Relationship ADvice- killing me!?

Okay, so today this guy I have been dating and I had ';the talk'; about where we are going... And he said he doesnt see us going further (as in becoming serious) right now because his parents are going through a divorce and he just has to get through that before he can be serious with anyone. I do understand that and he still wants to date but just not get serious. I'm fine with that, but I do really like him. Is it worth it to wait around for him to get through this and just be myself and see how it goes, or should I move on.... I mean, we ARE still dating.. but I'm really confused because I really like him. And I dont want to set myself up for hurt.Relationship ADvice- killing me!?
he is out and out lying to you about his parents and what does that have to do with you? find a healthy partner and dump this guy while you can.Relationship ADvice- killing me!?
I agree with some others...what is the rush? I experienced the divorce of my parents at 17 yo. It was the most devastating time in my life. (other than MY divorce) He needs support, and truthfully, he may just fall for you head over heals if you stick around. But be careful...you may end up replacing his mom; and that is a bad thing.





If he continues to be needy a year from now, then you may reconsider your position, and move on. Those who have never learned to live by themselves for themselves, are much too dependent to be good partners!! Good luck!!
Move on. If your goal is to be in a life long and serious relationship you need to find a man willing to be that for you. There are other nice men out there waiting for a nice girl to come along. Why don't you make yourself available.
Date him for a while and see how things progress. You can always move on in a few months.
Going through a parents divorce can really make some people think about relationships. He's probably thinking, if my parents didn't work out then what makes me think i can have a steady relationship. Just be there for him and show him how much you care. Let him deal with that first. Give it some time, its hard when your parents are divorcing. Just make sure he knows you are there for him.
For most guys, the ';linchpin'; of a relationship is sex, but sometimes it is intimacy... The way you handle him is to back away from the relationship and reduce how much support you are giving him... Meaning, if you have been calling him all the time, then stop... If you have been providing him sex, then stop actively doing this... Let him decide how much you mean to him...





In short, time away from someone is seductive.... If you had a good relationship with him, he will come back for more. No doubt about that.... Good Luck!!! :-)
You cannot second guess what the future holds. Date him for awhile and time will tell if he meant what he said.
move on. a guy has so many reasons when he couldn't commit. if he likes you enough, he will bend over backwards just to be with you.
a divorce in the family is enough to scare off anyone from serious relationships. also, no matter what age we get to, divorve is still a blow to any ';child';. the best u could be for your guy right now is a shoulder to lean on. if he can share with u his anger and hurt at the divorce and u r there for him without condition, when he gets thru it u will have a friend for life and a man who will love u as u loved him
ok is he dating anyone else?? if not then your pretty much together it's just that he is unable to deal with DRAMA. and believe me there can be tons of drama in any relationship. Just keep dating him and if your not giving him grief he's want a serious relationship and someone to lean on through this ruff time.
First of all a divorce is the most devastating thing I have ever went through, so I can see his directions. To see your parents divorce whom you are suppose to trust more than any other person, does not give a lot of hope to the child whom wants their parent to stay together. Kids should not have to go through anything like this at such a young age, but our main stream media likes to focus on the bad things, instead of healthy relationships. If I were you I would lead him to a great church, that had groups which focus is on the building of healthy relationships.
What's the rush? You said that you like him and that you are still dating. How much more serious are you wanting to get? A label won't make things any more serious, only time can. If you really like him, don't press him during this time. If you do press the issue he may see that as selfishness on your part and call things off.
OK, so you want more and he isn't ready ??? maybe he isn't that into you?? even though you like him to be ! move on and treat your self with respect.....
he has told u the truth about your situation...either accept that he doesn't want anything else or move on--do not expect it to change..
i say go with the flow





he just told you he can't be exclusive with you right now....so don't kill yourself trying to prove how worthy you are





continue to be cool and date him....but if the opportunity comes along for you have dates with other ppl then i say take them.....just have fun being single and casually dating





if it's meant to be with this guy and you stay cool and don't force him into anything then he just may come around when he is ready





and you have respect that he told you so upfront about his feelings and situation....he could have very well felt a little pressured and then dissappointed you when he didn't follow thru





good luck
From what I read a couple of Key words are ';right now';. Do you think the guy and the relationship are worth giving some time? If you don't it's not likely that things would last anyway.
If hes worth it, stick around, even if its not in a girlfriend capacity, just as a friend. No matter how old you are, when parents divorce its always a shocker and heart breaking. Stick around, give it a try.