Just leaves, no warning, and won't talk for weeks
I don't understand, why not talk about the problems so we can make things better
What I need to know is, what are the magic words to say to get her to talk and work out the problems?
I sent flowers, I sent online greeting cards, I said sorry for whatever it was that I did.
Do you have experience in this?Relationship advice needed from Men %26amp; Women?
Sounds to me like she is depressed or probably frustrated about work, kids , house .Do you help her ?.You should do wait for the right time to ask her what's bothering her and how you can help her with whatever she is going thru.You have to wait for the right time ,since she doesn't want to talk about anything. May be if you take her out on a date or even just a drive to a local park.A place where you both can sit and relax.
On one last note: stop apologizing for something you haven't done.
Good luck!Relationship advice needed from Men %26amp; Women?
buy her something first or take her shopping
sounds like she has the problem, maybe you both should see a counselor
she is immature. If she wants to make your marriage she should talk about her issues and try and find solutions...what a silly woman.
You seem to be the one that wants to make things work out....she probably doesn't feel the same.
The next time she walks out...don't call her....let her contact you first for a change....she seems to be taking you for granted.
Has she always done this? What prompted her to stop talking and leave this latest time?
I think we need more information to provide you with the best answer. However, I think the two of you are in need of some SERIOUS marital counseling.
You probably won't like this answer and I can see that you are making a great deal of effort however it might be time to walk away...put some space between you and see if she comes back to you after a period of time to work things out.
Remember you deserve someone who wants to be with you...is willing to talk and puts your relationship ahead of anything else.
If it doesn't work I'm sure you will find someone worthy that appreciates all your effort!
try to get her to go to a counselor with you. if she refuses then it's pretty much over and next move is up to you.good luck
Good question, first try saying a prayer for the right words to say. Next think about all the reasons you may have instigated her behavior i.e. cheating, spending all the money, drinking, drugs, whining, temper tantrums, general inattentiveness, jealousy, etc.
If you are guilty of any of those make steps to change and rectify your behavior FIRST. You have to be on the moral high ground for this one.
Then, once you've done that, take some time out and write out all the issues which are concerning you with your relationship. ALL OF THEM, look them over carefully and decide which are important and which are not. In other words prioritize your list. Take the top half of the list and use those as talking points with your wife. Save the bottom half for a less critical time.
You should speak your own mind calmly, and clearly. But if you weren't blessed with the gift of gab, you can try these ';magic words';;
';Honey, I am hurting right now and I don't know what to do. I feel as though I am loosing a big part of my life and don't know how to get it back. I've built part of my world with you and it seems as though it's crumbling right before my eyes. What's worse is that you don't seem to be affected the way that I am. How are you feeling with regards to our relationship? Are you happy? Do you feel like our life is the way you dreamed it would be when we were married? I love you, and I want to make things right. I am willing to listen to what you have to say (be ready to listen, even if you don't like what she has to say sit there and take it. YOU asked for it!).';
Now if she won't listen, write a letter explaining how you feel listing your issues and what you think should be done about it. Place it in her hands and ask her to read it. Next step is deciding how long you can bare being in the situation you are in without any change.
Personally, if after all that things didn't change I would quietly go and speak to a lawyer, draw up divorce papers then ask her to read and sign those and be OUT, but be cautioned; this is not something with which to bluff, if you do so be ready to go the distance! NEVER get beyond the point of talking or attempting to control her in anyway. Life is way too short to be miserable.
God bless...
When a person fails to engage in a fight or a discussion about the problems, they have already checked out... They no longer care about resolving the issues. That's a long time to not talk... weeks. Are you sure she hasn't moved on?
stop supporting her behavior... cut off the access to money for her... see how far she goes then. Sound as though she is using you like a door mat.
Sounds like she may be seeing someone else. Or she may just be fed up with the problems in your marriage and may believe that there is no hope for the marriage. Sounds for sure that she wants to be away from you at the very least, for a while. I wouldn't pressure her. I would give her a little time and space. Then, after a time, if she has not made an effort to make the marriage work, I would file for a divorce and move on with my life. Good luck.
i had problems like you.and my advice is keep away from her for a while.you will see she will call you.if you carry on call her she never come back to you.mate there are a lot of ladies out there....i learnt something from my experiences; never apologise from a girl if you did one time.otherwise she thinks herself a girl which is the most important.
I wend throught the same thing. If she walks out and leaves and you dont have contact for weeks then I hate to say there probably is another man involved. Where there is smoke there is fire. My ex did not want to discuss our problems either she did not want to do anything to fix our problems. The fact was that she was getting her life in order to divorce me. The whole time I was doing things like you trying to get things back on track. When looking back I should have let her go and not contacted her. I wish that I would have started my new life when she was getting her ducks in a row. It would have made the divorce much easier on me. So my advice would be to stop chasing her and just leave her alone. Go out and buy you some new clothes and update your image. Take care of yourself and dont kiss her butt. If she comes back then say that she is only allowed to come back if you two really work on your problems and dont accept anything less.
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