Sunday, July 25, 2010

Teenage girl seeking relationship advice?

Im in the 8th grade and a couple m onths ago i lost one of the most special guys i have ever had. All i think about is him anymore. All i dream about is him. I'm never hungry and i can't sleep that well anymore. I barely talk to anyone anymore and im usually listening to sad, slow music. I cry alot and the worst part is..i have cut my wrist twice. I know my friends are worried about me but i don't want them to worry about me and i don't want to go to an adult about this. I just can't help being depressed becuase all i think about is him. I can't stop listening to our song and i can't stop writing depressing poetry.


does anyone know whats wrong with me?...how can i help myself...?Teenage girl seeking relationship advice?
Hey.. i hope your doing okay.. i know the feeling, the same thing happened to me when i was your age,, (im36 now) i met the one and only true love of my life and i was an idiot and screwed it up... but thats how we learn.. through the years ive never forgotten about him.. i have dated lots of other men and am seeing a fabulous man right now. .but there is always something about first love that is so heart breaking when it ends.. but you know dont try and cut your wrists or anything like that.. no man is worth THAT... listen to music, cry if you have to, and write about it not just in poetry, but try journalling .. it really helps.. write for 20 minutes every day.. just about all of your feelings. .and as you slowly start to heal you will look back and see how far youve come .. and how much better you are feeling... (you can just use a regular school notebook) i still use journalling in my daily life to help me figure out and really know what s going on ..and it often helps me to find solutions to my own problems as if i see it in writing its easier to understand... Also try talking to a counsellor at school.. if you dont want to tell them about the wrist cutting thing you dont have to.. but i too am concerned about you.. ..you can talk to your doctor too and maybe he can prescribe you something for depression, but i think you just need time to heal and get over your first heart break.. it does get easier.. trust me.. ive been there... good luck and god bless you .. if youd like to chat email me.....Teenage girl seeking relationship advice?
Hey this stuff happens and it might take you a long time to get over it just don't hurt yourself and beleive he's in a better place now and also beleive that he loved you!I'm so sorry about your loss, when I was young(1/2 a day old) I lost both my parents.
try tellin him what you just told all of us...
There is truly nothing worse than to go through the pain of a broken heart. The only true cure for it is time - not sure it that's comforting to you, but it's the truth. And rest assured that you're not alone - right now, right this minute, there are literally thousands of people who are suffering through broken hearts, just like you. So you're not all by yourself in this. Try to stop hurting yourself if you can, but don't put too much pressure on yourself to simply 'feel better'. You definitely will get through this, and get over that guy, but it's going to take time.
First of all stop killing yourself, Why did you lose him? Was it something you did? Right now when you finish reading this I really want you to get something to eat. And try to cheer up alittle okay? Whatever you did wrong try to talk it out with him if things dont come out right then I think its time that you move on. How can you love someone eles when you cant love yourself? Just chill out, eat, get some sleep, and stop THE CUTTING! Tell him how you feel and maybe he still likes you.. As for your friends tell them what happened and they''ll understand.


Gurl goodluck please feel better and get well soon





p.s. GO EAT! LOL
Even though you don't want to go to an adult, you need to. They have classes and therapy for things like this. If you miss him that much and REALLY REALLY don't want to go to an adult, ask him out again, if you don't think you could handle rejection start being friends again. Get a huge group of people and go to a movie or something, that way its not a date but you'll be with him and a few friends.
hey, ,listen,. . just tell me one thing . ..


Did not eating. . .brought him back , ,


did not sleeping . . brought himback. . .


Or cutting ur wrist . . .brought him back. . . .





Just imagine, , Wht would he feel when he will come to know about this,that u are doing all this coz of him, , ,it will be hi turn to shed his blood. . .





Listen dear,these things wont help, ,i can understand ur feelings,but,True love doesnt means to be loved, , it means to love more. .thats it, , ,.





And u are in 8th grade,its not the end of ur life dear, ,,common , , ,get up..u have ur whole life ahead of you,, , ,wht the hell are u doing, , ,common dear, , u r more brave than this, ur life is cetainly more better than this, , , how can u waste ur life ike this.. . .





