2 kids, Now What?
Yeah you should curb stomp him with a stiletto heel on and make the kids watch his brain matter spill out onto the ground. Then you should exclaim, ';Dinner time!';
Maybe he just wants a long commute. (I wouldn't bet the ranch on that one though) It honestly sounds like he wants to move. Hopefully with you. (again, don't bet the ranch)
Just ask him where he's applied for jobs. See if he opens up to you about it.
You should be thinking, why has my boyfriend been afraid to put a ring on my finger after 9 years and 2 kids?





That is what is really bizarre.





The fact that he has even applied to over 37 jobs shows he is very ambitious. If he can be this ambitious about job hunting, why can't he be equally ambitious about marrying you this far into the ';game';?
This is nothing to worry about.





He is just looking for a job, he doesn't want to tell you that he is applying for one, so that u get ur hopes up....





Just relax, when he gets the job he'll tell you and open a bit of bubbly no doubt.





xx
I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe he doesn't want to worry you , you guys do have two children. Once he gets a job he will tell you all about it. Its just that hes the bread winner and he doesn't want you to be scared about finances.
Keep looking and see if you can find the answer w/o letting him know you have turned into a snoop. You may make him mad if you ask. Keep looking you will find it if he has a GF.
Ask him, other wise it will cause tension. Maybe he's just looking for a better paying job to support his family.
I would really be upset, keeping things from me. I don't like that. I would confront him. If everything was on the up and up, he would of told you. I can't say what I really feel because I would get a violation for ranting. Good Luck!
It could be that he has friends or family in that area and he's thinking about moving you and the kids to that area if and when he gets a job there. He may not have mentioned it yet because he hasn't been offered a job there yet. Just play cool as difficult as that may be. Quit the snooping too. If he's your best friend and the two of you haven't kept much from each other and there really isn't anything to complain about, then count your blessings. And stop snooping. It will only damage your relationship.
he is tired of you and the kids and going to leave you as soon as he gets a job.
He is looking for a job to provide for you and the kids. No one want to work far away from home but sometime you have to. Especially if he is looking for a good paying job.





I don't think you have anything to worry about.
You should be thinking Bush really screwed this country up and Obama just isn't getting us out of it . you should be thinking of saving up what ever you can because things may get worse before they get better .
sit him down and ask him
He didn't want to tell you....but he's sleeping with me. I'm an 18 year old fit blonde, called Russell.





Face it, he doesn't like you anymore. Once you go black, you never go back...to the same size rectum.





Tell him I left the money on top of the fridge
If you are good friends why not just ask him?
Together? but not married? You have no claim on him, other than the children you've brought into the world together, which he, legally, is under no obligation to support, unless your state of residence has common law marriage %26amp; you meet all of the requirements for it.


Sorry, but that's the way it is when you play house.
Just talk him about it. He could be planning for your whole family to move.
Hopefully he's trying to get a better paying job.

paper mask

What would you do? Need some relationship advice...?

So my new boyfriend invited me out last night but then canceled on me because he was under the impression that I had my daughter. Rather then tell me the truth that he was not ready to meet her, he lied and made up some excuse. Now please keep in mind I have never mentioned them meeting because I do not feel it is the time to bring my daughter around someone that I have just started seeing and that it took me one hell of time to get a babysitter last night just for him to lie to me and then stop by later on to tell me that he didn't plan on meeting her for at least a year. Now I am only 23 years old and he is 20 so I don't think he's ever dated anyone that has had kids but I still feel really hurt that he would lie to me about something like this and be that apprehensive about meeting my daughter. She's the most important thing in my life and because of his actions I feel that he doesn't see that and accept or respect it. I mean if he wants me in his life he has to understand that sheWhat would you do? Need some relationship advice...?
hi.





1st. talk to him, and let him know that you were not in anyway looking for him to be a daddy to your little girl. let him know that she has a father and she is taken care of, and that its NOT his place to decide when he will or wont meet her.





during this talk, also let him know that you would never 'spring' your child onto him. that when the time is right for both of you to meet her, then it will be discussed and you will set up something that everyone can be comfortable with.





find out how he feels about dating someone with a child, remind him that your child is a big part of your life and if he isnt able to deal with that, then he should be honest and a man and let you know that now so that you are not waisting each others time.





let him know how much it hurt you that he would lie to you about getting out of a date just because he felt he wasnt ready to meet your daughter, then, let him know that that type of behaviour is not acceptable and will not be tolerated.





tell him that he is dating you not your daughter and that if the two of you have plans, that cancleing last minute for anything less of a REAL emergency is not fair to you, especially since you have to take the time to find someone to sit for you.





NOW... 2.





After this talk only you can decided whats best for you and your daughter. no advice in the world can change what you feel in your heart after talking with him.





personally, i feel that what he did was immature and childish and that you shouldnt have to deal with anyone who is afraid to acept you for who you are. and who you are is: a beautiful and careing person who had so much love that you gave birth to a beautiful little girl.





at the end of the day, its really about your daughter, not some guy who chickens out at the thought of even spending TIME with a little girl.





GOOD LUCK!What would you do? Need some relationship advice...?
dump him. he thinks your a totally booty call. maybe your making yourself too available you know? don't be anyones dormat. he scammed you okay. he played you like a harp. Report Abuse

you're a douche... Report Abuse

Dump him
Well your boyfriend is young and since he doesn't know exactly how to handle the situation he lied.





Best thing to do would be to talk to him about it, don't feel or think that he doesn't accept or respect it. You need to know what he thinks about this.





The fact that he is going out with you even if you have a daughter means that he is trying to accept it or already has. You just need to know exactly where he is on that subject and help him with it.
Your instincts are right on this. I have 3 kids and girl, I know how hard it is to get a babysitter, let alone for just one child! He's not officially legal yet, so mentally he's still a teen. (Like coming over after the lie was going to help him soften things over w/ you. Whatever!) Tell this loser to call you when he grows up.
he is 20 and probably scared to death about meeting her,,all eyes judging him,,talking to her or being expected to talk to her even though he doesnt 'do ' kids,,,his lying is his age and maturity but that in itself doesnt make him a bad person it just means he cant lie well. better he did this now that meet your daughter and make a complete hash of it......you both need to talk about what you think is likely to happen if you continue dating but bear in mind you have had to mature,you are a mother and it brings responsibility,,some of his ideas may seem childish but what do you expect,,he is only a young inexperienced bloke and some of his ideas wont match yours,tell him lying to you really pees you off and he doesnt have to,,you are not stupid,you are not moving him in and for the minute are quite happy having a boyfriend and having fun,,what happens after will happen after and if he has something to say he can talk to you.

Why do women need so much relationship advice. Havent you figured guys out yet. Read some of my answers,?

may help a lot of you I hopeWhy do women need so much relationship advice. Havent you figured guys out yet. Read some of my answers,?
dont think we will ever figure guys out, if we could we would not need adviceWhy do women need so much relationship advice. Havent you figured guys out yet. Read some of my answers,?
Because guys are so confusing that's why
umm well lets see it's just a female thing. sorry!
Women like to chat. That's what girlfriends do.

Hi, some relationship advice pleaseee...?

