Forever? Need relationship advice!?

Ive been dating this girl for about a year, and we really like each other. The other night she asked me if I'd be with her forever and I didn't know what to say. so I have a few questions.





1) What should I say to her?


2) what would you do in my situation?


3) what does a relationship need to last forever?\


thanks.Forever? Need relationship advice!?
You haven't said how old you are. If you're in your mid-20s, you should have figured out by now whether you're going to fall in love with her. If you're 13, you don't really know who you're going to be when you grow up.





Is there any reason you know of now that you wouldn't be together forever? If so, tell her -- and tell her that you'd like to work on it.





From my experience (dated for about 12 years, married for 25), the roughest period for bridging ';forever'; is around ages 19-21, typically the first two years of college or work. This is where you're making significant changes in how you see yourself and the world. If the two of you are not yet through this point, you have some serious growing-up to do, changes that catch most people (myself included) by surprise.





As the first responder said, tell her how you feel. She needs to know where this relationship is going; she needs some handle on how stable her life is. If you're not ready to commit yet, tell her that. If you like the way things are going, tell her that, too -- and that you're *very* interested in continuing to work together with ';forever'; the ultimate goal (provided, of course, that you're actually feeling that way).





On the other hand, if you just want to ';coast'; for a while, if you're waiting for ';love'; to take hold, then let her know that, too. Perhaps you could agree on a time frame for this coasting -- say, by mid-December, you'll decide one way or another whether you're willing to work on this as a long-term commitment.





Does any of this work for you?Forever? Need relationship advice!?
I think you should be honest with your feelings and honest with her. You have been together for a year but only say you really like each other. It's hard to promise forever. Even harder to promise when you are not in love yet.





1. Just tell her you like her and want to be with her.


2. If I were her, I'd want you to be honest with me, to a point. Don't say definitely you will be with her forever but do not tell her you do not know. I know, very tricky.


3. A relationship needs trust, respect, love, communication.





It sounds like she is in the planning stage of the relationship and wants to know if this will lead to marriage. Just go slow and reassure her of your feelings for her.