Need relationship advice...PLEASE HELP?

my bf and i have been together for 3.5 years... just 3 weeks ago, we both decided that we needed some space, or rather a ';break';....an honest break, not the sort to go and possibly date other people... just some much needed time to reconnect with ourselves and heal from the pain we caused one another. we both hurt eachother, which i suppose is natural in a nearly 4 year relationship...and each time we said we'd start over with a ';blank slate';, start ';new';...problem is, we never did - we both clinged so tight to the past that is was nearly impossible to move forward...thus, this toxic resentment and bitterness saturated our relationship for the past year.


i love him and am respecting his wishes for me to not contact him...so he can have proper time to heal ... but i miss him and am so eager to start new...these past 3 weeks have been so revealing for me and i am thankful .... does this sound like a ';healthy'; break to you? please share your experience/perceptions with me. thank u dearlyNeed relationship advice...PLEASE HELP?
Honestly no break is healthy.. Expecially if there has been alot of hurting on both parties.. Its kind of hard to let go of the past due to both of you are scared on getting hurt again on that same level.. Love is a very interesting thing, sometimes people are more convinced they are in love with someone when its really they love the fact of having that person around. From my own experiences having alot of neg. past problems then having a break only makes things worse because then you ask yourself was it worth it? What did he do on his break yada yada.. Faithful or not the question will always ponder in your mind.. Im sorry to hear about your problem best of luck..Need relationship advice...PLEASE HELP?
it dosnt sound like healthy brake to me. you can take a break from each other, but have contact as a friend. friendship is realy important in realationship. you gotta a have a friendship foundation in realationship. sometime it is good to talk things out and solve it. when you talk things out, talk as a friend. if there is a problem , there is a soultion. joining two people isnt easy thing. have to have honest toward eachother, understanable, negoctiateable, respect, kindness, careness, and etc... . i recommand the book called ';couple Puls , understand yourself and the one you love'; , i believe that this book will help you a lot. trust me. here is a link http://www.amazon.com/Personality-Plus-C鈥?/a>