Hi, I m really confused here.. I need some advice on what I should do.. a few weeks ago I found out my coworker likes me just like I like him (we had some innocent flirting going on since we met) so now that we both know we like each other we decided we'll have ';some fun'; the problem is he has a long term relationship (think more than 5yrs) and all he wants its sex and I agree on that (we haven鈥檛 had sex YET) but know I m afraid I鈥檒l get hurt.. or his gf.. who really has no idea (she lives in another city) or that things change at work, also I been thinking that I really want a boyfriend not a sex partner...should I go ahead have some fun till it last or should I end it before thing get messy??





thanks for the helpHi, some relationship advice pleaseee...?
Hi! Well, first of all, he is involved....how would you feel if you were in the gf's shoes?


Secondly, you work together.........what if there is a problem later on? Like, for example, he tells his co-workers about the affair? Or, if you fall in love with him? Or he gives you an STD? Or, the gf finds out and comes and creates a drama on the job?





If you want to have 'fun', do it away from your job and not with a co-worker. Even if you were to leave this job, you will need their references, remember?





It is good that he was at least honest about what you can expect from him. But, I think he is a loser. You deserve better and so does the gf.





My answer is END IT BEFORE IT GETS MESSY!!!!!Hi, some relationship advice pleaseee...?
the sensible me would tell you to stay away. oviously i don't know the guy, or you; but it seems like he's done this before. also, it seems that you are already emotionally involved. if you're going to do this, you really can't think about it.


and if you do this, then know that's it's because you are being selfish (which everyone s entitled to), so don't say later on how bad you feel about it because yu could have just said no.


on the other hand,if you don't really care about him, then go for it. have fun, but make sure you leave it at that.


and don't tell people at work because they'll tell everyone else, and then you'll feel foolish in the end.
ur question is a really hard one. I feel like i'm in kindergarten again - Should i put my hand in the fire or should i just go comb barbie' hair? hmmm...really hard!!!
Sofia, keep away from the work relationship--it gets real uncomfortable when it ends--hard to work around each other. The guy has a girl?? He has a GIRL?? Why are you being an easy lay for this creep?? Are you warped?? Have you even considered he is doing others also---RED FLAG ALERT--diseases--did you hear me?? DISEASES !! He is saying all the right things to get you--when he does it will be over and you will feel like crap---believe me...Go find a nice normal guy and have a nice healthy relationship of your own--this other guy is disrespectful and has no integrity--or honesty. He doesn't care for his girl. or you...or anyone but himself. Relax, rethink this, tell him you changed your mind--it is your right to do that. Good luck
I think the best way to answer this questiosn, is put yourself in his girlfriends shoes. How would you lke to be the one finding out that your partner of quite a long time is cheating on you?


I understand where your dilema lies, yeah, maybe she wil never find out, but are you willing to take that risk.


Also, you don't just need sex. You can get just as badly hurt in a sex - only ';relationship'; as you can in a normal one.


Take my advice, stay well clear and find yourself a bloke that really wants to be with you, nit just for the sex, but in every way.


All the bestx
Beware of:


1. Work relationships


2. Men who use the term ';some fun';


3. Men who cheat





Any one of these is a warning. Put them all together and you have impending disaster!!! I'll bet that if you tell him you just want to remain friends, he will not have anything else to do with you. If so, you'll know exactly what kind of man he is.
I can tell by reading your letter your way to sensitive to have just a ';fun'; relationship with this guy. Stay just friends, nothing more or you will get hurt. This is a man who is talking about cheating, now you know right there that's bad news! You wouldn't want to be part of that, especially if it were reversed-and you were the gf-how would you feel??? Plus, if things did get messy, you would be walking around work on egg shells, and feeling bad....Don't worry, Romeo will find someone else quick to satisfy his sex urges. In the mean time, I hope you find a decent guy, who will truly make you happy, with no attachment hooked on to him!!

Need some relationship advice?

ok I met this girl in my music class she is drop dead amazing, i already am in a crush with her, i facebooked her and asked her if she wanted to go to this party with me so i picked her up, and we talked most of the time, and i ended up making out with her. she pushed me away and told me she had a b/f. later than night she ended up kissing me. and when i dropped her off she kissed me.i asked her to go to the movies, she sais ok. then she sais she doesnt think she can go. so i asked her and she sais she wants to be just friends. I can tell she likes me, but shes been dating this kid for 2 months. she told me to call her after class but i didnt till after, I wrote her a poem, and she met me for coffee, i gave her the poem then we went to the mall. after i didnt kiss her when i dropped her off, and texted her asking her if she liked the poem. and she said '; I cant hangout with you anymore';. and i said tell me your feelings and she said '; I like my b/f alot and i dont like you that way';.Need some relationship advice?
You neglected to mention you age, but it is clear that you are both very young. Probably high school age. You have a crush, you probably think you are in love. It seems like this is a big deal, but trust me in 10 years from you are going to look back at this situation and laugh.





Use this as a learning experience. Use it to increase you communication skills (that includes your listening skills). And sending her a poem is not the best way to communicate.





She was giving you mixed messages by kissing you and then saying no. But no means she's not interested right now.





She has another guy she likes. Hear that. The reality is that her relationship will be short lived. So, if you like the girl, stay friends with her. Be honest with her, and say straight up.. I really like you but I get that you are not interested in me that way. I would be happy to be friends. Stay friends, so you will be around if she becomes single and will already have a friendship to build on. But be aware that there are plenty of other fish in the sea.





Good luck.Need some relationship advice?
Do you really like her that much?





Okay, I think the girl is confused right now. So I suggest to give her a week to mend her confusion. If you really like her then I think there's no reason why you shouldn't pursue her. But be very careful, if she still said NO at your second attempt I suggest that you forget her and move on. No worries, just take your time and lay all your cards.
Don't pursue her. When you run into her, say hello, be pleasant and act like a friend. When she sees that you aren't moping around, chasing after her and realizes how great you are, she may come back after you.
So, clearly it's over. She cheated on her boyfriend of two months with you, and realized that she was wrong. She may be 'drop dead amazing' to you, but the feeling is not reciprocated. I suppose you'll just have to move on?





p.s.- 'sais' is actually spelled with a y. 'Says'.
respect her and be her friend she will grow to like you more for that
Stop giving her so much attention. Young and pretty as they are, they like to play the game and if you give in as being to desperate, e.g. poems, then she will lose interest.


Ignore her, and just give her little bits of attention and she will find you interesting.
she obviously likes you... she probably just cant think of a way to leave her b/f without hurting him... she also seems confused... tell her how you feel. be open and honest, maybe she'll open up too
she might've been just flattered that you like her and kissed you for it or maybe just because she wanted to make out...but yeah, probably flattered and just went along.


if she tells you straight that she doesn't like you that way then she probably doesn't. sry, gl.
Well give it some time to think about it and then talk to her about it and ask her if she would rather have you or her b/f.
then she should of never went out with you.sounds liek she don't know what she wants.she should not of cheated on her bf and you shoul dnot try to take her away from her bf thats wrong.how would u feel if she cheated on you.if she likes you more then she break up with him 2 months is not that long.i don't think she knows what she wants or maybe now she does and she told you.its hard to tell.
Respect her wishes for now. She is being unsure of what she really wants. Give her some space and when she feels that you are better than the other guy, she will come back to you.
well hard break but maybe she is just not ready to break up with her other b/f or she mite not like u that way and well try to take ur mind off her sorry
just forget about her. find someone else. it will do you good.

An old relationship...advice?

