Extreme Relationship Advice!?

';What do i need to do? I have a boyfriend that i love very much but he is always a jerk to me and gets mad over the smallest things! i mean i know he loves me very much and i promised that i wouldnt break up with him but im just miserable when im around him! And to add on tho that i have feelings for an ex that was very close to me for awhile! HELP ME!!!Extreme Relationship Advice!?
It sounds to me like you let guys push you around. You need to be dominate and show him that you want him but you DON'T NEED him. Show him that you can get any guy you want and if he doesn't stop being a jerk, your going to break your promise and breakup with him.





If you were TRULY IN love with him you would NOT have feelings for someone else, not even your ex. You may love him but your not IN love with him. there is a HUGE difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone.





If your current boyfriend was TRULY IN love with or if he even loved you or cared for you, he wouldn't be such a jerk to you and making you miserable.Extreme Relationship Advice!?
Okay, ask yourself this question: does his happiness surpass yours? If you are in an unhappy situation then you need to get out. It鈥檚 going to be hard but you need to do this for self preservation. If your miserable with someone than that means that鈥檚 what your future hold; misery. When you promised not to leave him was there a minister involved? If not, walk away. Maybe you can look into the ex and see how he is feeling for you because you're relationship now is dead.
What's the problem? You already know what you want. You don't stay in a relationship to satisfy someone else. If it's not working for you then get out and don't worry about what he wants. Look out for you first and foremost.
if he realy loved you he would not be so much of a jerk.. get real and get a life.. you deserve better
You really need to talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. Make sure he understands that he makes you feel hurt and upset and miserable. If he truly does love you, then he'll change his ways and become more considerate of your feelings. I hope this helps and good luck!
Do you want extreme advice on relationships? Or do you consider your relationship to be extreme and want some advice? Or I'm just confusing you even more? lol. Just kidding.





You can only help yourself, we can only offer suggestions. One must be willing to admit that they need help (which you have done), and be willing to change (which you will have to--no matter how hard it may be).





Your bf is a jerk. If he gets mad over the smallest things then he will also get mad at the larger things as well. Which basically means that he will be mad almost ALL the time. Is this what you want in a relationship? I don't think anyone wants this kind of relationship!





There's a life lesson that needs to be learned uncovered in your post: ';...and I promised...';. Please do NOT make any promises that you can't keep. This is a promise that is very difficult to make in a normal relationship, much less one that has a partner having anger management issues. I hate to break it to you but you didn't do well in making this promise, and for your safety, you may have to break it sooner or later.





Are you afraid of him? or possible the way he might react if he finds out that you've broken up with him? Are you afraid of the consequences that that might bring? If so, you might be a classic case of domestic violence (or a prime candidate). If you feel like you're in immediate danger, please call 9-1-1 or your local emergency number. I also suggest that you google some information of domestic violence. I have included a link below to get you started.





There is NO reason that you should be miserable in ANY relationship, more so in a boyfriend-girlfriend, husband and wife kind of relationships.





';If you are miserable, then you need to get out of that relationship, the sooner the better.'; I've given this advice to a friend (my friend's fiancee). She eventually found someone else to marry that was more compatible with her. They had arguments over the little things. I was being a true friend and told her what needed to be said, even though he was a good friend too.





Be truthful to yourself and do what you must--even if you have to break your promise (this time). Tip: Try not to make this promise in your next relationship. ;-)
ok well if you have feelings for an ex, then you dont really love your boyfriend very much.sounds to me like you are afraid to be on your own.maybe this should be your challenge to learn how to be happy on your own, to really enjoy your own company and like yourself.


if you did this then you wouldnt put up with anyone being mean to you, not even once, you would have the confidence to say....';i'm outta here'; and to get out.


once you are happy on your own and like yourself you will attract men who like themselves and dont have anger issues.