Can someone offer some good relationship advice??

I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. When I first met him he was going through a divorce and a custody battle. He ended up signing away the rights to his child. The child is now 9 years old. What I have a problem with is that now after 8 years the mother keeps coming by bringing the child over to visit. Sometimes they are there till 10 at night. I am not currently living with my boyfriend but we are not broke up either. THe childs mother is also going through problems in her marriage and also the childs step father touched her inappropriately. Supposedly Dss is investigating. I can not come inside the house when the child is there. The mother will not bring the child over if I am there. I dont have a problem with the child but I have a problem with the mother. My boyfriend says that there is nothing going on between them but for some reason I am jealous as hell!! I cant stand her being around my boyfriend. How can I deal with this?? Please helpCan someone offer some good relationship advice??
If the mother had the father sign away all rights why is she bringing the child around now? She's using him as a pawn in some game she is playing. I understand your bf wanting to have a relationship with his child but if he wants you to interact with his son then he has that right. If the mother really wanted him to develop a relationship this shouldn't matter. The boy should be left with his father. She has another agenda. I'd be upset too. Men don't always see how women can be. If you have a true committed relationship with this man you should not worry too much about the ex. Give him some space but let him know what you expect for the future.Can someone offer some good relationship advice??
Where is the jealousy coming from? Why would you think there is something going on between your boyfriend and his ex-wife? What has changed in his behavior to make you feel this way? Is this a fear of losing him or has he given you reason to believe there's something more going on? What's the reason you can't be in the house when the child is there? Has your boyfriend had a relationship with his daughter all these years or is this new where they're just getting to know each other?





I know that's a lot of questions but if you answer each of them for yourself you may find some answers to what's really going on. If this is all new and your boyfriend's just getting to know his daughter, it might be a good idea to give them time alone for her sake. If he's had a relationship with her all along and now it's just that the ex-wife is also visiting, there may be more to it.





Bottom line is you're feeling insecure about your relationship with your boyfriend. After 8 years you should be able to commuicate with him openly about your feelings. If he tells you there's nothing going on, you have to decide whether or not to believe him. It sounds like you're not yet ready to believe what he says. Has he lied to you in the past? Has he ever given you reason to believe that he might go back to his ex-wife?





You have to do what feels right to you. Tell your boyfriend exactly what you feel. Tell him your fears and ask him about his. If you both can't be open and honest with each other after 8 years it may be time to look elsewhere. Only you can decide what's right for you. Don't base your decision on assumptions.
firstly you will have to trust your boy friend and do some change in your way of behaving .even thought they are divorce and the ex wife is married again they will always have something in commond who is a 9 year old child.you said you don't like your boyfriend's ex or are you afraid that he goes back to her again .a 9 year old child understand clearly all those thing and the only desire of a child of this age is to see both parents together again .don't try to be a mother for the kid or to be in competion with the ex of your boyfriend just be yourself....

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