So here's what happened, i had this GF for 3 years, everything ended around 6 years ago. we still were friends afterwards and she often asked me for advice. i got over here a year after we broke, haven't thought of her since then. suddenly a month ago i wake up in the middle of the night and she's on my mind for no reason! been there since then!


now the question is, is it really her who i miss? or is it just the feeling of having somebody in my life regardless that person being my ex or not. should i just ask her? i haven't talked or seen her in almost 2 years. a word of advice anyone? An old relationship...advice?
start dating somebody and if u feel great then it means u were just missing havin somebody around but even after dating several girls if u feel kinda down the u definetly miss her! An old relationship...advice?
I would say, your just want some one to replace her
I think you're missing the feeling of having someone in your life.



talk to her maybe she fells the same way
i was in a similar situation, and i feel that it is just you wish to have someone like her in your life, and you unconscious mind registers her as a image of what you really want. there for she is the image you come up with.

I need relationship advice.please.?

i've been in a long distance relationship for a year and a half now. we've seen each other twice this year and that's fine. but now when i think about him i get so upset he's not here. i can't stop crying. i love him so much, but i don't think i can do this anymore. i could never leave him and i'd die if he left me. i think i'm just stuck in a rutI need relationship advice.please.?
No you would not die.


It would hurt a lot but you wouldn't die as a result.


You either move near him, tough it out until you can be married, or break it off,those are about your only options unless he moves near you.I need relationship advice.please.?
I could understand if you were a Military wife or something.. at least you would have benefits and housing to help you while he was absent...but really... what does this relationship REALLY offer you?? Start going online and typing in ';How to let go'; and ';long distance relationships'; (pros and cons) and do a little soul-searching as to why you're so attracted to this type of arrangement, and why you would deny yourself better....


good luck and happy soul-searching!
Why is it long distance relationship? Could one of you move?

paper mask

I need relationship advice ...please help?

here's whats going, my boyfriend can go for days without texting or calling me. when he does text (which is rarely), the texts seem friendly. We dont talk as often and we dont see each other as often anymore.i thought he needed time but its been a whole month, how much time does he need? and well i dont know, he seems different. Sometimes i feel like he doesnt want to continue this. but i dont want this to end. what should i do? can anyone please help explain whats going on ?





no rude comments please


thanks alotI need relationship advice ...please help?
you could snog his face off or show some passion when you see him


tell him how much you miss him


and that you love him


that should bring him backI need relationship advice ...please help?
if he says he wants to ';take time'; i would maybe get ready to move on....honestly it sounds like he lost some interest....find a guy who really appreciates you or dont be with anyone for now...interacting with someone who doesnt appreciate u can hurt your self esteem. you seem like a nice girl...and i beleive that you deserve better....i hope u dont give away a prat of your heart for someone who doesnt appreciate it....good luck and i wish u well...

Need some relationship advice!! Can you help me?

I purchased two homes in Mexico. My wife and step children lived in one with me. The other I purchased for an investment and to rent out. My wife started moving her and the kids things to the second home. She says that she wants a time out. I've been arguing with her about another man that is trying to cause problems in our marriage. He keeps calling the house and hanging up. Put condoms in our car when she went to tijuana to work. He owns a bar in T.J. and she works for him. Another problem, I don't like her working in a bar as a stripper. Now that she is moving out because I'm too jealous?!?!?! She is now interested in helping me with my cleaning business and selling cars with me. I love her, but, I don't know about helping her after she leaves me. She says she just wants space and is going to try and see if she and I still have anything left. She wants to start over as friends. I think she just wants to keep using me. If she wants to work things out, why move out?Need some relationship advice!! Can you help me?
Have you notice that the begining of a relationship determines the end of the relationship? People just don't change to please others, they modify their behavior for a while. This relationship is not healthy for you anymore. Protect your finances and find a healthy relationship somewhere else.





Whenever you are ready to meet someone else remember:


-If you are not willing to accept that person the way she is when you met her, move on, a person that has to change is not the right person for you.


-TIME determines if the relationship is going to be good in the long run. At the begining of a relationship everything is fake and false impressions. Take your time to know that person and for her to know you.





It's hard to move on but not impossible. You can do it.


Good luck.Need some relationship advice!! Can you help me?
Get a life...
I would agree to the seperation to see if there is anything left but while she is gone make her pay her own way so she sees what -=she is losing, maybe you might realize you want better
You need to look for family medial counsellor. You both have to face the fact that if your marriage is still able to continue. You can only do what you can. You have to stay peace and calm to make a good decision. Kindness is very important at this situation because it would not make the problem worse. You might loose even much more if arguing turns into fighting. This is only my personal opinion. Good luck !!
All I keep thinking is wow!!! Do you really need to ask the questions you ask?? Your instincts are right on. She's trying to get her golddigging hands on your businesses. She's already taken your income property. Move her out!!! DO NOT let her get her hands on your businesses or she'll find a way to bleed them dry. Wake up and smell the coffee buddy. Think with your big head. Get out while you still own something or she'll end up with all of it.
wow, i think you are being strung along.. theyre called goldiggers, and let her go rub her stuff thats supposed to be meant for her husband, all on her own. you dont need that
i got to second the first post! LMFAO!!!
You married a stripper that strips in mexico? LMAO You cant give relationship advice to someone that is married to a stripper.

Need relationship advice!!?

I am a really nice guy. I am easy to talk to and give good advice but there is one problem. I have little confidence. I feel a girl will shut me down if I got to her. Also girls love being my friends but when I want to take it to the next level they say that the just want to stay friends and that happens with every girl, but at the same time the same girls talk about they had wet dreams about me and that they think I cute and etc. I need help..any advice??Need relationship advice!!?
Maybe your coming off as a little to clingy or not there type but just relax and be yourself, there is no need to act different.Need relationship advice!!?
just walk up to the Girl you want and tell her how much you want to bone her..That almost always works!

Relationship advice PLEASE!?

ok. so me and my girlfriend have like the most awesome time when spend time together. we only see each other like a couple of days a week. so we don't get the chance to be with each other a lot. and sometimes when we do get the chance to go out she either doesn't know if she can or doesnt want to, she doesnt say this but i can sense thats how she feels. she has mood swings sometimes too. she can be really happy one momment and the next she is sad and emo.. so any advice would help. thanx!Relationship advice PLEASE!?
maybe she's feeling a bit insecure or would prefer to just spend time with you. I can get like this with my boyfriend, I like being at home snuggling up on the sofa with a good movie whereas he likes going out and getting drunk so I end up having to drag myself out and then not really enjoying myself.





You should really talk to her about it and find out why, just approach the subject gently and DO NOT under any circumstances ask her if it is hormonal! Even if it is hormonal you may just end up with a smack in the mouth! lolRelationship advice PLEASE!?
Welcome to the world of women! Especially TEENAGE women!





Men have a difficult time understanding our mood swings. Mens hormones stay regularly stable, and they are less prone to mood swings. Women have major hormone fluctuations every month, and they fluctuate strongly day to day. So a woman may be very happy one day, the next might be quite cranky and down. If you add any stress, alcohol, pregnancy(more hormone fluctuations), depression-things can get really difficult.





Get used to it. Realize you are probably not the cause of her mood swings.





It sounds like it would be wise to talk to your girlfriend, and tell her you sense she's not that interested in the relationship. She may say you are right. Or she may say you are wrong, but she has other stressful things going on in her life that makes it difficult. Don't just ';assume';. Talk to her. And then, listen to her. It could be that she needs someone to lean on right now, as much as someone to have a good time with.
Haha. Dont worry about the emotional stuff, unless its happens all the time. Girls and mood swings are very normal. (esspecailly when shes on her period).


