Need Relationship Advice?

My girlfriend has an ex-husband. She forgot to sign out of her gmail account so I took a peak. She wrote this to him





';Hello sweetie,


Surprise, yeah i finally got the time to get on here and write you some. I thought about you all night last night. By not hearing from you today i am thinking ';she'; (his girlfriend) is still there. Sorry not coming over with her there, cause i want to be able to hold you and at least tell you ';I love you';. Learning to deal with this all is very hard. Love you sweetheart, my love, my one and only.';





That is a portion of the email to her ex-husband that I found. Should I talk to her about what had happened or just pack up and leave her?


She was married to him for 13 years, and been divorced for 7 months now. I couldnt resist to check in her mail because she had never told me about that email address before.... was curious like a cat. This doesn't sound like a normal divorce to me. Usually couples end up fighting..... ya know.Need Relationship Advice?
well you were snooping and they were married 13 years....and she's only been divorced 7 months....you are the rebound boy.........





she may have written that, but you didn't snoop far enough to see whether he replied or not.......Need Relationship Advice?
I don't have the slightest
Wow. I think you should confront her to see what the hell is going on. And then I think you would be really smart by leaving. This sounds like a lot of drama just waiting to happen. Good luck with everything.
Not all couples argue after a divorce but you have trust issues in your relationship now and they won't go away until you settle this mess. She has some feelings for him ( of course) but now since you have opened this box you must tell her what you found and confront her. It is going to be messy but you needed to know and now you have a decision to make.
Even though you shouldn't have gone into her account, well, it had one good advantage on you- you saw a different side to her. I wouldn't marry your girlfriend. If she is doing this behind your back now, she sure will do it when you're married. She keeps secrets. I wouldn't say anything to her, just tell her the fire died and you want to move on.





Oh, and delete your question because if she should type anything with keywords in a search engine related to you, this will come up. It's unlikely, but better safe than sorry.
I know exactly wat you mean, although snooping around in her email adress wasnt right cause women hate that, you should tlk to her about it, once after you guys tlk about it i think your pretty much on your own there, but you will know exactly wat to do from there.
Your girlfriends heart belongs not to you but to another. Do you really want to stay in a relationship knowing that she loves another not you? If you were to decide to confront her with what you read she may admit it or deny it, but that doesn't change the fact that she loves him not you. Why bother with a messy confrontation when either way you know you have to leave?
Pack it up...
You need to sit down with her and tell her that you read that. it might be hard but the longer you wait the harder it will get to tell her.
She is still into him, obviously. Pack up and leave, she is not worth it. You deserve someone who won't cheat on you.
Wow...that's rough!





Okay, first, you should never sneak into her email...that shows you don't trust her (with good reason obviously, but if you don't trust, you should just get out instead of peaking where you shouldn't...)





second...either she didn't want the divorce and her ex is leading her on...in that case, maybe there is something to salvage...she was with him for a long time and old habits die hard...my friend was in a very similar situation and it took friends to get her out of it...





or, you could just be who she uses to make him jealous...in that case, there's nothing for you there...





you need to look at your relationship with her and decide what is most likely...because honestly, she could care about you, but she just can't get over her ex without help...he could be messing with her mind a bit...he had 13 years to possibly control and manipulate her...





Good Luck...I hope everything works out for you!!!
Leave her:





(a) because you obviously don't trust her





(b) because from the looks of that you shouldn't trust her





(c) lastly she was married for 13 years and it's only been 7 months





Run like you've never run before =)
Pack up and leave her. She might come back to you though. Depends.


It's not good to get married, then unmarried, then married again. These people never get married, so she has one shot with you.
Don't waste your time, waiting for excuses. Pack and leave, and don't wait a minute longer. She has already shown that she can hide things from you and hasn't been honest with you either. Probably using you for a ';sugar daddy'; anyway.


You are wrong about the fighting thing with divorces though. I've been divorced with my ex since 1994, and we get along better now, then when we were married. Maybe because of our two daughters...but there isn't any ';fringe benefits'; as with your girlfriend. Dump her and move on.
They had ben married for 13 years.. and although he is an 'ex', she still love him.. That is only normal..





Give her time to come out of the past relationship. You have to be extra special to her, if you want to keep her..
Pack it up... she is not over her ex yet.
Get out now.