Do u know how much ur friends and ur parents love u . .did u ever thought about them, , , . .U felt this way when u lost some one u loved, , just imagine how would ur parents feel when they will lose u , , ,


U r ready to die for few mnths love,, but , ,Ur parents love u so much, , cant u live for them , , , and they will loveu fo rest of ur life,is that not enough for u, , ,...think over it, ,no one else can say u wht to do,,,its your call
Listen! You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, and get a hobby! find something you used to enjoy doing, before he came along, and start that up again. make some friends, ditch the music. stop cutting, and talk to your parents.
You'll are just ';love'; sick. Please ! too young for a relationship and you cannot handle the failure. Thus, please focus on something good, like studies and don't think of that. You'll have plenty of times for relationship since you'll are very young and move on with life, just treat this as an expensive lesson that money cannot buy.
it sounds like you are depressed. I am sorry the guy left but you need to be strong. You will find someone else. Stop listening to your song...throw it in the trash!!! And I know you don't want to go to adults about the cutting...but that is a serious problem and you are hurting yourself physically but it is your emtions you need to deal with. Talk to a school counsler or someone you trust to help you. Your parents are probably more understanding than you think. If you believe in God pray for his help also...Please stop the cutting you can truly make yourself very ill with that!
I used to be in your same situation, except for the wrist cutting thing, mine was pills. Later on in life I was diagnosed with depression, duh, I take medicine now and all is good.
Who cares if you cut lotsa people do that


have you tried talkin to him? boys arent that hard to tlak to


just tell him how u feel and if hes not ok with it then move on
avoid sad music.listen to upbeat songs like hilary duff or fergie.also never give urself free time.get ur mind off him. do sports, dance, make new friends and go to a movie with them. whatever u have 2 do to not be bored and think about that guy
first you need to STOP cutting yourself and realze that there are other guys in thye world and you are good anough for all of them. and stop being afraid at talk to a conslor they will help you with this stuff.
Play some on-line games! Down load war rock at war rock.net and look for michaelp... It's a shooting games.. We need more girls to play. Anyways, it helped me out. Now my grades are going down and I play almost all day some days skipping school. Wow...I totally forgot about any one I once love but war rock. Good luck and hope to see u.
You are in crush with that fellow
you have a WHOLE entire life to live and wollowing in your sorrow isn't helping. don't think about him, keep yourself busy with other activities. spend alot of time with your friends. 8th grade is no time to get depressed over a breakup. right now, go out side and go for a jog. and you'll feel better. try and keep a friendship relationship with him...good luuck!!
It is called a broken heart. Talk to a trusted person or a counseller about how you are feeling. They can help you overcome it and help you move on with your life.


Best of luck to you!
UGH!!!





You got it bad girly.





Me have something like that many years ago when I was a young pup.





Crazy in love with cute little girl. Her move away. Me get the blues real bad. But, in time me decide life is too short to waste being sad. Lots of people out there having fun, doing great things. Me just decide to join life and have more fun.





So, you stop being like a hermit. Get happy fun music, turn on lots of lights and dance, jump around, go for walk in park on sunny day. You will meet some one you can love again someday and the world WILL seem alright again.





It happened to me, it happened to a bunch of my friends and it can happen to you.





NOw stop whining like little 3rd grader, feeling sorry for yourself. Get going and enjoy life.
teardrop, you are suffering from depression. You should seek a positive person in your life to speak with. Your feelings are real, so don't someone tell you they are not. I think you have extremely strong feelings about your old boyfriend. Seek help. Speak to your girlfriends about your deep feelings.
Probably falling into a state of depression. I did the same thing after my uncle died. Tell your mom you feel sick, have her take you to the doctor, don't let her go in the room, and tell the doctor what's really going on. He or she can help you, they really can.
You can never get help for the problems people dont know you have. So find someone you can really talk to and just tell them exactly how you feel. Than you'll feel much better and much more secure
Buy a funny hat. Talk to a friend. Troll Yahoo Answers.
Well first of all, MOVE ON. Even if you still miss him, its not the end of the world. You can't be held down because of one guy. If you do, then you'll roll through life full of depression and you will miss having a fun life. So my advice would be to just move on and find something else to occupy your time. As for cutting your wrists, please don't do that. That not only damages you mentally but also physically. You will be scarred for life if you do that. Just find an outlet to focus on and then move on and live your life without being held down

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