About the other stuff. I dont know why she wouldnt want to hang out or spend time with you. I know my bf (well, not quite, but almost) is in PA at school (im in VT). And when hes up on breaks we are gona hang out. I wouldnt NOT want to see him. I mean we both think days drag by soo slowly when where not talking.


She may be insecure, or just not really happy in the realationship. Try talking to her about it. :)
To be honest, she sounds too immature to be in a relationship. She's only focused on HERSELF and that's a sure sign of immaturity. If you want a meaningful, mature r'ship, then it's time to end it with this roller-coaster girl. It's never a good sign, by the way, when someone can't control their emotions or is very obviously controlled by them.
bipolar much?
give her space, maybe she's feeling smothered by you
She might just be a bit busy. It happens.
She's kinda immature, or bipolar. Its o hard, iK now, but do u make her happy? cheer her up,she'll love u for it

I need relationship advice?

i got in an argument with my fiance because of my jealousy issues!!! i got mad because we went to the store and i saw a girl he had messed around with and it made me really upset why is it so hard to not be jealous what should i do to make it rightI need relationship advice?
Hmmm... You do not seem to be too confident in yourself and are very wary about your fiance. These emotions will get in your way for the long haul and could be detrimental to your marriage.


First, you must come to realize that he wants you and only you. Just because he sees someone he use to date, does not mean he'd go ';out back'; with her. I have plenty of friends that I use to date and I would never go backwards. Especially if I were to get married to the one I love.


My current girlfriend is thee most trusting one I've ever been with, ever, and it is a relief for her not to be jealous of when I am chilling with other girls. She must be confident enough in herself to understand that I would not cheat on her. She is very forgiving and trusting.


Sure, occasionally she'll get a bit of jelly on her nose (jealousy), but it's only because the attention I'd be giving wasn't directed to her at-the-time.


I'm sure he would not ever go out on you and you just/only have to believe that for yourself. Else, it is going to be a very rocky road ahead. Let it go and be more confident in yourself and everything will fall right into place.


Good luck! (and congratulations)

Relationship Advice please?

I'm having problems in my marriage. I'm married x 1 1/2 years and my partner works many more hours than I do. I have been feeling lonely. What should I do? Also has anyone used the service on the website http://www.RelationshipFrontiers.com? I've heard a few good things but not sure.Relationship Advice please?
i have never heard if this site before but the advice i can give you is talk to him. let him/her know how you feel. maybe they do what to spend time with you but work has limited the time spent together. whatever time you do have enjoy it. do something nice together, either go on a date or cuddle in bed. and while you are alone, go do something for yourself...workout, go out with your friends or even take some classes on something that interest you. remember you were your own individual person before you got married.

paper mask

I need some relationship advice.

I guess it's kinda sad that I am going to ask relationship advice on Yahoo! Answers, so don't judge me, I really don't have anyone else to ask.





That being said. I've been with my BF now for about two years. I'll start by saying that we've both been faithful to each other since the beginning of the relationship. I trust him that he wouldn't cheat, however I am a pretty jealous guy. Before him and I started dating he was in a long term relationship with a girl. He dated her for 15 years. They broke up, but still remain friends. She doesn't know that he's gay. So she doesn't know about me. She thinks he's single. Anyway, he asked if it would be ok if he went to Vegas with some friends that he grew up with. I can't afford to go so I can't go with. I really have no problems with him going with these people. They are from his church so it's not like they are going to stripclubs or anything. Anyway he bought his plane tickets and hotel room which are both non-refundable. A few weeks ago he told me that she called him and said ';suprise I bought tickets and I'm going with';. I think it's wrong of him to go to Vegas with his ex girlfriend. I can't tell him not to go cause he's already bought his tickets, and it's not like I can tell him to tell her that she can't go. What should I do? I really don't want him to go but I can't stop it. I basically trust him that he won't cheat but I don't trust her. I don't want her to throw herself at him. Also, now it's about principle. He just doesn't get why I'm so freaked out about this.





Any advice would be great. Thanks!I need some relationship advice.
ok well first of ll i would have to say that if he really loved you and was serious about your relatioship then if i were you i would ask him to tell her before they go that he is gay and in a serious relationship with someone else and isnt interested. i know what its like to get jealous and the only thing i can say is if you trust him then try not to get paranoid and annoy him all the time while he is away, if hes honest with his ex and tells her hes gay then that will help matters, however if he doesnt then i would ask why. although yes 15 years IS along time, however that was two years ago and hes been with you for a lnog time as well. I need some relationship advice.
In my opinion I don't think your boyfriend is going to get back with his ex. Well, you can't help yourself being the jealous-type, talk to him about it. Express your feelings. You have every right to be feeling jealous. But if he really wanted to cheat there is nothing you can do about it. So just trust him. good luck %26lt;3
Well if you trust your boyfriend then there should be no problems. Look you've been going out for 2 years. Don't you think he would have already broken up with you if he was cheating? He likes you just don't worry too much about it and everything will be fine.
hiya sorry to hear about that,i think you should tell him to tell her hes gay because its not fair on you.
ok, well.... I think that he will also remain faithful to you. Even though u don't think so. just trust him and c what happens.
I don't think you should worry about this. However.





Why on earth hasn't your boyfriend told his ex (and others) that he's gay? I think that's really offensive to you. I would be extremely offended if my girlfriend hadn't told her friends etc she were gay and in a relationship with me. It's like he's embarrassed of you. I'm sorry if that's not true in the slightest but...that's the impression I get. I'm sure he loves you but why can't he just be honest? If he were brave enough and big enough to tell his ex girlfriend ';I'm in a relationship with (your name)';, you'd have nothing to worry about on his trip to Vegas, because she would know not to make a move!





You know you can trust your boyfriend. He's been with you for two years and I'm sure if he were going to cheat on you, he'd have done it by now! But I honestly think if he came clean about his relationship with you it'd put your mind at rest.





Also, could he not pay for you to go along to Vegas, too? Surely he really would want you to go? Or does he not like you to be ';public'; like that? Maybe you could offer to pay him back the ticket price when you can afford it. Just a thought.





But I don't think you should worry! You love each other. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't risk that.
I think that you should ask him to tell her about you. That way, she'll know that he's taken and you'll know that he's serious enough about the two of you to come out.





If he tells her and she still throws herself at him, then he'll have all the proof he needs to see her as a home wrecker.
Okay, you obviously trust this guy! (But you don't trust his ex).


But with all that trust, you must know that if she wants to do something, he won't- b/c you guys have this relationship and trust!


Just remember that!


And if you're still worried, talk to him about it before he leaves!
Oh man! This reminds me of a situation I was in years ago. I was living with a guy and was in a relationship with him for 5 years. The problem was that he had a soon to be ex-wife. They were in the process of a divorce when I first met him. However, she was still in love with him and did not know that he was gay. I don't know how she didn't know, we lived in a one bedroom apartment at the time. We saw her often as they had a child together. Every time she came around she would be all over him, trying to kiss him, always trying to get him to go to her house, literally pushing herself on him, and at times right in front of me. Eventually it ruined our relationship. Because they had a child together he did not want to tell her that he was gay and that we were in a relationship. I was jealous, and after awhile we argued about her all the time. I knew that he did not want her but I felt disrespected and humiliated at times. I understanding you saying that you trust him but not her. He needs to understand where you are coming from and how it makes you feel. You need to talk to him when you are not upset about the situation and let your feelings be know calmly and rationally to him. If you keep him from going to Vegas he will resent you so just have a talk with him and then you have to let it go and try not to think the worst while he is in Vegas. If you hound him about it, he will only resent you. maybe after you have a ';heart to heart'; with him he will take some type of steps to make you feel more at ease and let her know without a doubt that he is not interested in her at all. Good Luck to you! Hope your situation works out better than mine!

Need some relationship advice?

so I love this girl. We have been really close friends for years now. Only problem is she is 13 almost 14 and I am 17 almost 18. When do you think would be the apppropriate age for us to date?Need some relationship advice?
before you're 18... or after she is so nothing illegal happens lolNeed some relationship advice?
id say at least when shes 15 or 16 shes just a kid now and well you are already in different moment of life. Good luck ^____^

I need relationship advice.?

So there is this girl whom i like very much...she has kissed me many times but we arent going out yet...when ever i ask if she wants to chill she wants to hang with her bestfriend who was her ex boyfriend at one point...it has been driving me nuts all the time...she gets jealous when ever i hang with my bestfriend whom ive known since 5th grade ( she is a girl but we are strictly friends) what should i do?I need relationship advice.?
She had double standards and if you two haven't moved forward by now there is a reason.





The reason is she very obviously is not over her ex boyfriend who now if her ';best friend.'; Which by the way is total BS. He's not just her friend, she just can't let go of him and loves his attention so she acts as if he is her best friend so no one can judge her.





Hate to break it to you but this girl isn't mature enough to hold a real relationship with you and you've been wasting your time on her. I hope you realize this and move on because even if she DID agree to date you you'll most likely continuously have problems with her having her ex and her best friend. She'll always value him above you.I need relationship advice.?
Its sounds like she wants control over the whole thing! What I would not is tell her that she needs to stop playing games with you if she wants to be with you then she needs to stop playing! And let her know that she goes and hangs with her best friend which is her x then you have the right to hang with ur friend! Let her know how u feel be honest trust me thats the only way and if she dont like it then she aint worth it! there are girls that wants a relationship and not wanting to play with peoples feelings!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Shes using you as rebound right now probably.


Ignore her for a week bu dont make it so obvious - it'll give her time to think about what she really wants, you or her ex boyfriend who she spends more time with.


When she might feel like she's losing you she'll either ask you about it and spend more time with you or she wont care.


Dont ignore her too much, just start backing away slightly for about a week or two
Communication is key:


U like this girl a lot. Is she your GF?? If not then sounds like she is playing the field. You need to tell her how you feel and ask her how she feelz about you. If it is established that you are both into eachother then let her know that it bothers you that she spends so much time with her EX BF. If she is not willing to compromise on that subject then I would say move on.


There are so many gurls out there... then settle for the wrong one.


and listen to ur gutt feelings....


they are usually right.
I really think you need to confront her. Tell her that you want to know how she really feels because it seems like she is kind of playing you. Tell her that you accept the fact you have a guy as your best friend and that she needs to accept the fact that you have a girl who is your best friend. And if she can hang out with him you have every right to hang out with her. good luck!
it sounds like she might not be sure whether or not she wants you, but she definately doesnt want anyone else to have you. talk to her without showing her how much you like her (dont appear too available) and if she's like i dont know blah blah blah then go hook up with someone else and see if that changes her mind
Tell her. Honesty is best. I cant say it never hurts to be honest but you will never know what she wants if you dont talk to her about it. Just sit down with her and have a serious conversation about it.
she doesnt hav feelings for you. sorry. find some other girl that treat you like you treat her. that is the best advice you can get i think. laterz
she can hang out with his ex-bf and u can hang out with ur friend too(prefers girl) don't care bout her jealousy coz she made u jealous and why would she be mad if u made her jealous? my advice is ';hang out with other girl';
find someone who's not like her.
date a girl who doesn't have double standards

Relationship advice p.l.e.a.s.e.?

my boyfriend wants me to give him oral sex and i'm completely fine with that. He wants to watch %26amp; c*m in my mouth which both of those I am unsure about. I don't understand why either of those would make a difference.





%26amp;


also what turns guys on i mean i really don't know.Relationship advice p.l.e.a.s.e.?
DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!





wait til your married...

Relationship advice please help?

my gf recently just moved 110 miles away to college. She started working at a new job and last night she flirted with the 4 guys there and gave a guy her phone number. she also said in front of me that he is ';really hott.'; what do i do? should i worry about this? I cant really trust her. Is that normal?Relationship advice please help?
Um...yea. Absolutely. Your woman is wildin out at school. She's liberated and is embarking on a exciting new journey and this may lead her to want to be free to flirt, have sex, experiment in bisexuality and all those other things wild girls do when they go to college.





My advice: Don't be exclusive anymore. Tell her that the both of you need some time to figure out where the relationship is going. Let her off the hook so she can be free to date guys if she chooses. You'll know where you stand then.





Good luck.Relationship advice please help?
You should Not be with someone you do not trust. If she did all that right in front of you she is not for you anyways. That was rude and mean. Dump her before you really get hurt.
listen to what you just said. ';i cant really trust her';. why would you want to be with someone you dont really trust??? your answer is in you own question.
Well just the fact that she looks like shes intrested in other guys. I can't believe she would give her phone number out!! wow thats pretty rude.. I think she considers you as a friend now because she moved 110 miles away. This is not normal... i think maybe you might want to move on, don't look like she's too serious about your realtionship. Find someone closer to you, that loves you. Good luck!
breaking a relation just because of you heard a news from somewhere is not a good dicision. if, i was you then i would must go through the situations and would ask her first about the confusion and if she accept her fault then i will left her ...
It's seems really odd for a girlfriend to be that straightforward, but I wouldn't rule it out. Yes, I think it's something you should worry about.





Also, after moving 110 miles, she is going to be meeting people she has never met before. Its a new experience, and she is going to want to experience it fully. The relationship between you and your girlfriend way break apart.
don't trust her and if she flirted with 4 guys looks like to me shes a slu*t oh yeaaaaa u got something to worrier about
if she moved that far away without you things are gonna change she's going to meet new people and want to try new things don't take it personally like she doesn't care about you anymore that's just the way it is
things will be changing...she is testing her independence...and growing up. this is normal with all girls, and guys, too. as the school year progresses she will settle down.





maybe you should talk to her about this. don't push or complain...just talk and see what she says...don't be angry..be understanding...





yes, you should worry...but show her you can take the change...be evasive about your life and let her wonder about you...
Time to move on! You answered your own question. Would you give 4 girls your number in front of her? Doubt it! She's moving on and you need to face it. Stay friends with her if you want but it's time to call it quits and look for someone new.
i would worry my *** off that **** aint right. thats just disrespectful. trust me long distance relationships dont work no matter who you are they dont work. i had a girl friend just 10 miles away if that and it lasted only a month... hurt her before she hurts you
Let me remind you that Aristotle's idea that there is friendship of utility, friendship of pleasure, and friendship of goodness is applicable to intimate relationships as well. There are those people who use each other for pleasure, to gain something , and there is a rarer find which is to enjoy being with a person and really respecting them and valuing them for being exactly who they are. Aristotle must have realized that in relationships there is usually a mixture of all three but I don't recall him stating that in Ethics. I once met a wonderful woman, Gabriele, whom I will always remember. She said to breathe people in and out like resperation. I suggest that you follow that. You have a lifetime where people will stumble into your life. Allow them to come in, and if you can do something to help them during their time with you then you have acted well, and when they are ready to part just allow it to happen. With the intimacy of a boyfriend obviously there is a physical intimacy, a sense of sexual pleasure and companionship and so as creatures of pleasure it is hard to part from someone whom we ';love'; in that way. Remember that Plato suggested that we love what we don't have and to some degree we are attracted to opposites that might complement us for what we lack; however if you find yourself fighting with this person a lot that should be a good sign to move onto something different
if your gf is doing that now, i wouldnt trust her . youll end up getting hurt in the end

I need some relationship advice?

I've never had a girlfriend before and I'm not sure I want one now . Because I've always thought what's the point of having a girlfriend you are most likely to dump. I'm 14 by the way. My parents would'nt condone me having a girlfriend anyway. For me I would rather meet one girl when I'm older and marry her. Rather than have many girlfriends and not be married. Should I wait to find that girlI need some relationship advice?
It's great how you're thinking that way and I reckon if you find a brilliant girl that you get along really well with, don't hesitate to date her. You don't have to save all your teenage years purely to find the ';one';.I need some relationship advice?
a girlfriend = loss of virginity
well, i think u should date around, i mean not just any girl but someone u like. i gave my boyfriend a chance, we hardly have anything in common, and we have been going out for a year and i half. we love each other very much and are going to get married. it is true opposites attract. yes im only 18, but im glad ';the one'; when i did so that i can spend the rest of my life with him. instead of spending the rest of my life trying to find ';the one.';
you do whats right for you not what people tell you, you should do
Maybe you should wait a few more years (maybe 16) before you jump into the dating pool. I think that its better for you to date a few girls thru out high school and college (not all at the same time) so that you'll know what type of women you like or don't like and with those experiences you'll be able to decide the right one to marry later on down the road. But you should do what you think is best for yourself.

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I need some advice on my relationship?

My girlfriend and I got into a horrible fight and just had a day full of texting and intense anger. Now we have agreed to try to work things out and move on together, but she won't say I love you to me. I have not aksed her too, I just noticed its not happening. Is this just due to her being so pist, and it will go back to normal or what? Women what do you ya say?I need some advice on my relationship?
Trying to figure out a woman is like trying to round off a number to infinity.I need some advice on my relationship?
Most women say it when they mean it


She may not want to mean it right now, by not saying it it is a protective shield for her heart. I do not know what the fight was about so it wold be hard to answer if it is because of that. Romance her, but what ever you do do not repeat what started the fight to begin with. Give it some time be sure an SHOW her that you love her. remember actions speak louder than words.





Good Luck

Need relationship advice?

My question is Should I scarface who I am and what I like do to cause I'm in a realitionship, been with b/f for over 2 years were oppisites in some ways he's a homebody I like to go out play pool meet people have a good time, it usually just US and only us when we hang out and its geting boring ..... he dosn't have many friends I would like to go out more socialize with other people but he wont any advice? he's also very depressed and without a jobfor over a year know, I;m tring to be happey but it seems He drains me of all of it with his feelings?Need relationship advice?
relationships are about compromise. You should still be able to go out but maybe not as often if he doesn't like it. Remember, everytime you go out you're doing something he doesn't want to do. Everytime you stay in you're doing somehting you don't want to do.





if he NEVER wants to go out, then yea, it's time to move on. If he's going through a tough time, then you should see him through.





Relationships are a compromise. Are you willing to give up what he has to offer for a couple more nights out?

Relationship advice please...?

i moved about 2 months ago and left my girlfriend behind, I did not have a choice my mom got a new job... should I stay with her? I mean, I really like her, but I don't know what she does back home.. I need advice.Relationship advice please...?
if you really want to stay with her and you love her then you should even worry about what she does back home you should be willing to work with it

Relationship advice, please!?

I went to a party earlier and my ex was there. We've been becoming better friends and everything, since the break up was over a year ago. We were left alone out by the lake, so we started talking about our ';feelings';. Well, I ended up.... I don't wanna say, but in the end he was hard and I liked the way I felt. (But no clothing came off, or unbuttoned!!!) Before he left, we kissed and I didn't like it. I know that he wants to get back together, but I don't for multiple reasons. Do you have any idea what I should do?Relationship advice, please!?
'I know that he wants to get back together, but I don't for multiple reasons';





leave him alone. he doesn't want to be friends, he's just trying to get close again... you said so yourselfRelationship advice, please!?
Dont get into an alone situation again...and just be honest and tell him you dont want to be together again.
Pray, only through prayer you'll find the right answer!


Take good care!
dont kiss or hug or nothingbecause you would be leading him on,tell him you just want to be friends
Find someone else, 'you liked the way it felt'-- perhaps you miss intimacy. This relationship sounds over, get over it and forget about him.
you guys talked about your feelings and it mad you horny and it felt good but then you kissed and didnt like it?? hmm sounds like you stired up some old feelings is all... if you didnt even like the kiss then id say its over... move on.

Relationship advice, please?

I am married to someone that I am not in love with anymore and that I absolutely hate, I am only with him for financial security, I was in the process of leaving him but found out I was pregnant and stayed. Well now my baby is 2 months old and I dont want her to grow up around us fighting all the time. Whats the best way to become independent and leave his @$$? (Oh, and I always quit my job and quit college to stay at home with my baby, so I have nothing at all)Relationship advice, please?
Ashley, honey, I am going through the same thing. I can tell you what I am doing: I KNOW I will not be with this man and because in my mind I have already put him behind, I am much calmer with him and don't get hurt so much and just focus on peaceful cohabitation for the sake of my child. Meanwhile I plan to go to college and get a degree. And once I am on my feet - goodbye! I know it sounds rough and cruel, and it's not what I wanted for him, me or our child, but it seems like the only way.





Specially if you have a daughter - girls relate to their mothers in a very special way and growing up knowing that your mother is unhappy or sacrificed her happiness in order to give you a father of doubtful value - it's not very good. I grew up like that and that's why I don't want that for my child.





Good luck!Relationship advice, please?
Grow up and get a job. Its your fault that you are totally dependant on an A-hole. Shame on you. Divorce his *** and sue for child support. Get yourself and the kid out of the abusive situation. You owe it to your baby.
what makes him such a bad guy? i'm assuming you slept with him willingly...your sole focus should be to do what is best for you child. make a long term plan to leave him, if you think that is what you should do....go get a job and go back to school. your life will only get more difficult, but after a few years you'll be back on your feet.





good luck
Well first of all get out of the relationship....Do you have someone you can lean on until u get back on your feet, mom, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends. If all else fails leave and get child support
Get a job, find good daycare for the baby, petion the courts for child support. Good luck
The only way to get away from him is to get a job and find a place of your own. If you can ask your family to help with the baby. I'm sure they would love to spend time with her. Then find a lawyer a file for a divorce. Remember your doing this so she has a happy home without fighting in it, not because she needs both her parents. She will always have a mother and a father, just living in two different homes. Your little girl needs to grow up in a home where there is no fighting. Good luck!
Ashley,I feel very bad for you. Stuck in a bad relationship because you need the $$$$ And now he beats you up??? This guy is a low life coward piece of ****!!!! He wont hit a guy because he is a spinless asshole with no balls!!! Here is what you should do... Start saving$$$ as fast as you can,put up with the bs for now.After you have enough to live on for about a year,ditch the loser and start life over again...Good Luck P.S. When I mean save I mean steal it out of his wallet and bank acct...
I would say to give one more chance to ur marriage for the sake of ur baby....but i'm not there, i'm not in ur shoes. Whatever u want to do, pls, think twice first....u rn't alone any more, there's a child to be raise. I do understand is that it must b difficult to live with some1 u don't love, more than that, u hate. The fact is you loved him before, right?! Try to look for d reason that made you love him in d first place, try to love him back. Is it impossible?! If it is, then girl u are in trouble, cuz as u said, u hv got nothing. How do expect to survive?! Don't do anything for now. Work on ur marriage and on ur own life. Go back to school, ur baby doesn't stop u from studying, u know that. After graduate, and with a job, if u still feel the same way, then, girl, you'll be free like a bird to fly. Before that, on your shoes, i wouldn't do anything, as long as he isn't beating you. Sorry...I'm with you. God bless you
This is why you should become independant. Go back to school and get a job. Set a good example for your daughter, it might be hard but it will benefit you in the long run.
It's a difficult question to answer. Do you love your child? If so, spare a thought for your child. Put her interest first. How would it be like for her to grow up in a single parent family?





Love is overrated sometimes. Is your current husband bad? or is it you just do not love him...
you should leave, you havea baby to think of
Ask family members for help until you get on your feet. you can put the baby in daycare and go back to work and make a living for yourself and your baby. Don't forget child support.
Go BACK to college. It is not using your husband for you to advance your education. Afterall, you are the mother of his child and and educated, self-supporting x-wife is better than a broke, burger-slinging X. If you throw yourself into schooling then perhaps you will even find that your husband isn't such a bad guy. Maybe you are just bored at home?





But if you really don't like him, don't abruptly leave. Get the education. Trust me. Also, start sneak-saving some cash every single week if you can. Even if it is just $5 a week. Keep doing it because when you leave it will be extremely hard even if you do have a decent job. I know that sounds underhanded but most women who are stay at home moms or who are just breaking into the career world have a tough time of it and every penny would help.





And, start keeping track of your husbands financial information. Pay stubs, taxes, assets, debt....don't be the blind fool in divorce court. Be informed, be kind, be fair.





But first go back to school and work your butt off...be patient and in a couple of years you will have at least an assoc. degree to lean on.
First, why the hate?


No one, I mean no one can make you hate.


That emotion comes from inside the individual.





It is not easy becoming a mother, a wife, a head of household. Many, many changes are happening in your life right at this moment. Will additional traumatic changes enhance your life in anyway?





Remember: HATE comes from within. Figure out why you are experiencing hate, then maybe other self awareness answers will shown themselves.





The Hating needs to stop. Release it. Throw it away. Then begin to investigate your fears.
if you're absolutely sure you can't fix this marriage, you need to get out for the sake of your kid. hell with his money, you can always get back to school, get a loan, ask your parents for help may be (stay with them for a little while). you'll get child support from your husband anyway, the more he makes the more you'll get. besides there're many governmental programs to help financially. it's not that bad out there.
One word love '; ALIMONY';
discuss the situation with your husband, tell him how u feel. tell him that it is best for the 3 of you to separate, you want to go back to school or get a job. say it calmly, but stern. make the conversation short.





start making plans as to where u r going to live. look for a good day care and get a job. stay with a family member or a friend for now.





start your life over, do not waste anymore of your time staying with him.





think about your daughters future as well as your own.





good luck. you have a rocky road ahead of you. but, do it for all the right reasons.








good luck and. be strong.
divorce him. you will get alimony and child support in the settlement.
so find another donkey to ride
be carefull, look into the laws of your state... about abandonment issues... you leave or he leaves, it makes a difference in the courts... also, start to stick money up in an account in your maiden name... sell or pawn a few little things, here and there... I know this sounds ugly and sneaky, and well it is, but if you have a child, well, it is your responsibility to take care of it until things are settled, and there are ways he can get around support .... so bid your time, look at the laws and talk to a lawyer if at all possible... God bless
Whatever you do, do not work on your marriage--after all, you have a child and why should the baby have two parents? It isn't necessary and your feelings are much more important than that of your kid's. And since it's ';your baby'; what the hell does the baby need him for? It isn't his too. Take his money--you've earned it having to put up with him all this time. It isn't like the money is his, right? I wonder what you fight about--I'm sure you're pleasant to come home to. You make me sick
Get the divorce and figure out how to take care of your self like a million other single moms out there.Ask for child support and alimony in the divorce.
If you know u cant work out your problems, then leave. It would be in best intrest for you and your child. First look inyo a job and maybe if you would like you could have family members take care of your child so you could attend college. Then when you find a stable well paying job and a nice place to settle down in file for a divorce, get child support, but in my oppinion even if you do all this you should still let your husband have a part in helping to raise the child if they are willing to. Maybe in a while you could find a good loving boyfreind to help you financially and also to help raise your baby. If not ask family to help watch your child and maybe look into a daycare school until he/she is old enough to go to real school. But what do I know? I am just a 13 year old kid...Good luck! Hope I helped. Please give me a message soon to tell me how things are going.
Get the divorce, a child would rather be from a broken home than live in one. You obviously have no intentions of reconciling. You need to get back in school, for the long term benefits. You and you child will be better off. Get your job back, at least part time, you'll need the money, regardless of any divorce settlement. You will be entitled to family maintenance(Formerly ';Alimony';) and child support. Don't dwell on it, do it. Think of your baby and your baby's mother. Don't be motivated by fear, it snowballs on you.

Relationship advice PLEASE!?

ok. so me and my girlfriend have like the most awesome time when spend time together. we only see each other like a couple of days a week. so we don't get the chance to be with each other a lot. and sometimes when we do get the chance to go out she either doesn't know if she can or doesnt want to, she doesnt say this but i can sense thats how she feels. she has mood swings sometimes too. she can be really happy one momment and the next she is sad and emo.. so any advice would help. thanx!Relationship advice PLEASE!?
maybe she's feeling a bit insecure or would prefer to just spend time with you. I can get like this with my boyfriend, I like being at home snuggling up on the sofa with a good movie whereas he likes going out and getting drunk so I end up having to drag myself out and then not really enjoying myself.





You should really talk to her about it and find out why, just approach the subject gently and DO NOT under any circumstances ask her if it is hormonal! Even if it is hormonal you may just end up with a smack in the mouth! lolRelationship advice PLEASE!?
Welcome to the world of women! Especially TEENAGE women!





Men have a difficult time understanding our mood swings. Mens hormones stay regularly stable, and they are less prone to mood swings. Women have major hormone fluctuations every month, and they fluctuate strongly day to day. So a woman may be very happy one day, the next might be quite cranky and down. If you add any stress, alcohol, pregnancy(more hormone fluctuations), depression-things can get really difficult.





Get used to it. Realize you are probably not the cause of her mood swings.





It sounds like it would be wise to talk to your girlfriend, and tell her you sense she's not that interested in the relationship. She may say you are right. Or she may say you are wrong, but she has other stressful things going on in her life that makes it difficult. Don't just ';assume';. Talk to her. And then, listen to her. It could be that she needs someone to lean on right now, as much as someone to have a good time with.
Haha. Dont worry about the emotional stuff, unless its happens all the time. Girls and mood swings are very normal. (esspecailly when shes on her period).


About the other stuff. I dont know why she wouldnt want to hang out or spend time with you. I know my bf (well, not quite, but almost) is in PA at school (im in VT). And when hes up on breaks we are gona hang out. I wouldnt NOT want to see him. I mean we both think days drag by soo slowly when where not talking.


She may be insecure, or just not really happy in the realationship. Try talking to her about it. :)
To be honest, she sounds too immature to be in a relationship. She's only focused on HERSELF and that's a sure sign of immaturity. If you want a meaningful, mature r'ship, then it's time to end it with this roller-coaster girl. It's never a good sign, by the way, when someone can't control their emotions or is very obviously controlled by them.
bipolar much?
give her space, maybe she's feeling smothered by you
She might just be a bit busy. It happens.
She's kinda immature, or bipolar. Its o hard, iK now, but do u make her happy? cheer her up,she'll love u for it

paper mask

I need relationship advice?

i got in an argument with my fiance because of my jealousy issues!!! i got mad because we went to the store and i saw a girl he had messed around with and it made me really upset why is it so hard to not be jealous what should i do to make it rightI need relationship advice?
Hmmm... You do not seem to be too confident in yourself and are very wary about your fiance. These emotions will get in your way for the long haul and could be detrimental to your marriage.


First, you must come to realize that he wants you and only you. Just because he sees someone he use to date, does not mean he'd go ';out back'; with her. I have plenty of friends that I use to date and I would never go backwards. Especially if I were to get married to the one I love.


My current girlfriend is thee most trusting one I've ever been with, ever, and it is a relief for her not to be jealous of when I am chilling with other girls. She must be confident enough in herself to understand that I would not cheat on her. She is very forgiving and trusting.


Sure, occasionally she'll get a bit of jelly on her nose (jealousy), but it's only because the attention I'd be giving wasn't directed to her at-the-time.


I'm sure he would not ever go out on you and you just/only have to believe that for yourself. Else, it is going to be a very rocky road ahead. Let it go and be more confident in yourself and everything will fall right into place.


Good luck! (and congratulations)

Need Relationship Advice!!!!?

i like this guy and i think he likes me too i really want him to ask me out. My other friend likes him too and she shows it more than me. What do i do??? i go to a new schoolNeed Relationship Advice!!!!?
Just because your friend who likes this guy also expresses her feelings more than you do doesn't mean he likes her back. I think a guy is always attracted to the girl who is confident in who she is first, and then that shows in her interaction with other people. If you can show off your confidence when you talk to him, I bet you he'll more attracted to that, than your friend who is simply trying to get his attention for the sake of attention. Be patient, be proud of who you are, and the right people will be attracted to you. Need Relationship Advice!!!!?
Well if i were u oi wuld txt him and ask him who he likes (txt oonly if u dont wanna do ths in peerson) then if he says idk hbu tell him that u were kinda starting to like him but u totally understand if he dont lk u. Watch wa he says ive done this and he asked me out next day. I am doing it currently but this kid lked me alredy sumthing lk tat anyways good luck:)
if u have his number or email give him a call and start talking with him and the nhe's gonna start realizing u like him or email him and sentd him an emai lthat says hey .....(for the name).....waz up ? this is ......(ur name) hey when u get a chance email me back or just call me at ......(ur number)

Relationship Advice please?

I'm having problems in my marriage. I'm married x 1 1/2 years and my partner works many more hours than I do. I have been feeling lonely. What should I do? Also has anyone used the service on the website http://www.RelationshipFrontiers.com? I've heard a few good things but not sure.Relationship Advice please?
i have never heard if this site before but the advice i can give you is talk to him. let him/her know how you feel. maybe they do what to spend time with you but work has limited the time spent together. whatever time you do have enjoy it. do something nice together, either go on a date or cuddle in bed. and while you are alone, go do something for yourself...workout, go out with your friends or even take some classes on something that interest you. remember you were your own individual person before you got married.

Need some relationship advice?

so I love this girl. We have been really close friends for years now. Only problem is she is 13 almost 14 and I am 17 almost 18. When do you think would be the apppropriate age for us to date?Need some relationship advice?
before you're 18... or after she is so nothing illegal happens lolNeed some relationship advice?
id say at least when shes 15 or 16 shes just a kid now and well you are already in different moment of life. Good luck ^____^

I need relationship advice.?

So there is this girl whom i like very much...she has kissed me many times but we arent going out yet...when ever i ask if she wants to chill she wants to hang with her bestfriend who was her ex boyfriend at one point...it has been driving me nuts all the time...she gets jealous when ever i hang with my bestfriend whom ive known since 5th grade ( she is a girl but we are strictly friends) what should i do?I need relationship advice.?
She had double standards and if you two haven't moved forward by now there is a reason.





The reason is she very obviously is not over her ex boyfriend who now if her ';best friend.'; Which by the way is total BS. He's not just her friend, she just can't let go of him and loves his attention so she acts as if he is her best friend so no one can judge her.





Hate to break it to you but this girl isn't mature enough to hold a real relationship with you and you've been wasting your time on her. I hope you realize this and move on because even if she DID agree to date you you'll most likely continuously have problems with her having her ex and her best friend. She'll always value him above you.I need relationship advice.?
Its sounds like she wants control over the whole thing! What I would not is tell her that she needs to stop playing games with you if she wants to be with you then she needs to stop playing! And let her know that she goes and hangs with her best friend which is her x then you have the right to hang with ur friend! Let her know how u feel be honest trust me thats the only way and if she dont like it then she aint worth it! there are girls that wants a relationship and not wanting to play with peoples feelings!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
Shes using you as rebound right now probably.


Ignore her for a week bu dont make it so obvious - it'll give her time to think about what she really wants, you or her ex boyfriend who she spends more time with.


When she might feel like she's losing you she'll either ask you about it and spend more time with you or she wont care.


Dont ignore her too much, just start backing away slightly for about a week or two
Communication is key:


U like this girl a lot. Is she your GF?? If not then sounds like she is playing the field. You need to tell her how you feel and ask her how she feelz about you. If it is established that you are both into eachother then let her know that it bothers you that she spends so much time with her EX BF. If she is not willing to compromise on that subject then I would say move on.


There are so many gurls out there... then settle for the wrong one.


and listen to ur gutt feelings....


they are usually right.
I really think you need to confront her. Tell her that you want to know how she really feels because it seems like she is kind of playing you. Tell her that you accept the fact you have a guy as your best friend and that she needs to accept the fact that you have a girl who is your best friend. And if she can hang out with him you have every right to hang out with her. good luck!
it sounds like she might not be sure whether or not she wants you, but she definately doesnt want anyone else to have you. talk to her without showing her how much you like her (dont appear too available) and if she's like i dont know blah blah blah then go hook up with someone else and see if that changes her mind
Tell her. Honesty is best. I cant say it never hurts to be honest but you will never know what she wants if you dont talk to her about it. Just sit down with her and have a serious conversation about it.
she doesnt hav feelings for you. sorry. find some other girl that treat you like you treat her. that is the best advice you can get i think. laterz
she can hang out with his ex-bf and u can hang out with ur friend too(prefers girl) don't care bout her jealousy coz she made u jealous and why would she be mad if u made her jealous? my advice is ';hang out with other girl';
find someone who's not like her.
date a girl who doesn't have double standards